To non-white parents with kids at mostly white schools

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the honest responses. I'm not trying to shield my children from racism in my desire for them to have diversity around them. Really far from it. It will happen anywhere and that's okay. I've actually already thought about how I'm going to respond to them when they encounter their first experience with it and come to me. I'm still not sure what i'm going to say, and I guess it will depend on how old they are when it happens. What I want is for them not to be surrounded by all white kids that are virtually all the same. I want them to be exposed to different ideas and different points of view and benefit from peers who can share different experiences. This is the power of having a diverse student body. And yes, I don't want him to be the only kid that looks like him. That's isolating too.

And to those who mentioned our middle school is Pyle -- this is news to me. Our address is zoned for Westland as our middle school, so unless that's wrong or we got rezoned since we purchased the house that's where we're bound for. After these responses though I'm going to double check. Either way, they both seem pretty non-diverse.

Hi OP, the reason its so easy to point out this discrepancy is because the cluster of Whitman has only one middle school which is Pyle and all the kids go to Whitman. Likewise, currently the BCC cluster has only one middle school which is Westland and the entire population goes to BCC.

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

This post just made me reconsider (a black woman) moving to a W school cluster or Olney with my kids. Thanks for this!

To both of you PPs - do you think that having your kids around other Black kids is going to shelter them from ignorance and prejudice? That's naive and ridiculous. There are a$$holes of every color.

I'm one of the biracial posters. Some of the most obnoxious comments come from my Black family members. Comments about the Asian women at the nail salon, for example. Do you ever listen to the Irban radio stations in the morning? No shortage of obnoxious race-based comments.

Teach your kids not to let the opinions of others define them. And teach them to surround themselves with positive people, regardless of color/race/religion.

Your comment about Olney says more about your own prejudices than it does about anything else. FTR, my sister lives in olney and it has been wonderful for her family.

I am the first poster you quoted. No, I am not naive - seriously, you have no idea about me. I know my daughter will experience racism. But I also know she has a lot more black friends, more pride in who she is, and is more comfortable in her skin than I ever was. She doesn't have any ideas that there is only one way to be black.
I am sorry that you have black family members who are racist. I have biracial relatives, and I can't recall hearing my family make racist comments about them or anyone else. My post wasn't a "white people are all bad and racist" post. There are jerks of every color. But I am not sure what that has to do with my description of my lived experience as a child surrounded by white families.
I don't listen to "urban radio," so I have no idea what is discussed.

Not pp, you are responding to... it's not really your own family I so or be concerned about. It's more so the broader community. But if you are black and don't see nonstop racial marginalization, commentary, etc in the black community you are not either naive or delusional. And I say that sympathizing completely with the historical background for why I t happens but it must stop.

I am really trying to understand what you are saying, how it relates to my experience and that of my child, and why you are showing such animosity towards me (I am naïve, delusional, etc).
I shared my experiences as a kid in all white environments, and that I chose something different for my child, so have her in a more diverse environment. The response is that I am naïve, and black people are prejudiced.
I shared that my daughter has higher self-esteem and a more black friends than I had. We don't tolerate or spend time with people (of any race) who say racist things. Your response is that I am delusional if I don't think black people are prejudiced. I am not sure exactly what you are referring to as "nonstop racial marginalization." Are you talking about how biracial people are treated? about how you think the black community treats other races?
Are you one of those people who equates the word "diverse" with black? I was pretty clear that I meant a range of things when I said "diversity." DD's school has no race in the majority. She has friends who are black, white, Asian, Latino, multiracial. In fact, at her last school, 6% of the student body was multiracial. Among her black friends and classmates, there are African americans, Jamaicans, Ethiopians, Nigerians. Her closest white friends were either born in another country, or have parents who are immigrants.
Our immediate family is black, but our extended family and our social circle contain many people of different races. I am neither naïve nor delusional when I say that our lives do not include a bunch of black folks sitting around trashing other races. Are there, "a$$holes of every color"? Of course. Some black people are prejudiced, just as some white people are. But I don't see why that leads to criticism of our wanting our child to have a more diverse childhood experience, and not feel the isolation that I felt growing up.

No animosity... I think it's great you found a school you love. My main gripe here is against the type of thinking that would cause a parent to not consider a "whiter" school because of racism when there are similar and often worse scenarios in non-white schools. In terms of self esteem, I went to a diverse school and my D.C. goes to a primary white school and is a million times more self assured than me but I wouldn't use that as evidence of anything.

In terms of diversity, I'm often confused by what people mean as it's often used to mean non-white but others use it to mean a perfect balance of all groups, while others state it's representative of current US group percentages. When I speak of animosity against others in non-white schools I'm speaking of any and everyone as a target. Biracial, whites Asians hispanics, darkskinned, lightskinned, Central American vs Caribbean latinos. You name it. Now again I wasn't singling you out specifically but again if anyone don't realize how fundamentally different the way race is talked about the in diverse schools you are either completely ignorant of the reality or you think it's cute and acceptable.

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Sorry for the grammar but wanted to be add that it would be helpful to stop using diversity and actually state specifically what one means when discussing these issues due to the obvious inconsistency.

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

This post just made me reconsider (a black woman) moving to a W school cluster or Olney with my kids. Thanks for this!

Really?!? You think that n diverse schools they don't make racist comments, discriminate, and marginalize.... I attended both virtually all white schools and the complete opposite and by far the most despicable comments/incidents were in the more "diverse" school. The aforementioned only holds if you think it's okay or more comfortable for minorities to say it.

Is this the same troll that comments on all of these types of threads?
Would it make you feel better if we gave you a group hug and told you that white lives matter?

#missmewiththewhitetears

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with 16:10.

Looking for 'diverse' schools doesn't mean there will be no racial animosity. You fill find plenty.

Help your kids find kind, supportive friends (of any race) and don't worry about it.

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

Sorry that happened PP, but my white DS just attended a formal with an AA girl. She would not post their pictures on social media because she was afraid of the reaction of her own grandmother. Diversity in school doesn't mean that kids won't experience racism. Luckily, each generation changes; hence the number of bi-racial kids...

NP,
yes -- POC know that so-called diversity does not mean that folks will create shangri-la. But why do white folk feel it necessary to tell POC how that POC will experience life? It's about peer group, seeing other positive role models of people that look like you. Seeing ALL KINDS OF people of color. It's not about creating the perfect experience -- it's about creating an experience that looks like the world. And if you racism just goes away because a new generation is born...you have not been paying attention.
Racism is not solely about dating and getting called out of your name.
It's about micro-aggressions
It's about being left out as role models
It's about power structure
It's about privilege
SMH

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

Sorry that happened PP, but my white DS just attended a formal with an AA girl. She would not post their pictures on social media because she was afraid of the reaction of her own grandmother. Diversity in school doesn't mean that kids won't experience racism. Luckily, each generation changes; hence the number of bi-racial kids...

NP,
yes -- POC know that so-called diversity does not mean that folks will create shangri-la. But why do white folk feel it necessary to tell POC how that POC will experience life? It's about peer group, seeing other positive role models of people that look like you. Seeing ALL KINDS OF people of color. It's not about creating the perfect experience -- it's about creating an experience that looks like the world. And if you racism just goes away because a new generation is born...you have not been paying attention.
Racism is not solely about dating and getting called out of your name.
It's about micro-aggressions
It's about being left out as role models
It's about power structure
It's about privilege
SMH

Sorry but I'm not white and I'm one of two non-whites arguing these points

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

Sorry that happened PP, but my white DS just attended a formal with an AA girl. She would not post their pictures on social media because she was afraid of the reaction of her own grandmother. Diversity in school doesn't mean that kids won't experience racism. Luckily, each generation changes; hence the number of bi-racial kids...

NP,
yes -- POC know that so-called diversity does not mean that folks will create shangri-la. But why do white folk feel it necessary to tell POC how that POC will experience life? It's about peer group, seeing other positive role models of people that look like you. Seeing ALL KINDS OF people of color. It's not about creating the perfect experience -- it's about creating an experience that looks like the world. And if you racism just goes away because a new generation is born...you have not been paying attention.
Racism is not solely about dating and getting called out of your name.
It's about micro-aggressions
It's about being left out as role models
It's about power structure
It's about privilege
SMH

Sorry but I'm not white and I'm one of two non-whites arguing these points

You are non-white with a white son dating an AA girl??
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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

Sorry that happened PP, but my white DS just attended a formal with an AA girl. She would not post their pictures on social media because she was afraid of the reaction of her own grandmother. Diversity in school doesn't mean that kids won't experience racism. Luckily, each generation changes; hence the number of bi-racial kids...

NP,
yes -- POC know that so-called diversity does not mean that folks will create shangri-la. But why do white folk feel it necessary to tell POC how that POC will experience life? It's about peer group, seeing other positive role models of people that look like you. Seeing ALL KINDS OF people of color. It's not about creating the perfect experience -- it's about creating an experience that looks like the world. And if you racism just goes away because a new generation is born...you have not been paying attention.
Racism is not solely about dating and getting called out of your name.
It's about micro-aggressions
It's about being left out as role models
It's about power structure
It's about privilege
SMH

Sorry but I'm not white and I'm one of two non-whites arguing these points

You are non-white with a white son dating an AA girl??
??

I don't have a son, my kids are still in elementary actually. Must be confusing me with another poster.

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

This post just made me reconsider (a black woman) moving to a W school cluster or Olney with my kids. Thanks for this!

Agree with 2 previous PPs. Had the 'only' experience as a kid, through middle school, really. Not much better in HS. Did lots of research, we now live in SS

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Anonymous wrote:We have bi-racial kids and are zoned for Bannockburn/Westland/Whitman. These are all great schools, and I'm glad to have access to them, but I'm concerned about the lack of diversity. For those of you with non-white kids at these or similar schools, how do you compensate? We have friends of all races and socioeconomic backgrounds that we see periodically (most who have kids and live in DC where we used to live or further out), but it seems like school is where kids form their core peer group and it's obviously where they spend most of their time.

Many thanks!

Are your kids adopted? I only ask, because if you are an interracial couple, I would think that you would have access to the community, family, friends, etc of the non-white partner.
You don't specify what the two races are of the biracial kids. But, you could sign up for soccer, scouts, the YMCA in an area that would have more of the diversity you seek - Takoma Park, Silver Spring, Rockville, DC, etc.

I'd like more exposure than just family. And as I said, we have a diverse group of friends, but I'm wondering if that's enough given that children's core peer groups are usually in school with them.

You never know what is going to happen in the future. We are black, and DD attends a very diverse school (race, nationality, SES). She has a diverse group of friends at school, but spends most of her time out of school with kids involved in her chosen extracurricular activity. That is a somewhat diverse group, but definitely more white than her school friends.
Having said that, I grew up as often the only black girl in many situations. I had a lot of friends, but there were many times that I felt isolated. Those friends, and often their parents or siblings, would make ignorant and/or racist comments to me, thinking they were funny. One friend wasn't allowed to come to my house. My first two boyfriends couldn't tell their racist fathers about me. I did not share most of these things with my parents. I just endured them. But, my experiences growing up are a major reason why we chose a diverse area to raise out daughter.

This post just made me reconsider (a black woman) moving to a W school cluster or Olney with my kids. Thanks for this!

Really?!? You think that n diverse schools they don't make racist comments, discriminate, and marginalize.... I attended both virtually all white schools and the complete opposite and by far the most despicable comments/incidents were in the more "diverse" school. The aforementioned only holds if you think it's okay or more comfortable for minorities to say it.

Is this the same troll that comments on all of these types of threads?
Would it make you feel better if we gave you a group hug and told you that white lives matter?

#missmewiththewhitetears

That was no troll, it was a legit remark and I +1 them, so they are not a alone in their viewpoint. If you think racial remarks are not made at diverse school or schools with a majority of minorities, you are living in a dream world where you are a victim of some big racial conspiracy and all comments come from one poster just to peeve you. The comments were made by at least 5 or 6 parents of biracial kids, including me.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with 16:10.

Looking for 'diverse' schools doesn't mean there will be no racial animosity. You fill find plenty.

Help your kids find kind, supportive friends (of any race) and don't worry about it.

I'm the PP who you're responding to. What exactly in the post you quoted are you rolling your eyes at? Finding supportive friends?

Another biracial poster who agrees that schools with 'diversity' don't shelter you from people with racial animosity.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with 16:10.

Looking for 'diverse' schools doesn't mean there will be no racial animosity. You fill find plenty.

Help your kids find kind, supportive friends (of any race) and don't worry about it.

I'm the PP who you're responding to. What exactly in the post you quoted are you rolling your eyes at? Finding supportive friends?

Another biracial poster who agrees that schools with 'diversity' don't shelter you from people with racial animosity.

And no one is saying that, no matter how many times you try to make the conversation about that.
Racial diversity ensures that your child does not feel isolated as the only one who is different.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with 16:10.

Looking for 'diverse' schools doesn't mean there will be no racial animosity. You fill find plenty.

Help your kids find kind, supportive friends (of any race) and don't worry about it.

I'm the PP who you're responding to. What exactly in the post you quoted are you rolling your eyes at? Finding supportive friends?

Another biracial poster who agrees that schools with 'diversity' don't shelter you from people with racial animosity.

And no one is saying that, no matter how many times you try to make the conversation about that.
Racial diversity ensures that your child does not feel isolated as the only one who is different.

That is exactly the point. Every kid is different. Just because another student has the same skin color as you, doesn't mean that he is going to be a good friend.

What am I trying to make the conversation about? The conversation is about whether having other kids of the same skin color at your school means that you will have a 'better' experience.

I absolutely do not want my kid choosing friends based on whether the kid looks the same as her. What is the point of that? Being in a 'diverse' school doesn't make my kid immune to feelings of isolation.

Obviously your view on this differs, and that's fine. We all have different experiences. But that does not make my experiences less valid.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with 16:10.

Looking for 'diverse' schools doesn't mean there will be no racial animosity. You fill find plenty.

Help your kids find kind, supportive friends (of any race) and don't worry about it.

I'm the PP who you're responding to. What exactly in the post you quoted are you rolling your eyes at? Finding supportive friends?

Another biracial poster who agrees that schools with 'diversity' don't shelter you from people with racial animosity.

And no one is saying that, no matter how many times you try to make the conversation about that.
Racial diversity ensures that your child does not feel isolated as the only one who is different.

That is exactly the point. Every kid is different. Just because another student has the same skin color as you, doesn't mean that he is going to be a good friend.

What am I trying to make the conversation about? The conversation is about whether having other kids of the same skin color at your school means that you will have a 'better' experience.

I absolutely do not want my kid choosing friends based on whether the kid looks the same as her. What is the point of that? Being in a 'diverse' school doesn't make my kid immune to feelings of isolation.

Obviously your view on this differs, and that's fine. We all have different experiences. But that does not make my experiences less valid.

Gosh, I wish there were more people like you in the world! +1000