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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work. [/quote]

Is she someone with an eating issue-either too thin or struggles being overweight? usually people with food issues are obsessed with food gifts, especially so often. I personally would tell a friend to stop. It's strange and creepy to keep giving people junk food.[/quote]

Yes, she’s overweight and often comments on how skinny I am. But there’s other issues, like she knows I have rules about what/how many toys my kids can have, and she’ll buy them toys against my wishes. Even says “I know you don’t allow Barbies but I saw this and knew your DD would love it!” Or she’ll get me clothes she knows is not my style - like super trashy, cheap things I wouldn’t have worn as a teenager, let alone as a middle aged lady. And if I point out it’s not my thing, she’ll say to wear them for my H during adult time, ha.

I think a large part of it is cultural, and that gifts are her love language. She’s otherwise a really great friend and we’ve been through a lot together, so I go along with it and then donate/toss. I have had to say no when it involved live animals - she’s tried to give me kittens and chickens, lol! [/quote]

NP: OP, it seems you may be a touch too controlling and cookies are the last straw? You seems to have a lot of rules and honestly, is a tray of cookies once a year such a big deal? You can ALWAYS re-gift it. You can always donate the toys. Etc. Lighten up a bit.  And if you cannot control yourself around cookies between the time you get them and pass them on, that's on you. [/quote]

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