Wife is upset that I'm not reacting strongly enough to the Kavanaugh hearings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband told me last night that Dr. Ford is mid-remembering what happened to her. He also told me that what happened to Louis CK is unfair. I am very upset.

I bet if you told your DH during an argument that he was misremembering something, he'd get mad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband told me last night that Dr. Ford is mid-remembering what happened to her. He also told me that what happened to Louis CK is unfair. I am very upset.

Christ. I'm sorry. I would have a hard time staying with someone who believed that. What did you do? Are you ok?

[Anonymous]

She lashed out at you. I imagine there are thousands of DWs lashing out at their DHs this week over feelings we normally control but just.can't.right.now.

You know why she's upset. Comfort her, ask what you can do. She knows you're safe to let these ugly feelings out on. And, frankly, that's your job right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband told me last night that Dr. Ford is mid-remembering what happened to her. He also told me that what happened to Louis CK is unfair. I am very upset.

What does he think "happened to" Louis CK?

I could not live with a man who said such things to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could try a little empathy:

You're right. I can't know what it's like to be a woman.
I'm sorry for all the negative things you've experienced.
I've never gone through that, but I'm hear to listen.
Do you want to make plans with friends this weekend, and I'll watch the kids.
I can see that this is intense for you, how can I support you.

OP’s DW could try a little sympathy..

You know, I realize you agree that it’s deplorable that happens to this woman.
I also know that you may not be aware what it’s like living as a woman facing the threat of sexual assault.
Let me share with you how you feel so that you truly understand.
I hope you now understand why I feel so strongly about this.
I am thankful how you love and support me.

Oh, FFS. It isn't her job to educate him in a way that makes him feel comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She lashed out at you. I imagine there are thousands of DWs lashing out at their DHs this week over feelings we normally control but just.can't.right.now.

You know why she's upset. Comfort her, ask what you can do. She knows you're safe to let these ugly feelings out on. And, frankly, that's your job right now.

LOL you need a reality check.

[Anonymous]

I’m married to a Kavanaugh and trump supporter and can’t stand him.

[Anonymous]

This one is easy.

Just stop discussing politics.
Now.

If she cannot do this, then she obviously has some deep-rooted emotional issues that she needs to talk out w/a professional therapist.

No way should all this arguing be going on over politics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This one is easy.

Just stop discussing politics.
Now.

If she cannot do this, then she obviously has some deep-rooted emotional issues that she needs to talk out w/a professional therapist.

No way should all this arguing be going on over politics.

You sound like a man.

[Anonymous]

Y'all freak out over the simplest stuff.
I swear I don't know how some of you made it down the aisle as worrisome and panic-stricken over every little thing you seem to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m married to a Kavanaugh and trump supporter and can’t stand him.

I'm sorry.. I just couldn't imagine right now what that would be like, and I say this as a former R.

Obviously, a lot of men sympathize more with K because they are afraid that one day they could be accused of this too, which let's face it, it does happen. I have both a DD and DS, and I'm fearful both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This one is easy.

Just stop discussing politics.
Now.

If she cannot do this, then she obviously has some deep-rooted emotional issues that she needs to talk out w/a professional therapist.

No way should all this arguing be going on over politics.

You sound like a man.

PP sounds like a man because...making too much sense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This one is easy.

Just stop discussing politics.
Now.

If she cannot do this, then she obviously has some deep-rooted emotional issues that she needs to talk out w/a professional therapist.

No way should all this arguing be going on over politics.

This isn't just about politics for a lot of women. I think that's why some of you men don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This one is easy.

Just stop discussing politics.
Now.

If she cannot do this, then she obviously has some deep-rooted emotional issues that she needs to talk out w/a professional therapist.

No way should all this arguing be going on over politics.

You sound like a man.

PP sounds like a man because...making too much sense?

DP.. no .. because that PP doesn't get it.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP...I feel like that could easily have happened at my house as well. We women are all just a bit tender right now and likely taking it out on the closest man around us (DHs). Try to let it go for now...She will calm down. Right now I just want to be around people who are as disgusted and appalled as I am about all this... and, largely, that's going to be women. Instead of beating up on my poor DH, I scheduled a moms night out tonight. You could nice suggest she do something similar.