Mothers - How many sex partners would you want your daughter to have prior to marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

OP you are a disgusting person. I am pretty sure from your diction that you are the same one who posted the "mommy weight" thread.

[Anonymous]

More than 3, less than 20.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

OP you are a disgusting person. I am pretty sure from your diction that you are the same one who posted the "mommy weight" thread.

What makes this question disgusting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More than 3, less than 20.

So 21 is too many? That's so arbitrary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

Numbers aren't what would shock me. It's the reasoning behind the numbers that would shock me. If she had no partners before marriage because she thought it would make her a slut, that would shock me. If she had 7 partners because she need male sexual attention to feel good about herself, that would shock me. And if she had 50 partners as a conscious part of her own sexual exploration, I'd be fine.

So, there you go. And ease back on the thread rules, OP. This is a discussion board, not your treehouse. You don't get to dictate the rules of the conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More than 3, less than 20.

So 21 is too many? That's so arbitrary.

Picking a number is arbitrary by definition. But she even gave a range which is more general.

It is just a discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

Numbers aren't what would shock me. It's the reasoning behind the numbers that would shock me. If she had no partners before marriage because she thought it would make her a slut, that would shock me. If she had 7 partners because she need male sexual attention to feel good about herself, that would shock me. And if she had 50 partners as a conscious part of her own sexual exploration, I'd be fine.

So, there you go. And ease back on the thread rules, OP. This is a discussion board, not your treehouse. You don't get to dictate the rules of the conversation.

so 500 would be ok if she felt like she consciously wanted to explore 500 penises?

[Anonymous]

Sex partner count and incident of STD are correlated.

"There was a strong association between number of sexual partners and having an STD: those women with 5 or more sexual partners were 8 times more likely to report having an STD than those with only 1 partner, even after adjusting for age at first intercourse (odds ratio = 8.1; 95% confidence interval = 1.99, 32.64). "

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

Numbers aren't what would shock me. It's the reasoning behind the numbers that would shock me. If she had no partners before marriage because she thought it would make her a slut, that would shock me. If she had 7 partners because she need male sexual attention to feel good about herself, that would shock me. And if she had 50 partners as a conscious part of her own sexual exploration, I'd be fine.

So, there you go. And ease back on the thread rules, OP. This is a discussion board, not your treehouse. You don't get to dictate the rules of the conversation.

so 500 would be ok if she felt like she consciously wanted to explore 500 penises?

Sure. I don't see sex as inherently bad or dirty. I don't think there's a need to limit it if not/all parties are going in with open eyes and full awareness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you all are avoiding the question

this is not a thread to discuss your perceptions of gender and slut vs stud

concrete number please

Phrased differently - if your daughter told you her number - what number would shock / disappoint you?

Don't avoid the question please -

GIVE #

Numbers aren't what would shock me. It's the reasoning behind the numbers that would shock me. If she had no partners before marriage because she thought it would make her a slut, that would shock me. If she had 7 partners because she need male sexual attention to feel good about herself, that would shock me. And if she had 50 partners as a conscious part of her own sexual exploration, I'd be fine.

So, there you go. And ease back on the thread rules, OP. This is a discussion board, not your treehouse. You don't get to dictate the rules of the conversation.

so 500 would be ok if she felt like she consciously wanted to explore 500 penises?

Sure. I don't see sex as inherently bad or dirty. I don't think there's a need to limit it if not/all parties are going in with open eyes and full awareness.

Should read both/all

[Anonymous]

#1 recommendation for limiting STDS:

"Know your sexual partners and limit their number"

"The more partners you have the, the higher your risk of STD"

[Anonymous]

Do STDs play a role in your advice or hopes for your daughters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not all up my child's vagina. I don't think I would want to know exactly how many she will have. All I can do is teach and preach.

The exercise here is to put a real number on it - otherwise please depart thread!

Honey, if she's focusing on a number, her head is already in the wrong place. There isn't a quota.

+1

+1 Seriously! What kind of values are some parents sharing with their children? Too much MTV culture going around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:#1 recommendation for limiting STDS:

"Know your sexual partners and limit their number"

"The more partners you have the, the higher your risk of STD"

Well, you're conflating two issues. The original question was about morality, not std risk. But I would expect my dd to have enough self respect to protect herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:#1 recommendation for limiting STDS:

"Know your sexual partners and limit their number"

"The more partners you have the, the higher your risk of STD"

Well, you're conflating two issues. The original question was about morality, not std risk. But I would expect my dd to have enough self respect to protect herself.

OP here - no I'm not conflating any issues. The question was about total count. Nor morality or STD risk. But count.

morality, perceptions, STD, all play a part in what you tell your daughter.