How stop the cookie gift

[Anonymous]

In what universe is DH’s aunt bringing over treats that she traditionally bakes for his family any of your concern? If you don’t want any, don’t eat any. Why are you trying to cockblock cookies?

[Anonymous]

2 people have posted the solution I would go for--freeze them. Take a few out from time to time.

[Anonymous]

Don’t insert yourself. It’s a tradition in his family. If DH wants the cookies to stop, he can darn well figure out how to approach his own aunt. You stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

Is she someone with an eating issue-either too thin or struggles being overweight? usually people with food issues are obsessed with food gifts, especially so often. I personally would tell a friend to stop. It's strange and creepy to keep giving people junk food.

Yes, she’s overweight and often comments on how skinny I am. But there’s other issues, like she knows I have rules about what/how many toys my kids can have, and she’ll buy them toys against my wishes. Even says “I know you don’t allow Barbies but I saw this and knew your DD would love it!” Or she’ll get me clothes she knows is not my style - like super trashy, cheap things I wouldn’t have worn as a teenager, let alone as a middle aged lady. And if I point out it’s not my thing, she’ll say to wear them for my H during adult time, ha.


I think a large part of it is cultural, and that gifts are her love language. She’s otherwise a really great friend and we’ve been through a lot together, so I go along with it and then donate/toss. I have had to say no when it involved live animals - she’s tried to give me kittens and chickens, lol!

NP: OP, it seems you may be a touch too controlling and cookies are the last straw? You seems to have a lot of rules and honestly, is a tray of cookies once a year such a big deal? You can ALWAYS re-gift it. You can always donate the toys. Etc. Lighten up a bit. And if you cannot control yourself around cookies between the time you get them and pass them on, that's on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In what universe is DH’s aunt bringing over treats that she traditionally bakes for his family any of your concern? If you don’t want any, don’t eat any. Why are you trying to cockblock cookies?

Hahahhahahaha cockblock cookies, that is the best thing I’ve heard in a long time.

I do sympathize with OP though. If I have cookies in the house I eat them, no question. The family always asks “who ate all the cookies??” And I’m like “me! Obviously me! It has been me every time for years!”

If I feel like the cookies will make me feel yucky I would throw them away. I don’t feel bad about it; in my stomach isn’t any better than in the trash. But now that I know how to navigate my Buy Nothing group I’ll do that instead.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In what universe is DH’s aunt bringing over treats that she traditionally bakes for his family any of your concern? If you don’t want any, don’t eat any. Why are you trying to cockblock cookies?

Hahahhahahaha cockblock cookies, that is the best thing I’ve heard in a long time.

I do sympathize with OP though. If I have cookies in the house I eat them, no question. The family always asks “who ate all the cookies??” And I’m like “me! Obviously me! It has been me every time for years!”

If I feel like the cookies will make me feel yucky I would throw them away. I don’t feel bad about it; in my stomach isn’t any better than in the trash. But now that I know how to navigate my Buy Nothing group I’ll do that instead.

If OP’s like that, it’s her own fault and her own problem. It has nothing to do with her husband’s aunt doing a very typical Christmas thing: bringing over Christmas cookies. OP should take responsibility for what she puts in her own mouth, not try to stop someone else’s aunt from doing a family tradition. Trying to stop someone else’s family from engaging in their own family tradition is beyond controlling—it’s downright crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In what universe is DH’s aunt bringing over treats that she traditionally bakes for his family any of your concern? If you don’t want any, don’t eat any. Why are you trying to cockblock cookies?

Hahahhahahaha cockblock cookies, that is the best thing I’ve heard in a long time.

I do sympathize with OP though. If I have cookies in the house I eat them, no question. The family always asks “who ate all the cookies??” And I’m like “me! Obviously me! It has been me every time for years!”

If I feel like the cookies will make me feel yucky I would throw them away. I don’t feel bad about it; in my stomach isn’t any better than in the trash. But now that I know how to navigate my Buy Nothing group I’ll do that instead.

You’d throw away someone else’s gift—a gift from an aunt to her own nephew—because you’re so immature that you “can’t control yourself” around cookies? Are you 4? Are you the Cookie Monster? If I threw a gift intended for my husband from his aunt into the trash without asking him, he would be mad at me.

[Anonymous]

Put them in your break room at work. This is such a small problem. If you don’t work, dump them in the trash.

[Anonymous]

Keep and regift the cookies but no to the kittens and chickens!

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Anonymous wrote:Are you really this hapless?

Take a photo, post on your neighborhood What’sApp, and ask if anyone wants homemade cookies. If not, throw them away.

If you “can’t resist” and “can’t help but eat them,” you have way bigger issues with food that have nothing to do with your husband’s aunt dropping off holiday treats.

Omg please don’t post pictures & post. And, besides, who has a neighborhood what’s app?!! Is that a thing?

Yep, our neighborhood helps each other out via What’s App. Things like give/take items, “Is this your dog?”, watch out for the speed trap that was set up today, anyone want Girl Scout Cookies?

During the start of the pandemic, people would share info like “I’m going to Giant; anyone need anything” or “Hey, Wegmans has hand sanitizer—one per customer, go to the customer service desk.” I remember one time it was particularly helpful—someone said they were going to CVS, and one couple with a baby needed children’s Tylenol…they were grateful to not have to run out themselves, because mom and dad were both sick, too.

My mom gave me chocolates for my birthday, and I gave them away via What’s App. We do stuff like this all the time.

Wow what a great story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

Seriously. This is just basic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put them in your break room at work. This is such a small problem. If you don’t work, dump them in the trash.

Again, OP cannot do this without discussing with her husband. It’s a traditional gift from his aunt. I would be livid if my husband gave away or threw away the box of chocolates that my parents traditionally send to me/my family for Christmas because “he just couldn’t control himself.” You don’t get to give or throw away a family gift from someone else’s aunt without talking to them first. Were you raised in a barn?

[Anonymous]

This is basic communication. There are ways to diplomatically and gently let someone know that you don’t want to receive some thing that obviously they put a lot of effort into. Making different homemade cookies is a ton of work. If I were your aunt, I would definitely want to know if the cookies were being enjoyed or not. You can simply say to her, we have always appreciated the cookies in the past, but this year you may want to Pass on baking them because the kids don’t eat cookies anymore like they used to, and neither do DH and I.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has an aunt that gives us an extremely large tray of homemade cookies every year. I need to tell her to stop without being rude.

- When I tell her she doesn't have to do that, she insists that the kids like them (hey eat 1 or 2 when we visit her, but they really don't like sweets)
- She is older and I know it hard to do so much baking
- She has a limited income and I know it is costly to buy all the ingredients
- I have been struggling with my weight
- DH has been struggling with his weight

OP, you admit that you have already asked her to stop. I agree with others that you just need to accept them and then get rid of them. If you do anything else it's kind of rude, and then you put pressure on her to think of a different gift. However costly you imagine the baking is, I assure you it is cheaper than anything else she thinks you might like.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

Seriously. This is just basic.

I don't get this either. When did it become ok to tell people what kind of gifts they can and can't give? Just say Thanks and move on.