How stop the cookie gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put them in your break room at work. This is such a small problem. If you don’t work, dump them in the trash.

Again, OP cannot do this without discussing with her husband. It’s a traditional gift from his aunt. I would be livid if my husband gave away or threw away the box of chocolates that my parents traditionally send to me/my family for Christmas because “he just couldn’t control himself.” You don’t get to give or throw away a family gift from someone else’s aunt without talking to them first. Were you raised in a barn?

If you are the poster who came in guns blazing because MIL act a couple of pieces of chocolate, you really have no room to be lecturing anyone else about weird behavior.

[Anonymous]

1. Be kind and gracious is the most important.
2. Ask if she can give you fewer.
3. Share with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

She is older and I know it hard to do so much baking
She has a limited income and I know it is costly to buy all the ingredients

You don't get to decide this

Neither do you. You've posted the same message over and over again. We get it. You think OP has zero say about what comes into her home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put them in your break room at work. This is such a small problem. If you don’t work, dump them in the trash.

Again, OP cannot do this without discussing with her husband. It’s a traditional gift from his aunt. I would be livid if my husband gave away or threw away the box of chocolates that my parents traditionally send to me/my family for Christmas because “he just couldn’t control himself.” You don’t get to give or throw away a family gift from someone else’s aunt without talking to them first. Were you raised in a barn?

If you are the poster who came in guns blazing because MIL act a couple of pieces of chocolate, you really have no room to be lecturing anyone else about weird behavior.

What are you talking about? Nobody took my chocolate, which by the way hasn’t even arrived this year. But when it does, it’s for my whole family to enjoy, so if my husband threw it out or gave it away without talking about it with me first, I’d be pissed! Are you kidding with this, that you think it’s OK for a wife to take something given to the entire family by her husband’s aunt, and throw it away?

[Anonymous]

Tell her you love them, but it’s just too much. Ask her if she can give you fewer cookies next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She is older and I know it hard to do so much baking
She has a limited income and I know it is costly to buy all the ingredients

You don't get to decide this

Neither do you. You've posted the same message over and over again. We get it. You think OP has zero say about what comes into her home.

Sorry, babe. There’s more than one poster who doesn’t think one person in a family gets to throw out a gift intended for the family because she can’t stop her pudgy fingers from stuffing cookies into her pie-hole.

[Anonymous]

OP, you being fat has nothing to do with a once-a-year cookie delivery from someone who is not even related to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

She is older and I know it hard to do so much baking
She has a limited income and I know it is costly to buy all the ingredients

You don't get to decide this

Neither do you. You've posted the same message over and over again. We get it. You think OP has zero say about what comes into her home.

Sorry, babe. There’s more than one poster who doesn’t think one person in a family gets to throw out a gift intended for the family because she can’t stop her pudgy fingers from stuffing cookies into her pie-hole.

Pie-hole? Very mature response, "babe".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put them in your break room at work. This is such a small problem. If you don’t work, dump them in the trash.

Again, OP cannot do this without discussing with her husband. It’s a traditional gift from his aunt. I would be livid if my husband gave away or threw away the box of chocolates that my parents traditionally send to me/my family for Christmas because “he just couldn’t control himself.” You don’t get to give or throw away a family gift from someone else’s aunt without talking to them first. Were you raised in a barn?

If you are the poster who came in guns blazing because MIL act a couple of pieces of chocolate, you really have no room to be lecturing anyone else about weird behavior.

What are you talking about? Nobody took my chocolate, which by the way hasn’t even arrived this year. But when it does, it’s for my whole family to enjoy, so if my husband threw it out or gave it away without talking about it with me first, I’d be pissed! Are you kidding with this, that you think it’s OK for a wife to take something given to the entire family by her husband’s aunt, and throw it away?

Hit a nerve? Sorry about that.


? There was nothing about that in the response you quoted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you being fat has nothing to do with a once-a-year cookie delivery from someone who is not even related to you.

Harsh, but true. Why shouldn’t others get to enjoy some Christmas cookies because you lack self-control? Genuinely don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Op accept the gift graciously and then take it into work for the break room or a shelter if you know of one nearby. If not even just throw them away.

I would keep a couple for each of you to enjoy and that's it. A large tray is too much. Don't feel bad about throwing them away, I completely get it. We get so much food from MIL, boxes of chocolates, its too much especially at this time of year when those treats are everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

This. OP states aunt is on limited income. She bakes because she can't afford gifts. Please don't be cruel over a tray of cookies. Accept graciously as PP noted. Appreciate the thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

Geez, if you were all the way at work, you could have at least offered it to your co-workers. That seems wasteful.

Thought about it, but realized I’d probably be putting people in the same position I was in: sabotaging efforts at being healthy with crappy junk food. I have a hard time resisting treats and know others are in the same position, it was a nasty grocery store cake, no one was missing out on anything. Not worth the sugar/saturated fat/calories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In what universe is DH’s aunt bringing over treats that she traditionally bakes for his family any of your concern? If you don’t want any, don’t eat any. Why are you trying to cockblock cookies?

Hahahhahahaha cockblock cookies, that is the best thing I’ve heard in a long time.

I do sympathize with OP though. If I have cookies in the house I eat them, no question. The family always asks “who ate all the cookies??” And I’m like “me! Obviously me! It has been me every time for years!”

If I feel like the cookies will make me feel yucky I would throw them away. I don’t feel bad about it; in my stomach isn’t any better than in the trash. But now that I know how to navigate my Buy Nothing group I’ll do that instead.

I struggle so much too. A neighbor just brought us some really good cookies and I am so unhappy with how many I ate. But DH would be super upset if I threw them away. I have asked him to put them somewhere out of eye sight before, I know that is pathetic but I have so little self control with sweets, especially cookies and cake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

Geez, if you were all the way at work, you could have at least offered it to your co-workers. That seems wasteful.

Thought about it, but realized I’d probably be putting people in the same position I was in: sabotaging efforts at being healthy with crappy junk food. I have a hard time resisting treats and know others are in the same position, it was a nasty grocery store cake, no one was missing out on anything. Not worth the sugar/saturated fat/calories.

NP. There is nothing “healthy” about extremes in either direction. If you’re so extreme with your diet that the mere sight or presence of a plate of cookies sends you into panic mode, you need to work on that and get real with it. A healthy lifestyle is one where you can go out to dinner, attend a conference or a large meeting with catered food, go to someone’s party, or cook for yourself and feel comfortable and confident in all of those situations. If a plate of cookies sends you into binge mode, you’ve got food issues that go far beyond food choices and exercising.

That being said, grocery store cake is nasty. But I have no problem just…not eating it. And my husband might have one or two pieces, and then if it’s not going anywhere, we can trash it. But acting like a cake is a ticking time bomb for yourself or others is extreme and unhealthy.