Weigh in on this parenting diagreement

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No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

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Your DH has likely made it clear to your son that he thinks there should be one drop off and no hanging out at home until 11:00.

Answer honestly:

Do you want to drive him in later so he likes you more than your DH?

Are you kidding? No.

Even though you called your DH "cold and selfish?" Sounds to me that you want to be the "nice" parent in this scenario. Otherwise, why else would you do it? Why not back up your DH and give your kid more study time in the process?

My son has no idea we are even debating this idea. Wtf is worng with you?
I am rarely "the nice parent". I dont care to be. I am much more strict than my dh. That makes me less popular, i assume. Who cares.
This is not how my mind works.

Really? You said of your DH "He thinks I'm too soft."

Like all couples, I am softer in certain places and stricter in others. Same with dh.
I am strict on curfews. I want to know who he is with and where, always. I dont like him driving in the car with teens. We all have our areas.
I am really strict with grades, they better be A's.
I am soft on things like having them clean their own bathrooms. Its enough they do their own laundry and do dishes ect.
I am quick to get a tutor if they need help, dh thinks they should tough it out.

BTW, nice try with your nit picking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

I dont care what you think. I dont care if I am labelled strict or lenient. My son doesnt even know I am considering this.

[Anonymous]

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Is Op strict or a helicopter? She is being called both.

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Is Op strict or a helicopter? She is being called both.

No, she thinks she's strict. But she's willing to spend 45 minutes of her day driving so he can sleep/play on the computer rather than get some extra, self-guided study time. She's willing to do this because "why make a teen's life harder?"

[Anonymous]

You should work it out. We don't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

You asked our opinion, we gave it to you, but you continue to argue and justify. There's something else going on here. We cannot help you. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

ok OP

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

You asked our opinion, we gave it to you, but you continue to argue and justify. There's something else going on here. We cannot help you. Good luck.

What else would be going on?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

We refuse to be part of your psychodrama. Good evening.

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Anonymous wrote:So many cold selfish parents out there.

So many over coddling parents out there.

And you wonder why your kids will end up in therapy and throw you in a nursing home.

ha ha this is ridiculous. my own parents mever went out of their way to drive me to school. i figured it out on my own. fast forward: when my parents became old and weak , my siblings and i made sure they mever ended up in a nursing home. they wanted to stay home til the end, and we did everything in our power to grant their wish. love and respect have nothing to do with coddling and enabling.

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

We refuse to be part of your psychodrama. Good evening.

You lost the argument and left.

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Anonymous wrote:No strict parent would even contemplate driving a kid 45 minutes to school just so he doesn't have to figure out how to spend 2 hours in the morning.

You want to be the cool one.

Op here, how is this for strict, *I* am the big bad mom who isn't letting him get his driver's license because among other reasons, 16 is too young. LOL, yes I want to be the cool mom. Ha ha.

We refuse to be part of your psychodrama. Good evening.

You lost the argument and left.

There was no argument to lose. You asked for people to weigh in, and we did. You got extremely hostile when we agreed with your DH.

Seriously, OP, go work this out with your husband. If you truly only came to have us "weigh in" you would have listened to the opinions you solicited. Your extreme reactions suggest this is something deeper. Maybe you have some fundamental differences with your DH about raising the kids and it's manifesting in this argument. I don't know, but we can't help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, my issues is that I dont get why anyone wouldn't do a drop off later IF YOU HAVE A DAY OFF ANYWAY.
I have a few days off every week. I get that if parents work it may create a hardship. I would be home doing nothing anyway.
What is the big deal?
Driving is easy. I drive 45 min each way to get my eyebrows done.

I'm worried about you, OP. You need to get yourself a life that doesn't revolve around your children when they leave in a few years, your outlook will be bleak and lonely. Find a hobby or something to occupy your mind and time.