People in sexless marriages....how do you deal?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:No sex for a year. On impulse, ordered a toy from Amazon, and not sure how, but DH found out about it, and got very curious about my kinky side. Got to work, and did an all nighter, incorporating the new addition into rekindled intimacy. Since then, collection has been steadily growing. Even ventured to Vegas and explored the sex club scene together, adding a new layer to next phase of our holy union.

I like you!
Anonymous
I know this is hard to believe, but for the first 16 years of our marriage, DH and I only had sex once a month. I thought he just had a low sex drive but then we were fighting so much, we didn't have sex for 4 months and started counseling. Surprise surprise, we had an emotionally distant relationship our entire marriage. We worked super hard to repair our relationship and now have sex once a week.

During the once a month years, I mostly helped myself liberally and fantasized about other men. Unbeknownst to me, I also flirted more than I meant to with other men: dads in the neighborhood, some guys at work, etc. I never cheated, but had all this pent up energy that had to go somewhere.

Hugs OP. I hope you sort this out soon.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I know this is hard to believe, but for the first 16 years of our marriage, DH and I only had sex once a month. I thought he just had a low sex drive but then we were fighting so much, we didn't have sex for 4 months and started counseling. Surprise surprise, we had an emotionally distant relationship our entire marriage. We worked super hard to repair our relationship and now have sex once a week.

During the once a month years, I mostly helped myself liberally and fantasized about other men. Unbeknownst to me, I also flirted more than I meant to with other men: dads in the neighborhood, some guys at work, etc. I never cheated, but had all this pent up energy that had to go somewhere.

Hugs OP. I hope you sort this out soon.


I like sex. Have had it liberally and am the farthest from a prude you would get. I just cannot understand how sex is such a priority for some of you. That’s not necessarily a criticism but I don’t get the fixation. Pent up energy? Fantasizing? Flirting?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know this is hard to believe, but for the first 16 years of our marriage, DH and I only had sex once a month. I thought he just had a low sex drive but then we were fighting so much, we didn't have sex for 4 months and started counseling. Surprise surprise, we had an emotionally distant relationship our entire marriage. We worked super hard to repair our relationship and now have sex once a week.

During the once a month years, I mostly helped myself liberally and fantasized about other men. Unbeknownst to me, I also flirted more than I meant to with other men: dads in the neighborhood, some guys at work, etc. I never cheated, but had all this pent up energy that had to go somewhere.

Hugs OP. I hope you sort this out soon.


I like sex. Have had it liberally and am the farthest from a prude you would get. I just cannot understand how sex is such a priority for some of you. That’s not necessarily a criticism but I don’t get the fixation. Pent up energy? Fantasizing? Flirting?


People have different drives. I love sex and can’t go more than a couple weeks without it. That’s sort of like wondering why some people can’t go without social interaction - some people are introverts, some are extroverts
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know this is hard to believe, but for the first 16 years of our marriage, DH and I only had sex once a month. I thought he just had a low sex drive but then we were fighting so much, we didn't have sex for 4 months and started counseling. Surprise surprise, we had an emotionally distant relationship our entire marriage. We worked super hard to repair our relationship and now have sex once a week.

During the once a month years, I mostly helped myself liberally and fantasized about other men. Unbeknownst to me, I also flirted more than I meant to with other men: dads in the neighborhood, some guys at work, etc. I never cheated, but had all this pent up energy that had to go somewhere.

Hugs OP. I hope you sort this out soon.


I like sex. Have had it liberally and am the farthest from a prude you would get. I just cannot understand how sex is such a priority for some of you. That’s not necessarily a criticism but I don’t get the fixation. Pent up energy? Fantasizing? Flirting?


People have different drives. I love sex and can’t go more than a couple weeks without it. That’s sort of like wondering why some people can’t go without social interaction - some people are introverts, some are extroverts


Thanks captain obvious. Sort of my point. But “can’t go more than a couple weeks without it?” Or what?
Anonymous
Just don't be surprised if you find out their drive is all a lie and they've just been lying to you.
Anonymous
then I guess I shouldn't complain that I'm not in a relationship and not getting any lol
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think men underestimate how important sex is to women. Men and sex just to release some horny episodes. For women sex is a moment of intimate connection. I think women release different kind of hormones when they have sex with a man that's special to them.


+1. While my wife never initiates its important to her and she’ll be blunt and ask if we haven’t done it in more than a week or so. I had surgery at one point with a two week revovery period. We were driving somewhere and she was bluntly like “when are we gonna be able to have sex again?”

Also, after about 3+ days (longer usually) she’ll start having sex dreams and sometimes even kinda taking care of herself in her sleep. This happened last night and afterward she got really aggressive with the snuggling. I’m guessing if not tonight then in the next few days we’ll be doing it.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I know this is hard to believe, but for the first 16 years of our marriage, DH and I only had sex once a month. I thought he just had a low sex drive but then we were fighting so much, we didn't have sex for 4 months and started counseling. Surprise surprise, we had an emotionally distant relationship our entire marriage. We worked super hard to repair our relationship and now have sex once a week.

During the once a month years, I mostly helped myself liberally and fantasized about other men. Unbeknownst to me, I also flirted more than I meant to with other men: dads in the neighborhood, some guys at work, etc. I never cheated, but had all this pent up energy that had to go somewhere.

Hugs OP. I hope you sort this out soon.


I like sex. Have had it liberally and am the farthest from a prude you would get. I just cannot understand how sex is such a priority for some of you. That’s not necessarily a criticism but I don’t get the fixation. Pent up energy? Fantasizing? Flirting?


People have different drives. I love sex and can’t go more than a couple weeks without it. That’s sort of like wondering why some people can’t go without social interaction - some people are introverts, some are extroverts


Thanks captain obvious. Sort of my point. But “can’t go more than a couple weeks without it?” Or what?


I spontaneously implode, of course.

Maybe you’ve just never had really good sex? Your attitude sucks, can’t imagine many people are attracted to that.

I swear every woman’s life would change forever if she slept with one man who was good at oral. It’s hard to find. But after that, it’ll occupy your every thought.
Anonymous
That poor college guy would have been totally freaked out. Hitting on people at work is totally inappropriate and intrusive, OP. I wouldn’t want to sleep with you either. Act like an adult and then maybe your husband will be attracted to you again. Hint: the job thing is just an excuse. He doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.
Anonymous
A lot of masturbation, massages, misery and the occasional affair.
Anonymous
How do they deal?!
They must think of sex all the time, 24/7.
Whilst the other one thinks of the actual underlying major problem in the marriage.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:A lot of masturbation, massages, misery and the occasional affair.[/quote]

Sl**t
Anonymous
What the hell is medically wrong with you freaks who can't go a single "dry" year without sex? Do you not have hands?

I acknowledge that good sex is amazing, but it's luxury goods. You can't "self-discipline", literally and figuratively?

Bunch of addicts on this forum.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:What the hell is medically wrong with you freaks who can't go a single "dry" year without sex? Do you not have hands?

I acknowledge that good sex is amazing, but it's luxury goods. You can't "self-discipline", literally and figuratively?

Bunch of addicts on this forum.


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