Dad’s girlfriend has officially taken over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With that attitude, I can't imagine why she doesn't want to spend time with you.

What’s wrong with OP’s attitude? I think OP sounds more than reasonable. Are you dad’s GF?

Read the post again. Does that sound like someone who is pleasant to be around? You don't think that's going to come out other ways?

I think OP sounds fine to me. You, on the other hand, I am not sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he’s mentally competent, he is the only one to blame for not seeing his family. Would you let your spouse cut you off from your family if you wanted to see them? Of course not. Don’t blame her, blame him (and I’m a first wife married to a first husband, not an evil stepmother, lol).

I agree with this. He’s going along with her. She isn’t holding him hostage. Yes she sounds like a bad person, but he’s perfectly happy to oblige her.

Is she much younger? Attractive? Does she wait on him hand and foot?

[Anonymous]

What does the other siblings say? Get together with the siblings and discuss this. Together, decide what to do. Simple as that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they get married you aren’t getting the house or any inheritance. It will go to the spouse (assuming she’s younger since you mention her kids, so presumably not adults). My father remarried a younger woman and I expect nothing. It doesn’t stop me from having a good relationship with both of them. On the plus side she is dealing with the issues of caring for an elderly spouse, which is helpful since I need to deal with my mothers aging issues.

This is why the OP needs to get in front of this now. Sabotage the relationship with GF at any cost. Hire a private investigator to dig up dirt. Create fake online dating profiles. Whatever she needs to do before she loses everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they get married you aren’t getting the house or any inheritance. It will go to the spouse (assuming she’s younger since you mention her kids, so presumably not adults). My father remarried a younger woman and I expect nothing. It doesn’t stop me from having a good relationship with both of them. On the plus side she is dealing with the issues of caring for an elderly spouse, which is helpful since I need to deal with my mothers aging issues.

This is why the OP needs to get in front of this now. Sabotage the relationship with GF at any cost. Hire a private investigator to dig up dirt. Create fake online dating profiles. Whatever she needs to do before she loses everything.

You have to let the gold digger know the gold is already spoken for.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Where’s OP? Their disappearance makes me think this is a troll with a worn out story.

[Anonymous]

He’s a grown adult who can make his own choices.

Why blame her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he’s mentally competent, he is the only one to blame for not seeing his family. Would you let your spouse cut you off from your family if you wanted to see them? Of course not. Don’t blame her, blame him (and I’m a first wife married to a first husband, not an evil stepmother, lol).

I agree with this. He’s going along with her. She isn’t holding him hostage. Yes she sounds like a bad person, but he’s perfectly happy to oblige her.

Is she much younger? Attractive? Does she wait on him hand and foot?

Some people are just wusses

[Anonymous]

It does sound like early cognitive decline. My uncle who was the most stubborn independent minded person on earth became very dependent on my aunt to make decisions for him. It’s common.

This is sort of a lesson for women to take steps to put assets in trust for your kids before you die, rather than letting your husband inherit everything — it’s all going to go to second wives kids. If there are things of their moms they really want, like her jewelry, china, art, etc….they should try to get it now, in a nice way. Go visit when she might not be home, say “oh dad, I’d really love that painting mom loved, it makes me think of her — is it okay if I take it?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she’s already preventing him from seeing his children and grandchildren at Christmas, the war is over and you lost. The inheritance is gone. There’s nothing you can do at this point.

She is still girl friend not wife.
Unless she is a wife and OP doesn’t know about it yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With that attitude, I can't imagine why she doesn't want to spend time with you.

STFU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It does sound like early cognitive decline. My uncle who was the most stubborn independent minded person on earth became very dependent on my aunt to make decisions for him. It’s common.

This is sort of a lesson for women to take steps to put assets in trust for your kids before you die, rather than letting your husband inherit everything — it’s all going to go to second wives kids. If there are things of their moms they really want, like her jewelry, china, art, etc….they should try to get it now, in a nice way. Go visit when she might not be home, say “oh dad, I’d really love that painting mom loved, it makes me think of her — is it okay if I take it?”

If you suspect congnitive decline, that is blatantly illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With that attitude, I can't imagine why she doesn't want to spend time with you.

What’s wrong with OP’s attitude? I think OP sounds more than reasonable. Are you dad’s GF?

Read the post again. Does that sound like someone who is pleasant to be around? You don't think that's going to come out other ways?

Yeah, I agree with you -- I had the same reaction to that first post. OP doesn't sound terribly credible, either (the whole thing about how the new wife supposedly wants the dad to come home and "open a jar or whatever" rings as exaggerated at best). DP

[Anonymous]

This is the almost inevitable legacy of divorce. Sometimes the new partner is benevolent, but it's rare. Most are at the very best neutral, which means they are going to look out for themselves and their kids. Many are horrible. And even with the benevolent ones some tension -- whether it has to do with time or financial resources or whatever -- is almost unavoidable.

People remarry (or move in with a SO), and that's their family now. It's really unfortunate, but that's almost always the way it is.