People in sexless marriages....how do you deal?

[Anonymous]

Lots of self dealing to p0rn. Try to think that in another 10 years, my sex drive will be gone anyway and from then on it'll probably make more sense to be married to my spouse still than not

[Anonymous]

Yet again this thread shows that the world needs a better way to help people in sexless marriages to connect as FWBs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yet again this thread shows that the world needs a better way to help people in sexless marriages to connect as FWBs.

Oh, there are definitely ways, and the people in those arrangements are not putzing around on here complaining about being sexless. 😂

I almost had a sexual relationship with a man who claimed to be in a sexless marriage, and I had a sexless marriage too. I backed out though, because of guilt, and confessed to my husband. Things are better between us now.

[Anonymous]

I agree that I’d be really struggling if I went three months in my marriage. It would be a challenge both physically and emotionally.

However….. I think op is a troll, and is the same poster who regularly posts lately as a man, and the posts always sound a little like erotic literature, but clearly written by a man. Like, a couple weeks ago the guy who posted his “embarrassing” story about being on a jet ski with a boner. There have been 4 or 5 posts in the last month that I’ve thought “this story is subtly erotic, written more like literature, and far fetched” that I think there’s some bored guy in dc enjoying the creative challenge of turning on a bunch of middle aged moms. Sorry!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:H took a new job a few months back that is extremely demanding with long hours and a lot of physical work. He still helps out at home a TON, but he's too exhausted for sex anymore. He's usually asleep before the kids are and I'm lucky if it's once a month.

I'm going bonkers. The other day I took the kids to IHOP while he slept in and eye-f***ed the hell out of an adorable college guy working there. Seriously thought about slipping him my number and giving him the time of his life.

How do you deal? I don't think I can last 3 more months like this, let alone another 20 years.

Go back to IHOP and ask for extra crème on whatever you order.

OMG— LMFAO!!!!! 🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affair

+1. Hard to believe that just the new job made him too tired for sex. My DH is mid 40’s and would almost never pass up the opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that I’d be really struggling if I went three months in my marriage. It would be a challenge both physically and emotionally.

However….. I think op is a troll, and is the same poster who regularly posts lately as a man, and the posts always sound a little like erotic literature, but clearly written by a man. Like, a couple weeks ago the guy who posted his “embarrassing” story about being on a jet ski with a boner. There have been 4 or 5 posts in the last month that I’ve thought “this story is subtly erotic, written more like literature, and far fetched” that I think there’s some bored guy in dc enjoying the creative challenge of turning on a bunch of middle aged moms. Sorry!!

Good point. Something is odd about the post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Affair

+1. Hard to believe that just the new job made him too tired for sex. My DH is mid 40’s and would almost never pass up the opportunity.

OP is probably a troll but is it that hard to believe that men are humans and have some variations in behavior?

[Anonymous]

My ex had no interest in sex or traveling so once or twice a year I’d go on a singles cruise or tour. The men were generally ten years older than me but that was fine. I certainly don’t recommend this for everyone but it worked for me.

[Anonymous]

Going on 10 years...open the marriage up, get a lot of toys, read smut, get massages (the normal ones, it's just nice go have physical touch sometimes)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I went for 7 years in my 30s without. Woman here. I got divorced. Had some great sex the last 4 years. But now I feel done with men because they all only want that. Toys work.

^ This is what I think about! I love my husband very very very much and I love our life together - except it's been sexless for a number of years now (he has medical issues, anxiety issues - at least that's what he tells me). I can't see leaving him for sex with someone else, then having to look for a partner who I enjoy being with in every other way as much. So - you know. I deal by dealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that I’d be really struggling if I went three months in my marriage. It would be a challenge both physically and emotionally.

However….. I think op is a troll, and is the same poster who regularly posts lately as a man, and the posts always sound a little like erotic literature, but clearly written by a man. Like, a couple weeks ago the guy who posted his “embarrassing” story about being on a jet ski with a boner. There have been 4 or 5 posts in the last month that I’ve thought “this story is subtly erotic, written more like literature, and far fetched” that I think there’s some bored guy in dc enjoying the creative challenge of turning on a bunch of middle aged moms. Sorry!!

OP. I’m definitely not that guy, but I remember his posts, LOL. I think if I were him I would have said I rubbed up on the waiter (and I’m WAY too chicken to do anything like that).

I guess it’s not just the sex, it’s that we don’t really connect in any other way. He’s ADHD and quite aloof, doesn’t really ever want to do fun family things or couple things aside from the daily grind stuff, sex has been the only way I get to feel a sense of connection to him.

Words of affirmation are my primary love language, and he would never actually give me any words of affirmation because he just doesn’t work that way. Physical touch is my second love language so I became reliant on that to feel loved. And now that’s gone.

[Anonymous]

Help out more at home so he can rest and prepare.

Take a weekend or weekday when the kids are at school or at friends/family.

[Anonymous]

I think men underestimate how important sex is to women. Men and sex just to release some horny episodes. For women sex is a moment of intimate connection. I think women release different kind of hormones when they have sex with a man that's special to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex had no interest in sex or traveling so once or twice a year I’d go on a singles cruise or tour. The men were generally ten years older than me but that was fine. I certainly don’t recommend this for everyone but it worked for me.

One per cruise or did you sample the buffet? Seriously, it’s a pretty clever idea.