Weigh in on this parenting diagreement

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

Actually, this is typical. You are again sending him the message that he is too incompetent and untrustworthy, and he'd better just let mommy take care of it.

[Anonymous]

I have three kids, including two boys the same age as yours. I would tell my son this. I will take you when I can, but you should make plans about how you are going to spend the time waiting on those days when your father drops you off early, which likely will be most of the time. I would also tell them a few days in advance when I will be taking him so he saves homework or makes some plans for how he will spend his time. If there is a Starbucks or something nearby, I would probably also give him enough money for a small drink. Thing is, both of my boys would tell me that it is ok to drop them off early because I have enough to do without taking an hour out of my day when there is an easy alternative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

Oh OP. You still see him as a little boy. My sister treats her son like this. She asked our dad to drive her 16 yr old son to/from school. It's .7 miles, in a nice residential area in SoCal. She thought it was too much for him to carry his book bag and a wind instrument to/from school. She didn't want him to get his driver's license, either. She treats him like a kid still, and he's now 23.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to commit to doing the drive in the middle of the day -- seriously disruptive -- but I would tell my son that I will try to drive him a couple times a week, but no promises. I don't think a teen having to entertain himself/get school work done at school for a few hours is such a hardship. Or, he can get his own ride to school -- public bus, friend.

Me too.

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Your DH has likely made it clear to your son that he thinks there should be one drop off and no hanging out at home until 11:00.

Answer honestly:

Do you want to drive him in later so he likes you more than your DH?

Are you kidding? No.

Even though you called your DH "cold and selfish?" Sounds to me that you want to be the "nice" parent in this scenario. Otherwise, why else would you do it? Why not back up your DH and give your kid more study time in the process?

My son has no idea we are even debating this idea. Wtf is worng with you?
I am rarely "the nice parent". I dont care to be. I am much more strict than my dh. That makes me less popular, i assume. Who cares.
This is not how my mind works.

Really? You said of your DH "He thinks I'm too soft."

Like all couples, I am softer in certain places and stricter in others. Same with dh.
I am strict on curfews. I want to know who he is with and where, always. I dont like him driving in the car with teens. We all have our areas.
I am really strict with grades, they better be A's.
I am soft on things like having them clean their own bathrooms. Its enough they do their own laundry and do dishes ect.
I am quick to get a tutor if they need help, dh thinks they should tough it out.

BTW, nice try with your nit picking.

sooo....helicopter.

[Anonymous]

Ask your 16 year old? I would have loved not to have to do homework after school and instead do it in the 2-3 hours before school in the mornings!

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Lazy parents

[Anonymous]

Op, I vote against you 'cause you said, "jerk"

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Could he add an extra course in the morning? Or do some volunteering in the office, gym, etc.? Anything to add to a resume and college application? He is sure to be a little more productive at school, not at home for the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I vote against you 'cause you said, "jerk"

You sound really smart.

[Anonymous]

How about driving lessons some mornings with the instructor picking him up at school? He can do homework and study the other mornings.

[Anonymous]

New poster here. I just read all 11 pages. I reallllly hope OP is a troll. If so, 11/10. Best I've seen so far.

If not, then get help, OP. For the sake of your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New poster here. I just read all 11 pages. I reallllly hope OP is a troll. If so, 11/10. Best I've seen so far.

If not, then get help, OP. For the sake of your child.

Help for what?

[Anonymous]

Assuming this is serious, I'd have son ask for the week's assignments ahead of time. I would hate to leave homework for the morning it was due. But would love to work ahead when able. (Do the English reading, start writing papers, working ahead on math, etc.)

Who else has his schedule? Carpool? Bus?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assuming this is serious, I'd have son ask for the week's assignments ahead of time. I would hate to leave homework for the morning it was due. But would love to work ahead when able. (Do the English reading, start writing papers, working ahead on math, etc.)

Who else has his schedule? Carpool? Bus?

That is a god idea.

There are others with the schedule, but we live far and they don't.