How stop the cookie gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You could set the boundary next year. Let her know she is a great cookie baker, but your doctor and DH's doctor said you are both pre-diabetic and must avoid. Kids used to like sugar, but now prefer fruit. If she insists, there is less guilt throwing them away once you leave, because at least you set a boundary. If she ignores it then her hard work sadly goes to waste. Tell her the gift is seeing her and you appreciate all her hard work over the years, but no need to this year.

I like this answer. I have the same problem and a huge sweet tooth/addiction. I will eat too much of it (if not all), even if it's something I don't really like. My kids can moderate better and will just have one or two. I say this because stopping it at the source works better for me than trying to throw it out, give away, bring into work, etc.

[Anonymous]

This is one of those things that is not worth a confrontation over. There is literally no way to prevent your aunt from doing this without making a 10x bigger production than it already is. She will try baking you "healthy" cookies. She will send the cookies but address them to your kids and pointedly excuse you. She will not send them but tell everyone in the family that you won't even let her do this. Etc. It's not worth it! Just let her send them, and plan to donate them immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

Sorry I thought this was the thread with the "friend" who keeps dropping off cake and other junk, not the elderly aunt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

This. Waste makes me physically ill, but it’s not hard to see what’s more important here. Be gracious.

[Anonymous]

As with any gift, you accept it graciously and then do with it what you want.

The only boundary you can draw appropriately here is to not eat any of them if you don’t want to. If she pushes you on that, and wants you to eat them in front of her, now she’s in the wrong. I would probably eat one just to keep the peace but you’d be fine to say no.

You can’t say “don’t bake us cookies.” That’s you in the wrong. Accept them graciously and throw them away when she leaves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

So, we should stop bringing wine to hosts, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

You sound like you need a cookie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You could set the boundary next year. Let her know she is a great cookie baker, but your doctor and DH's doctor said you are both pre-diabetic and must avoid. Kids used to like sugar, but now prefer fruit. If she insists, there is less guilt throwing them away once you leave, because at least you set a boundary. If she ignores it then her hard work sadly goes to waste. Tell her the gift is seeing her and you appreciate all her hard work over the years, but no need to this year.

I like this answer. I have the same problem and a huge sweet tooth/addiction. I will eat too much of it (if not all), even if it's something I don't really like. My kids can moderate better and will just have one or two. I say this because stopping it at the source works better for me than trying to throw it out, give away, bring into work, etc.

I struggle with sweets and weight too but that’s not an excuse to be rude. Graciously accept, then put them in the trash and take it out when she leaves. Done.

[Anonymous]

Here we go again. This isn’t your call. This is your HUSBAND’S AUNT, as in they have known each other for his whole life, and even if you’ve been married 15 years, you are still relatively new on the scene. Who the hell do you think you are to take someone else’s family tradition and tell them to stop?!

Smile and say thanks. Maybe DH and your kids will eat a few, maybe not. You can offer them to other people, or trash them after a week.

Again: who are you to nix someone ELSE’S family tradition?

[Anonymous]

Freeze the cookies.

Plate it in smaller portions and bring it to the break room when you’re back in person.

Bring it to a random kids event or teacher appreciation next week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Toss them.

I have the same issue with a friend who is always buying me sweets. Last week she dropped a cake off at my house. It didn't even go inside the house, I threw it in the car and tossed it in the dumpster at work.

Is she someone with an eating issue-either too thin or struggles being overweight? usually people with food issues are obsessed with food gifts, especially so often. I personally would tell a friend to stop. It's strange and creepy to keep giving people junk food.

WTAF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I truly wonder who raised some of you. Come on, OP. You don’t tell her not to do it. You graciously accept. You can give them away.

It's not a gift when you impose unhealthy food on people who don't want it and you do it often. It's gross. She has a right to set a limit. If the person insists it tells you how disturbed she is. No need to play pass the crap. The isn't an old lady who is about to die. It's a grown women who is dumping junk. It's presumptuous to assume anyone wants this stuff especially on a regular basis. It's rude and disrespectful. if she did it once a year that would be one thing, but often? this woman doesn't value the health of her friend.

NP. OMG, are you high? We’re literally talking about holiday baking. You might have a leg to stand on if this woman were dropping by weekly or even monthly with baked goods. But we’re talking about Christmas cookies, which are traditional and totally A Thing.

No one but OP is responsible for what she actually puts in her own mouth. Depending on the age of the kids, yes, she and DH can decide what’s healthy for the kids. But my goodness, a few Christmas cookies here or there are not unhealthy—being so obsessed with calories and sugar that you see Christmas cookies as a major problem, that’s a sign of an eating disorder right there. Seek help.

[Anonymous]

Thank her profusely. Feed them to the birds.

[Anonymous]

I would give them away, either to a local police department, fire station, hospital, etc... Or, when I was at work in person, I would just leave them on a break room table and they would be gone in a day.