How stop the cookie gift

[Anonymous]

Are you really this hapless?

Take a photo, post on your neighborhood What’sApp, and ask if anyone wants homemade cookies. If not, throw them away.

If you “can’t resist” and “can’t help but eat them,” you have way bigger issues with food that have nothing to do with your husband’s aunt dropping off holiday treats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

Is she someone with an eating issue-either too thin or struggles being overweight? usually people with food issues are obsessed with food gifts, especially so often. I personally would tell a friend to stop. It's strange and creepy to keep giving people junk food.

Yes, she’s overweight and often comments on how skinny I am. But there’s other issues, like she knows I have rules about what/how many toys my kids can have, and she’ll buy them toys against my wishes. Even says “I know you don’t allow Barbies but I saw this and knew your DD would love it!” Or she’ll get me clothes she knows is not my style - like super trashy, cheap things I wouldn’t have worn as a teenager, let alone as a middle aged lady. And if I point out it’s not my thing, she’ll say to wear them for my H during adult time, ha.

I think a large part of it is cultural, and that gifts are her love language. She’s otherwise a really great friend and we’ve been through a lot together, so I go along with it and then donate/toss. I have had to say no when it involved live animals - she’s tried to give me kittens and chickens, lol!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

So, we should stop bringing wine to hosts, too?

I know I’m in the minority, but I don’t bring wine or any other alcohol unless it’s a very close friend/family member that I’m 100% positive doesn’t have a drinking problem. I’ve known a lot of alcoholics and I don’t want to unintentionally put an addict in a position where they could relapse.

[Anonymous]

How does your husband feel about the cookies? You know, what with him being her actual nephew and all? Does he get a vote?

My husband gets cookies from his mom every year. I like one or two but ignore the rest of the plate. He eats a few, the kids eat a few, and if guests come over, we have some around to offer. We toss what we don’t eat.

I cannot imagine telling my husband that I was going to put a stop to HIS family’s tradition. Don’t want cookies? Don’t eat them. Don’t shovel them in your mouth. Pretty simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You let her experience the joy of giving in her way.

You let the kids enjoy a cookie or two if they wish.

You eat a few or not & toss the rest.

This. Enjoy one or two & toss.

Who are you going to give second hand cookies to?? I can’t imagine anyone wanting them. No offense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you really this hapless?

Take a photo, post on your neighborhood What’sApp, and ask if anyone wants homemade cookies. If not, throw them away.

If you “can’t resist” and “can’t help but eat them,” you have way bigger issues with food that have nothing to do with your husband’s aunt dropping off holiday treats.

Omg please don’t post pictures & post. And, besides, who has a neighborhood what’s app?!! Is that a thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really this hapless?

Take a photo, post on your neighborhood What’sApp, and ask if anyone wants homemade cookies. If not, throw them away.

If you “can’t resist” and “can’t help but eat them,” you have way bigger issues with food that have nothing to do with your husband’s aunt dropping off holiday treats.

Omg please don’t post pictures & post. And, besides, who has a neighborhood what’s app?!! Is that a thing?

Why not? People would be so grateful to nab them! I have never done anything like this but I know people who have and it works!

[Anonymous]

People in my local Buy Nothing group on Facebook would snap them up.

[Anonymous]

Start a conversation this year about her baking - does she enjoy it, is there a special meaning behind teh recipes, etc. See what it is that's inspiring her. It might give you teh opportunity to say something about next year you will be travelling/aren't planning guests/etc and a smaller assortment would be more welcome. You can add in that you don't want to see her purchasing so many expensive ingredients or that she could split the amount with another recipient and save herself some time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you really this hapless?

Take a photo, post on your neighborhood What’sApp, and ask if anyone wants homemade cookies. If not, throw them away.

If you “can’t resist” and “can’t help but eat them,” you have way bigger issues with food that have nothing to do with your husband’s aunt dropping off holiday treats.

Omg please don’t post pictures & post. And, besides, who has a neighborhood what’s app?!! Is that a thing?

Yep, our neighborhood helps each other out via What’s App. Things like give/take items, “Is this your dog?”, watch out for the speed trap that was set up today, anyone want Girl Scout Cookies?

During the start of the pandemic, people would share info like “I’m going to Giant; anyone need anything” or “Hey, Wegmans has hand sanitizer—one per customer, go to the customer service desk.” I remember one time it was particularly helpful—someone said they were going to CVS, and one couple with a baby needed children’s Tylenol…they were grateful to not have to run out themselves, because mom and dad were both sick, too.

My mom gave me chocolates for my birthday, and I gave them away via What’s App. We do stuff like this all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start a conversation this year about her baking - does she enjoy it, is there a special meaning behind teh recipes, etc. See what it is that's inspiring her. It might give you teh opportunity to say something about next year you will be travelling/aren't planning guests/etc and a smaller assortment would be more welcome. You can add in that you don't want to see her purchasing so many expensive ingredients or that she could split the amount with another recipient and save herself some time.

Are you serious? That’s like asking someone with a Christmas tree “what inspired them” to put it up, or asking someone who hangs stockings if it has “special meaning behind it.” It’s Christmas time, they are Christmas cookies—are you keeping up yet?

[Anonymous]

Thank her, then have your DC take a few to enjoy.

Freeze a bag of the rest and enjoy a few more in the new year.

Done.

[Anonymous]

You’ve got to be kidding me. Just throw them away or give them away. Pretend it’s 1950 and be polite.

[Anonymous]

Thank her and then toss. This is not an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Start a conversation this year about her baking - does she enjoy it, is there a special meaning behind teh recipes, etc. See what it is that's inspiring her. It might give you teh opportunity to say something about next year you will be travelling/aren't planning guests/etc and a smaller assortment would be more welcome. You can add in that you don't want to see her purchasing so many expensive ingredients or that she could split the amount with another recipient and save herself some time.

Are you serious? That’s like asking someone with a Christmas tree “what inspired them” to put it up, or asking someone who hangs stockings if it has “special meaning behind it.” It’s Christmas time, they are Christmas cookies—are you keeping up yet?

DP here but I agree. What’s with people trying to control others? No, you don’t need to get at what’s behind her baking intentions. You don’t need to tell Aunt Jean that you don’t want your kids to have sugar and you gain weight. Just say thank you. Control what you do with them, don’t try to control her.