How stop the cookie gift

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put them in your break room at work. This is such a small problem. If you don’t work, dump them in the trash.

Again, OP cannot do this without discussing with her husband. It’s a traditional gift from his aunt. I would be livid if my husband gave away or threw away the box of chocolates that my parents traditionally send to me/my family for Christmas because “he just couldn’t control himself.” You don’t get to give or throw away a family gift from someone else’s aunt without talking to them first. Were you raised in a barn?

If you are the poster who came in guns blazing because MIL act a couple of pieces of chocolate, you really have no room to be lecturing anyone else about weird behavior.

If you think that thread was purely about chocolate, you’re not very bright.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

I’m sorry but this is a ridiculous overreaction and is full of assumptions. How do you know it’s “junk”? You act like she’s shipping crates of Oreos. This woman is probably using meaningful family recipes and doing something she thinks is kind. Why must everything be demonized around here? It’s exhausting.

Whoa, be careful what you call junk, sister; I love Oreos!

[Anonymous]

OP's husband's aunt isn't making these cookies solely for her nephew's family. She likely makes a range of different cookies and assembles platters of them and gives them away to various people as holiday gifts. It's extremely unlikely she's making these cookies only for OP's family and sending them most of the cookies. And she'll have plenty at home for herself too.

In other words, there is no need to feel guilty throwing away the cookies if the family doesn't want to eat them. I'd wait until after the holidays in case she happens to drop by. You can crumble the cookies and toss them in your garden for the birds.

If you do like the cookies but only want a few at a time, freezing them is a good idea. If you don't care for the cookies, once again there's no shame or guilt in quietly disposing of them. A lot of cookies are too sweet and we live in a time of sugar overload all year long that unfortunately does take away some of the old Christmas baking mystique.

But telling the aunt no more cookies because you don't want to eat them is a bit of a slap to the face. Let it go. Be gracious.

[Anonymous]

My DH has an aunt who does this too. She goes to a cookie exchange and so she has a huge variety of cookies she gives away at Christmas. The problem is that by the time it comes to us, the cookies are almost all stale. There might be a few that are still good, but most are not.

We eat a few, say thanks, and just throw them out. She enjoys the cookie exchange. She doesn't cook or bake much so we try not to begrudge the contribution and just say thank you.

[Anonymous]

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

So, do you give a list to friends of what kind of gifts ARE acceptable to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank her profusely. Feed them to the birds.

Please do NOT feed cookies to birds!

Per the Humane Society:

“Are any human foods UNSAFE to feed birds?
Yes. Birds should not be offered many of the foods humans eat.

Bread (fresh or stale): provides no real nutritional value for birds; moldy bread can harm birds.
Chocolate: toxic to birds, just as it is to dogs and cats (it contains theobromine); never offer birds any foods containing chocolate.
Table scraps: some may not be safe or healthy for birds; most table scraps will attract mice or rats.”

[Anonymous]

Just throw them away when you get home. What’s the big deal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thank her profusely. Feed them to the birds.

Please do NOT feed cookies to birds!

Per the Humane Society:

“Are any human foods UNSAFE to feed birds?
Yes. Birds should not be offered many of the foods humans eat.

Bread (fresh or stale): provides no real nutritional value for birds; moldy bread can harm birds.
Chocolate: toxic to birds, just as it is to dogs and cats (it contains theobromine); never offer birds any foods containing chocolate.
Table scraps: some may not be safe or healthy for birds; most table scraps will attract mice or rats.”

People have some crazy ideas. I don’t want to eat this unhealthy food but let’s feed it to our coworkers, homeless people, or the birds.

[Anonymous]

I'll take a plate of cookies any day over another candle, mug, throw, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just throw them away when you get home. What’s the big deal?

OK so if your aunt gives your family a gift—a framed photo, a cake, a pan of lasagna, or a blanket—be sure to agree with your husband when he replies “What’s the big deal” when you ask why he unilaterally decided to throw it away without discussing it with you.

Go ahead. I’ll wait.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just throw them away when you get home. What’s the big deal?

OK so if your aunt gives your family a gift—a framed photo, a cake, a pan of lasagna, or a blanket—be sure to agree with your husband when he replies “What’s the big deal” when you ask why he unilaterally decided to throw it away without discussing it with you.

Go ahead. I’ll wait.

Is that the situation? Did I miss where OP came back and posted that her husband wanted the cookies? The only thing she posted about hi
(That I read) is that he is also struggling with his weight.

[Anonymous]

I truly don't like people who give cheap cookies ( home made or store bought) to other people; they are so clueless. These days, most of the people are on diets, are trying to loose weight and just don't want those junkie cookies. I would never, ever gift cookie to anybody. For next year, I would just gently tell your aunt that you are having pre-diabetes and your doctor told you not to eat sweets at all. It's a shame to throw them away. Your aunt should hopefully get the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just throw them away when you get home. What’s the big deal?

OK so if your aunt gives your family a gift—a framed photo, a cake, a pan of lasagna, or a blanket—be sure to agree with your husband when he replies “What’s the big deal” when you ask why he unilaterally decided to throw it away without discussing it with you.

Go ahead. I’ll wait.

Is that the situation? Did I miss where OP came back and posted that her husband wanted the cookies? The only thing she posted about hi
(That I read) is that he is also struggling with his weight.

Struggling with weight does not automatically mean he doesn’t want the cookies.

Him struggling with his weight means OP has decided he shouldn’t have the cookies. (Because she lacks complete self-control, he must, too?)

See the difference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just throw them away when you get home. What’s the big deal?

OK so if your aunt gives your family a gift—a framed photo, a cake, a pan of lasagna, or a blanket—be sure to agree with your husband when he replies “What’s the big deal” when you ask why he unilaterally decided to throw it away without discussing it with you.

Go ahead. I’ll wait.

Is that the situation? Did I miss where OP came back and posted that her husband wanted the cookies? The only thing she posted about hi
(That I read) is that he is also struggling with his weight.

Struggling with weight does not automatically mean he doesn’t want the cookies.

Him struggling with his weight means OP has decided he shouldn’t have the cookies. (Because she lacks complete self-control, he must, too?)

See the difference?

You see where you are reading in something that has been said?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just throw them away when you get home. What’s the big deal?

OK so if your aunt gives your family a gift—a framed photo, a cake, a pan of lasagna, or a blanket—be sure to agree with your husband when he replies “What’s the big deal” when you ask why he unilaterally decided to throw it away without discussing it with you.

Go ahead. I’ll wait.

Is that the situation? Did I miss where OP came back and posted that her husband wanted the cookies? The only thing she posted about hi
(That I read) is that he is also struggling with his weight.

Struggling with weight does not automatically mean he doesn’t want the cookies.

Him struggling with his weight means OP has decided he shouldn’t have the cookies. (Because she lacks complete self-control, he must, too?)

See the difference?

You see where you are reading in something that has been said?

I asked you to show me where OP talked about her husband’s view. You couldn’t. You substituted your interpretation.