Weigh in on this parenting diagreement

[Anonymous]

Would you like to have him talk to my father?

I have heard the tale my whole life about how he, as the first family member to go to college, had to find a ride there and could only find a carpool with a guy that had a 7 30 am class, and then a ride home with a guy who had a night class that ended at 8 pm.

So my father was at the local university 13 hours a day, which he used to find a job in the library in addition to studying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

Um, the two hours at school could and should be spent studying.

OP is saying that the kid won't do that unless she's standing over him. That's the definition of helicoptering. As is making a 30 mile trip just so your snowflake doesn't have to fill two hours on his own.

DH is teaching the kid discipline and the fine art of being productive without someone standing over you. OP is teaching the kid that he's the center of the universe and will never have to endure a moment of discomfort or boredom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

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THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.

That's right! Turn your son into a pampered princess because that's how you want to be treated!

Take him out for a pedicure and some wine, too. After all, it's how you would like to be treated, right? No need to think about his development as a person or learning how to deal with less-than-desirable circumstances or overcome obstacles when we can just be caving in to hedonism all the time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you like to have him talk to my father?

I have heard the tale my whole life about how he, as the first family member to go to college, had to find a ride there and could only find a carpool with a guy that had a 7 30 am class, and then a ride home with a guy who had a night class that ended at 8 pm.

So my father was at the local university 13 hours a day, which he used to find a job in the library in addition to studying.

Did he walk 10 miles uphill through the snow both ways to school as well? What the hell does this even mean? Do you think your father would have done that if he had another choice? So what is your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

Are you seriously trying to compare an elderly person who can't wait and is physically dependent on other people for their most basic needs to a healthy 16 year old boy managing his time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

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THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.

That's right! Turn your son into a pampered princess because that's how you want to be treated!

Take him out for a pedicure and some wine, too. After all, it's how you would like to be treated, right? No need to think about his development as a person or learning how to deal with less-than-desirable circumstances or overcome obstacles when we can just be caving in to hedonism all the time!

So Mom should sit at home while her son is waiting for 3 hour for class to start?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you like to have him talk to my father?

I have heard the tale my whole life about how he, as the first family member to go to college, had to find a ride there and could only find a carpool with a guy that had a 7 30 am class, and then a ride home with a guy who had a night class that ended at 8 pm.

So my father was at the local university 13 hours a day, which he used to find a job in the library in addition to studying.

Did he walk 10 miles uphill through the snow both ways to school as well? What the hell does this even mean? Do you think your father would have done that if he had another choice? So what is your point?

I'm sorry you are having difficulty keeping up with this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are a helicopter parent.

Two drop offs? Wow.

Driving your kid to school makes you a helicopter parent? I don't think so.

Driving your kid separately so he doesn't have to spend a bit of extra time at school because "OH NO" he is to special and needs to be home with mommy.

Yeah, helicopter.

You sound bitter and angry. Jealous your job is not flexible? Or that you don't prioitize your children?

I'm not PP, but I personally have a flexible, PT telecommute job and lots of time with my kids, and I think OP sounds ridiculous.

But hey, she can do what she wants -- someday my kids will be competing with hers for careers and promotions, and I'll know mine are resourceful and resilient and her will probably be living in her basement. So it's win-win, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you like to have him talk to my father?

I have heard the tale my whole life about how he, as the first family member to go to college, had to find a ride there and could only find a carpool with a guy that had a 7 30 am class, and then a ride home with a guy who had a night class that ended at 8 pm.

So my father was at the local university 13 hours a day, which he used to find a job in the library in addition to studying.

Your dad sounds annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

.

THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.

That's right! Turn your son into a pampered princess because that's how you want to be treated!

Take him out for a pedicure and some wine, too. After all, it's how you would like to be treated, right? No need to think about his development as a person or learning how to deal with less-than-desirable circumstances or overcome obstacles when we can just be caving in to hedonism all the time!

So Mom should sit at home while her son is waiting for 3 hour for class to start?

NO DUH. I'm saying she should treat him like a 50-year-old woman based on PP's advice. Get some skinny margs, get highlights, and catch up on the town gossip in the mornings. Don't you listen?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

.

THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.

That's right! Turn your son into a pampered princess because that's how you want to be treated!

Take him out for a pedicure and some wine, too. After all, it's how you would like to be treated, right? No need to think about his development as a person or learning how to deal with less-than-desirable circumstances or overcome obstacles when we can just be caving in to hedonism all the time!

How about the other option, that behaving as a considerate person towards your children, sets the example for them to be considerate towards others. And what development are you talking about anyway? Do you actually think that making a teen wait at school is character building? You sound like a very nasty person. I hope they make you wait at the nursing home ALL DAY because that's the way you taught your children to treat people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

Are you seriously trying to compare an elderly person who can't wait and is physically dependent on other people for their most basic needs to a healthy 16 year old boy managing his time?

It's about being kind to all family members and helping make life easier when able.
I am not the PP you replied to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

.

THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.

That's right! Turn your son into a pampered princess because that's how you want to be treated!

Take him out for a pedicure and some wine, too. After all, it's how you would like to be treated, right? No need to think about his development as a person or learning how to deal with less-than-desirable circumstances or overcome obstacles when we can just be caving in to hedonism all the time!

How about the other option, that behaving as a considerate person towards your children, sets the example for them to be considerate towards others. And what development are you talking about anyway? Do you actually think that making a teen wait at school is character building? You sound like a very nasty person. I hope they make you wait at the nursing home ALL DAY because that's the way you taught your children to treat people.

Aw, you are lonely and you need to attack people on the internet to feel better, huh? That's sad.

Spoiling your kids doesn't make them act considerate to others. It makes them act like entitled douchebags. Probably yours are like this and that's why you're so sad and bitter. I'm sorry they don't respect you, but it looks like it's for the right reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

Are you seriously trying to compare an elderly person who can't wait and is physically dependent on other people for their most basic needs to a healthy 16 year old boy managing his time?

It's about being kind to all family members and helping make life easier when able.
I am not the PP you replied to.

What would be really kind is if you just stopped expected him to go to school at all. I mean, it's a lot of work and I'm sure if you asked him, he'd agree that he'd be happier not to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that you have to consider how you would like to be treated and treat your children that way.

So many times people act like tweens and teens are from a different planet. If it were you being dropped off so early would you like it? When you are in the nursing home, will you mind waiting in the foyer to be picked up (in your wheelchair) for over 2 hours to suit someone else?

What exactly is it that you husband is trying to teach your son? That he better get used to getting the short stick in the family? I just don't get these other parent's comments.

.

THANK YOU!!!!
That's how I view it, I would hate to wait around like that.

That's right! Turn your son into a pampered princess because that's how you want to be treated!

Take him out for a pedicure and some wine, too. After all, it's how you would like to be treated, right? No need to think about his development as a person or learning how to deal with less-than-desirable circumstances or overcome obstacles when we can just be caving in to hedonism all the time!

How about the other option, that behaving as a considerate person towards your children, sets the example for them to be considerate towards others. And what development are you talking about anyway? Do you actually think that making a teen wait at school is character building? You sound like a very nasty person. I hope they make you wait at the nursing home ALL DAY because that's the way you taught your children to treat people.

Aw, you are lonely and you need to attack people on the internet to feel better, huh? That's sad.

Spoiling your kids doesn't make them act considerate to others. It makes them act like entitled douchebags. Probably yours are like this and that's why you're so sad and bitter. I'm sorry they don't respect you, but it looks like it's for the right reasons.

You are nasty.