People in sexless marriages....how do you deal?

[Anonymous]

There seems to be three broad categories in these responses:
1. People in sexless, loveless marriages
2. People in sexless but loving marriages
3. People in low quantity / low quality sex but loving marriages.

#1 is just terrible. #2 is sad. But #3 seems to be manageable. Particularly interested in how people in #3 deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I don’t think I am dealing. I just realized how very little I think of sex. I used to be high Drive before him. He really conditioned me to not expect anything. I saw a picture the other day of a couple embracing in bed (to be fair. I looked up something because I was trying to figure out how a position worked) and someone was telling me about dating and my mind was actually really confused. Like I had erased the the look feel and aromas of sex entirely. I hate this. I hate it so much. I love him, but I really miss being with someone intimately. This is awful.

I know just what you mean! Every so often there will be a romantic sex scene in a movie I’m watching, and I’ll start to cry. I remember feeling passion like that, but don’t think it will ever happen for me again. I’m just over 50 so expect many more dry years.