Yelling Coaches/ Yelling Parents

[Anonymous]

Is this normal? Went to watch my nephew play in a game this weekend and between the coach yelling instructions and the parents yelling at the ref and their own kids, how can these poor 10 year olds handle it?

[Anonymous]

2 parents were ejected to day from a U15 youth soccer match. They were unhappy with the calls and stepped on the field to yell at the ref, dropping F-bombs at a youth soccer match.

The boys on the field, for both teams, handled themselves much better than the parents.

[Anonymous]

It is not normal, and yet, parents do it all the time. Yell at their kids, yell at the referees, yell at the other parents. Civility is dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:2 parents were ejected to day from a U15 youth soccer match. They were unhappy with the calls and stepped on the field to yell at the ref, dropping F-bombs at a youth soccer match.

The boys on the field, for both teams, handled themselves much better than the parents.

Where was this? Tournament?

[Anonymous]

I saw a ref yesterday tell a coach off mid game. He told he he didn’t want to listen to her putting the kids down. She was welcome to shout instructions or encouragement, but needed to stop all the negative feedback. I thought it was awesome. The kids were about 10-11.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not normal, and yet, parents do it all the time. Yell at their kids, yell at the referees, yell at the other parents. Civility is dead.

If it happens "all the time" then I think, by definition, that means it's "normal". Not a good thing, but normal.

[Anonymous]

This 12 year old girl made a not-so-great punt after the coach was yelling at her to hurry up. After the punt, the coach yelled at her again. The girl looked over at him and said..."If you want me to take my time, don't tell me to hurry up!" She was so loud. She shut him up. It was great. : )

[Anonymous]

Our coach got a yellow card yesterday because of our parents yelling at players and refs. I've tried several times to tell the parents to cool it, but ultimately I cannot force them and the coach has asked a few times for them to just enjoy and not yell. It has become youth sports culture unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Parents and coaches yelling at the kids while they're playing is not normal and it is not acceptable. If your team does this you need to either try to address it or find another team. While it is not normal or healthy, it is sadly all too common in youth sports in this country.

This essay says it pretty nicely, if you imagine us teaching our children any other childhood activity the way we teach them sports you can see the absolute absurdity of our approach to youth sports.

Mike Woitalla "Time for a Children's Revolt" from Youth Soccer Fun
http://www.youthsoccerfun.com/2007/07/time_for_a_childrens_revolt.html

Imagine looming over your child coloring and screaming at them for going out of the lines. Ridiculous, right? So why would you do that at a soccer game? Why should you allow their coach to do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not normal, and yet, parents do it all the time. Yell at their kids, yell at the referees, yell at the other parents. Civility is dead.

Quote of the year. It is not normal but parents do it all of the time. Uh, that would make it normal. Btw, basketball and baseball, etc. parents are just as bad. Soccer parents do not have a monopoly on this standard behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents and coaches yelling at the kids while they're playing is not normal and it is not acceptable. If your team does this you need to either try to address it or find another team. While it is not normal or healthy, it is sadly all too common in youth sports in this country.

This essay says it pretty nicely, if you imagine us teaching our children any other childhood activity the way we teach them sports you can see the absolute absurdity of our approach to youth sports.

Mike Woitalla "Time for a Children's Revolt" from Youth Soccer Fun
http://www.youthsoccerfun.com/2007/07/time_for_a_childrens_revolt.html

Imagine looming over your child coloring and screaming at them for going out of the lines. Ridiculous, right? So why would you do that at a soccer game? Why should you allow their coach to do that?

Dumb analogy. Teachers and parents do correct their kids but they do not have to yell because of the quiet classroom, indoor setting. You ever hear a teacher yell at a kid at recess? Yes. Get it? I am not excusing the behavior but the general analogy is poor. However, coaches having a classroom session every week would be a good idea. There is not enough of the cerebral part of the game taught to kids in a quiet calm setting where they can focus.

[Anonymous]

When will coaches realize yelling doesn't work at any age group. Watch the kids shut down and make more mistakes as soon as the yelling begins.

[Anonymous]

It’s normal. My kid plays rec and everyone yells, but it’s mostly positive reinforcement or instructions. Some parents get ugly and us other parents try to shut them down. Being loud and yelling in general is part of soccer.

[Anonymous]

Get on the bag!
https://youtu.be/junIx1T8A5I

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents and coaches yelling at the kids while they're playing is not normal and it is not acceptable. If your team does this you need to either try to address it or find another team. While it is not normal or healthy, it is sadly all too common in youth sports in this country.

This essay says it pretty nicely, if you imagine us teaching our children any other childhood activity the way we teach them sports you can see the absolute absurdity of our approach to youth sports.

Mike Woitalla "Time for a Children's Revolt" from Youth Soccer Fun
http://www.youthsoccerfun.com/2007/07/time_for_a_childrens_revolt.html

Imagine looming over your child coloring and screaming at them for going out of the lines. Ridiculous, right? So why would you do that at a soccer game? Why should you allow their coach to do that?

Um, you just said it was normal because you said it was common....Not acceptable, but it is indeed normal.