Yelling Coaches/ Yelling Parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

If I did my job as poorly as some refs, I wouldn’t get screamed at, I’d simply get fired. There really is no recourse against poor referees because they are so in demand. So despite the ability to submit a formal report, nothing will happen.

Also, to the tennis/golf parent above that says don’t yell anything, even positive things, please go away to fantasy land. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

Agreed. I wasn’t implying I do the interfering. Our Coach is protective of his players and he does it.

[Anonymous]

It's a game. That children are playing for fun. If the referee makes a mistake, so what? He's not launching nukes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a game. That children are playing for fun. If the referee makes a mistake, so what? He's not launching nukes.

It's not when the ref makes A mistake. It's when there is a pattern of repetitive (dangerous) fouls that are not called. Ref's #1 responsibility is to keep the players safe. That's more important than calling offside or any other judgment call. When your DS is injured because of illegal play that had been happening all game and was allowed to continue -- not just a random situation -- you will feel differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

If I did my job as poorly as some refs, I wouldn’t get screamed at, I’d simply get fired. There really is no recourse against poor referees because they are so in demand. So despite the ability to submit a formal report, nothing will happen.

Also, to the tennis/golf parent above that says don’t yell anything, even positive things, please go away to fantasy land. Thanks.

Why are they so in demand? Because there are fewer of them. Why? Because they get yelled at by idiot parents. You are part of why you have the problem. If you see something wrong, tell the coach and let the coach do their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

If I did my job as poorly as some refs, I wouldn’t get screamed at, I’d simply get fired. There really is no recourse against poor referees because they are so in demand. So despite the ability to submit a formal report, nothing will happen.

Also, to the tennis/golf parent above that says don’t yell anything, even positive things, please go away to fantasy land. Thanks.

There is a difference between yelling at versus yelling to a ref. You can yell bad call, offsides, etc without being a jerk, when you verbally attack a ref is where you have crossed the line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's a game. That children are playing for fun. If the referee makes a mistake, so what? He's not launching nukes.

It's not when the ref makes A mistake. It's when there is a pattern of repetitive (dangerous) fouls that are not called. Ref's #1 responsibility is to keep the players safe. That's more important than calling offside or any other judgment call. When your DS is injured because of illegal play that had been happening all game and was allowed to continue -- not just a random situation -- you will feel differently.

Yep. My kid is missing a tournament with a bad injury because of an illegal foul. The player was red carded, but he had been pulling crap the entire game —as had others on that team.

I have sympathy for refs. There is a serious shortage of them in the area. Older kids should really get the more experienced ones because the injuries are much worse than for little kids. They are the size of men.

[Anonymous]

I do not care for the yelling parents or yelling coaches
Anything negative yelled or not is negative

Positive encouragement I have no issue with except celebrating each goal like World Cup USWNT in a rout

A good ref is impervious to yelling. A bad red is aff Fred and that is partly why people yell because it does affect the calls of a bad unconfident ref.

Safety is the priority. No ref should have issue with a request spoken or yelled tomprotect the players.

The game is becoming snowflaky. And policed bynclibs who don’t want to evaluate refs etc and seek simplest solution

[Anonymous]

Parents should never be yelling. I am fine with coaches yelling instructions or direction. That's what they're paid to do, in part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

If I did my job as poorly as some refs, I wouldn’t get screamed at, I’d simply get fired. There really is no recourse against poor referees because they are so in demand. So despite the ability to submit a formal report, nothing will happen.

Also, to the tennis/golf parent above that says don’t yell anything, even positive things, please go away to fantasy land. Thanks.

There is a difference between yelling at versus yelling to a ref. You can yell bad call, offsides, etc without being a jerk, when you verbally attack a ref is where you have crossed the line.

What? No! You shouldn’t be yelling AT or TO the ref! WTF?!?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents should never be yelling. I am fine with coaches yelling instructions or direction. That's what they're paid to do, in part.

says who?

why can't a parent yell?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

If I did my job as poorly as some refs, I wouldn’t get screamed at, I’d simply get fired. There really is no recourse against poor referees because they are so in demand. So despite the ability to submit a formal report, nothing will happen.

Also, to the tennis/golf parent above that says don’t yell anything, even positive things, please go away to fantasy land. Thanks.

There is a difference between yelling at versus yelling to a ref. You can yell bad call, offsides, etc without being a jerk, when you verbally attack a ref is where you have crossed the line.

What? No! You shouldn’t be yelling AT or TO the ref! WTF?!?!

LOL....are you an idiot. I don't same a damn thing during games, but how are you not able to cheer, scream, yell, as long as it's not an attack. Get over yourself snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Again, it seems some just have a problem with having volume in your voice as a concept, rather than focusing on the content that’s being articulated. Join a jazz club.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are wrong. Yelling at a referee is never okay. Would you like to go to work and get screamed at? It's the coaches responsibility to deal with the referee who is not doing their job properly, not yours. Not ever.

If I did my job as poorly as some refs, I wouldn’t get screamed at, I’d simply get fired. There really is no recourse against poor referees because they are so in demand. So despite the ability to submit a formal report, nothing will happen.

Also, to the tennis/golf parent above that says don’t yell anything, even positive things, please go away to fantasy land. Thanks.

There is a difference between yelling at versus yelling to a ref. You can yell bad call, offsides, etc without being a jerk, when you verbally attack a ref is where you have crossed the line.

What? No! You shouldn’t be yelling AT or TO the ref! WTF?!?!

LOL....are you an idiot. I don't same a damn thing during games, but how are you not able to cheer, scream, yell, as long as it's not an attack. Get over yourself snowflake.

Can we just stop using the term snowflake. Be more creative. It is old, tired, worn out.

[Anonymous]

Again, I strongly encourage everyone to chat among yourselves. Cheer a goal or good save briefly. But don’t say anything to players, refs or coaches during the game. Try it out. You will be surprised how much better the games get if you relax. I figure I have watched my kids play in a 1000 games. A few “big games” and the vast majority meaning nothing. A kid playing youth soccer now is probably in for 30 or so games a year. That’s a couple hundred by the time they are 13. Add in siblings and you could be watching hundreds of games very easily.

So - take it easy. Relax. Don’t yell. Talk to parents on the side line. Talk to the other teams parents. It makes everything way more enjoyable and your kid will like it better too. Really. Try it out.

Finally I know one dad pretty well. He always fretted about calls, where he daughter was playing, how she was doing in the game. I coached his daughter in kindergarten soccer. Over the years they played on some club teams together and they played against each other in college a couple of times. By u11 or so when Dad made it to a game he always brought a dog (various ones over the years). They would go for walks and watch the game from a distance. He said he never could watch from the side or the stands without yelling so he came to love watching from a bit of a distance. You do what works.

As an aside: his daughter was the same age as my kid but a year ahead in school. She was on my kid’s kindergarten team though, and years later she had graduated from college but had come back to visit friends and happened to be at my daughter’s last college game - my kid’s team was playing her school. I sent her dad a picture that we took after the game of the two. It was very cool.