Mothers - How many sex partners would you want your daughter to have prior to marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear DD,
Have sex only with your DH after marriage. It is BS that you need practice for something as simple as sex. The world over in many cultures the norm is not to be promiscuous.

There are enough books and videos available to attain sex education. It is not calculus or quantum physics that you will not be able to catch on.

The culture that advocates multiple sex partners before marriage is also one that has a 50% divorce rate. And many kids are married to unmarried women. So I do not see what value pre-marital sex with multiple partners give to a woman.
-mom

Sadly, sex is not simple and you need time to unpack all the idiocy you picked up in a sex negative culture. It is far better to resolve these issues before you get married. If you get married for life, you want it to be to someone who knows they love loving you and knows why. I am saddened by people who think you can disparage sex your whole life and suddenly be uninhibited.

Hahahaha

I'm an NP but I'm just loling over the ignorance in this post. News flash: choosing to be abstinent until marriage is NOT a sex negative decision. I'm sorry you think anyone who has a number lower than one is a sadly repressed prude, but the truth is that you're wrong.

I didn't touch a man until I married my DH at 24. I was always a confident, emotionally healthy, and sexually curious virgin. I watched porn, read about sex, and was extremely educated by the time my fun and awesome wedding night came around. DH had been with other women before, but he was turned on and amazed by me because I knew exactly what I wanted and even iinstructed him on how to get me off when he went down on me.

I'm uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident, and know I'm probably the best lay DH has ever had. Oh, and he's the only man I've ever wanted.

So you can take your virgin-shaming bullshit and shove it up your ass. I'm sick of it. I really think it's the sexually active people in the world who have NO CLUE about how sexuality actually works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear DD,
Have sex only with your DH after marriage. It is BS that you need practice for something as simple as sex. The world over in many cultures the norm is not to be promiscuous.

There are enough books and videos available to attain sex education. It is not calculus or quantum physics that you will not be able to catch on.

The culture that advocates multiple sex partners before marriage is also one that has a 50% divorce rate. And many kids are married to unmarried women. So I do not see what value pre-marital sex with multiple partners give to a woman.
-mom

Sadly, sex is not simple and you need time to unpack all the idiocy you picked up in a sex negative culture. It is far better to resolve these issues before you get married. If you get married for life, you want it to be to someone who knows they love loving you and knows why. I am saddened by people who think you can disparage sex your whole life and suddenly be uninhibited.

Hahahaha

I'm an NP but I'm just loling over the ignorance in this post. News flash: choosing to be abstinent until marriage is NOT a sex negative decision. I'm sorry you think anyone who has a number lower than one is a sadly repressed prude, but the truth is that you're wrong.

I didn't touch a man until I married my DH at 24. I was always a confident, emotionally healthy, and sexually curious virgin. I watched porn, read about sex, and was extremely educated by the time my fun and awesome wedding night came around. DH had been with other women before, but he was turned on and amazed by me because I knew exactly what I wanted and even iinstructed him on how to get me off when he went down on me.

I'm uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident, and know I'm probably the best lay DH has ever had. Oh, and he's the only man I've ever wanted.

So you can take your virgin-shaming bullshit and shove it up your ass. I'm sick of it. I really think it's the sexually active people in the world who have NO CLUE about how sexuality actually works.

You aren't "uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident" because you were a virgin when you married. Chances are, if you had many partners, you'd still be all that.

Between sexually active people and sexually inactive people, I'd pick the former to know how sexuality actually works, unless you're making an argument that doing something teaches you nothing about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear DD,
Have sex only with your DH after marriage. It is BS that you need practice for something as simple as sex. The world over in many cultures the norm is not to be promiscuous.

There are enough books and videos available to attain sex education. It is not calculus or quantum physics that you will not be able to catch on.

The culture that advocates multiple sex partners before marriage is also one that has a 50% divorce rate. And many kids are married to unmarried women. So I do not see what value pre-marital sex with multiple partners give to a woman.
-mom

Sadly, sex is not simple and you need time to unpack all the idiocy you picked up in a sex negative culture. It is far better to resolve these issues before you get married. If you get married for life, you want it to be to someone who knows they love loving you and knows why. I am saddened by people who think you can disparage sex your whole life and suddenly be uninhibited.

Hahahaha

I'm an NP but I'm just loling over the ignorance in this post. News flash: choosing to be abstinent until marriage is NOT a sex negative decision. I'm sorry you think anyone who has a number lower than one is a sadly repressed prude, but the truth is that you're wrong.

I didn't touch a man until I married my DH at 24. I was always a confident, emotionally healthy, and sexually curious virgin. I watched porn, read about sex, and was extremely educated by the time my fun and awesome wedding night came around. DH had been with other women before, but he was turned on and amazed by me because I knew exactly what I wanted and even iinstructed him on how to get me off when he went down on me.

I'm uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident, and know I'm probably the best lay DH has ever had. Oh, and he's the only man I've ever wanted.

So you can take your virgin-shaming bullshit and shove it up your ass. I'm sick of it. I really think it's the sexually active people in the world who have NO CLUE about how sexuality actually works.

What would you have done if he told you he doesn't like giving oral?

[Anonymous]

No less than 1, 285, 473

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No less than 1, 285, 473

+1 for 1,285,474

[Anonymous]

Nothing extreme either way. So not 1-2 partners but not 50 either. I don't care if thats 5 parters or 16.

[Anonymous]

Considering how many American men bemoan the fact on this website that their sexually experienced wives do not like sex anymore - I find it interesting that people are asking mothers to encourage their daughters to be sexually active before marriage.

Here is a good advice to all of you who are part of the "Sex Positive Culture" - how about the mothers encourage their daughters to actually have sex with their husbands?

[Anonymous]

No encouragement to aspire to sluthood or fuck asshats like yourself. Perhaps you are confusing independent, healthy adult female sexuality with subjugation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You aren't "uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident" because you were a virgin when you married. Chances are, if you had many partners, you'd still be all that.

Yeah...I know that. My point was that virginity doesn't mean you're a sexually repressed naive prude who has a sex negative outlook, which is what the colossally ignorant PP before me said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Hahahaha

I'm an NP but I'm just loling over the ignorance in this post. News flash: choosing to be abstinent until marriage is NOT a sex negative decision. I'm sorry you think anyone who has a number lower than one is a sadly repressed prude, but the truth is that you're wrong.

I didn't touch a man until I married my DH at 24. I was always a confident, emotionally healthy, and sexually curious virgin. I watched porn, read about sex, and was extremely educated by the time my fun and awesome wedding night came around. DH had been with other women before, but he was turned on and amazed by me because I knew exactly what I wanted and even iinstructed him on how to get me off when he went down on me.

I'm uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident, and know I'm probably the best lay DH has ever had. Oh, and he's the only man I've ever wanted.

So you can take your virgin-shaming bullshit and shove it up your ass. I'm sick of it. I really think it's the sexually active people in the world who have NO CLUE about how sexuality actually works.

What would you have done if he told you he doesn't like giving oral?

Well duh, we talked about our preferences and desires all through our courtship! Made for some very sexy conversations

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Hahahaha

I'm an NP but I'm just loling over the ignorance in this post. News flash: choosing to be abstinent until marriage is NOT a sex negative decision. I'm sorry you think anyone who has a number lower than one is a sadly repressed prude, but the truth is that you're wrong.

I didn't touch a man until I married my DH at 24. I was always a confident, emotionally healthy, and sexually curious virgin. I watched porn, read about sex, and was extremely educated by the time my fun and awesome wedding night came around. DH had been with other women before, but he was turned on and amazed by me because I knew exactly what I wanted and even iinstructed him on how to get me off when he went down on me.

I'm uninhibited, fun, sexually VERY confident, and know I'm probably the best lay DH has ever had. Oh, and he's the only man I've ever wanted.

So you can take your virgin-shaming bullshit and shove it up your ass. I'm sick of it. I really think it's the sexually active people in the world who have NO CLUE about how sexuality actually works.

What would you have done if he told you he doesn't like giving oral?

I'm curious how you were able to instruct him how exactly to get you off orally when you've never tried it before? Were you going by what you thought it would feel like? I understand trying it and going with the flow of the sensation but I don't understand how you could give him specific instructions on getting you off if you didn't know what it would take to get you off.
Well duh, we talked about our preferences and desires all through our courtship! Made for some very sexy conversations

[Anonymous]

I'm curious how you were able to instruct him how exactly to get you off orally when you've never tried it before? Were you going by what you thought it would feel like? I understand trying it and going with the flow of the sensation but I don't understand how you could give him specific instructions on getting you off if you didn't know what it would take to get you off.

It's not that complicated. I knew how to masturbate, and that teaches you how your body responds. And I watched lots of porn. All those years of masturbation and fantasies and I knew exactly what I wanted him to do. It was great.

[Anonymous]

You can't learn to drive stick shift via you tube, just sayin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't learn to drive stick shift via you tube, just sayin.

Clearly you have a lot to learn. Lesson 1: Sex is not rocket science. I have a PhD, I think I know how to enjoy myself in one of humanity's most basic and natural and instinctual pleasures.

But all of these replies make it so clear to me that the notion that we live in a sexually progressive society is a total illusion. It's not a sexually progressive society. It's a society that mistakenly assumes that promiscuity = sexual awareness while these PPs are proving the opposite.