How stop the cookie gift

[Anonymous]

DH has an aunt that gives us an extremely large tray of homemade cookies every year. I need to tell her to stop without being rude.

- When I tell her she doesn't have to do that, she insists that the kids like them (hey eat 1 or 2 when we visit her, but they really don't like sweets)
- She is older and I know it hard to do so much baking
- She has a limited income and I know it is costly to buy all the ingredients
- I have been struggling with my weight
- DH has been struggling with his weight

[Anonymous]

Accept the gift graciously, then give them away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Accept the gift graciously, then give them away.

+1 Give them to neighbors or take them into work. Please don't begrudge her this. She obviously likes doing it.

[Anonymous]

It might give her a lot of joy to gift them, though. Can you just throw them away?

[Anonymous]

If I had a weight problem, I won't be accepting Christmas cookies that I don't even like.

RIP to you Keebler Elves but I am different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It might give her a lot of joy to gift them, though. Can you just throw them away?

Oh never mind, PPs’ suggestions to give them to others is better! I would take second hand cookies for sure.

[Anonymous]

You let her experience the joy of giving in her way.

You let the kids enjoy a cookie or two if they wish.

You eat a few or not & toss the rest.

[Anonymous]

This is an old school thing. She thinks she is showing her love through baking. You are better off accepting them and throwing them away.

[Anonymous]

Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Accept the gift graciously, then give them away.

100% correct answer.

[Anonymous]

I just accept these types of gifts graciously and I may have a little bit if it's something that looks really yummy, but I ultimately throw it away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Accept the gift graciously, then give them away.

+1 Give them to neighbors or take them into work. Please don't begrudge her this. She obviously likes doing it.

Please don't impose the gift on neighbors unless you truly know they appreciate that sort of thing. Then you just pass on the annoyance and awkwardness. Can you resist them. If you can..sure bring to work or see if a local foodbank or shelter will take them-not likely, but I did once have a food bank be willing to put them out for people who came by to take one including volunteers. That said, it can be gross playing pass the cookie. Nobody knows what her kitchen is like and how careful she is.

You could set the boundary next year. Let her know she is a great cookie baker, but your doctor and DH's doctor said you are both pre-diabetic and must avoid. Kids used to like sugar, but now prefer fruit. If she insists, there is less guilt throwing them away once you leave, because at least you set a boundary. If she ignores it then her hard work sadly goes to waste. Tell her the gift is seeing her and you appreciate all her hard work over the years, but no need to this year.

[Anonymous]

However you do it, just be sure to dispose of them when your kids aren't looking. They may accidentally tell your aunt and it would probably be hurtful.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

Is she someone with an eating issue-either too thin or struggles being overweight? usually people with food issues are obsessed with food gifts, especially so often. I personally would tell a friend to stop. It's strange and creepy to keep giving people junk food.