Mothers - How many sex partners would you want your daughter to have prior to marriage?

[Anonymous]

The number of sex partners determine what exactly? Is 30 a good number?

[Anonymous]

0

[Anonymous]

Lol at these slutty women. Is there any wonder why the divorce rate is so high

[Anonymous]

Zero, like I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. For me the idiots (including the "Oh stop being so sensitive" Indian PP) who try to pretend arranged marriages are institutionalized rape customs/archaic and sexist are making me cringe. I'm Arab American and have always valued the close-knit community (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, both my grandmothers, and so on) that watched out for me and guided me. Nobody forced me to marry my DH, but my parents knew his parents for years and they always thought we'd make a good match.

They were right. We were both virgins when we got married, and now it's been 19.5 years. We have a healthy and happy sex life, have never been with anyone but each other, and don't desire to. I have taught my daughter and son the same values. I think it's "creepy" (liberal DCUMers seem to use that word very loosely in this thread) to just let your children engage in risk-taking intimate adult behavior with long-lasting emotional repercussions as soon as they reach an arbitrarily decided "age of consent." And then you have the nerve to judge us for protecting our kids? Shameful.

Great advice - thank you!

[Anonymous]

The whole premise of this thread is sexist. You guys suck.

[Anonymous]

Why would I want my daughter to get married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. For me the idiots (including the "Oh stop being so sensitive" Indian PP) who try to pretend arranged marriages are institutionalized rape customs/archaic and sexist are making me cringe. I'm Arab American and have always valued the close-knit community (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, both my grandmothers, and so on) that watched out for me and guided me. Nobody forced me to marry my DH, but my parents knew his parents for years and they always thought we'd make a good match.

They were right. We were both virgins when we got married, and now it's been 19.5 years. We have a healthy and happy sex life, have never been with anyone but each other, and don't desire to. I have taught my daughter and son the same values. I think it's "creepy" (liberal DCUMers seem to use that word very loosely in this thread) to just let your children engage in risk-taking intimate adult behavior with long-lasting emotional repercussions as soon as they reach an arbitrarily decided "age of consent." And then you have the nerve to judge us for protecting our kids? Shameful.

Why only two children? That's an Indian thing, not an Arab thing.

[Anonymous]

Ideally you have your first time with the man you are going to marry. No, I am not going to judge if that's not going to happen...but it is what I would wish my daughter.

Beyond that I'd wish for as little different partners as possible as I strongly hope I will be able to raise a "Sex is something you do with a person you love." kind of woman. Which would hopefully mean less partners and sex only with men she actually falls in love with first.

[Anonymous]

I don't care. I care that she only has sex that she wants to have, and is never pressured, bullied, coerced, or forced to have sex. I care that she never pressures, bullies, coerces, or forces someone else to have sex. I care that she only has sex with people who treat her with respect and kindness. I care that she treats her partners with respect and kindness. I care that she practices safe sex.

In short, I hope that she is a person of integrity, honesty, kindness, and good judgment, and that her sex life is consistent with those values.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. For me the idiots (including the "Oh stop being so sensitive" Indian PP) who try to pretend arranged marriages are institutionalized rape customs/archaic and sexist are making me cringe. I'm Arab American and have always valued the close-knit community (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, both my grandmothers, and so on) that watched out for me and guided me. Nobody forced me to marry my DH, but my parents knew his parents for years and they always thought we'd make a good match.

They were right. We were both virgins when we got married, and now it's been 19.5 years. We have a healthy and happy sex life, have never been with anyone but each other, and don't desire to. I have taught my daughter and son the same values. I think it's "creepy" (liberal DCUMers seem to use that word very loosely in this thread) to just let your children engage in risk-taking intimate adult behavior with long-lasting emotional repercussions as soon as they reach an arbitrarily decided "age of consent." And then you have the nerve to judge us for protecting our kids? Shameful.

Why only two children? That's an Indian thing, not an Arab thing.

Indian NP here. India is one of the most populous nations in the world. So encouraging people to limit the number of children to only 2 per family makes sense from the perspective of Indian govt policy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. For me the idiots (including the "Oh stop being so sensitive" Indian PP) who try to pretend arranged marriages are institutionalized rape customs/archaic and sexist are making me cringe. I'm Arab American and have always valued the close-knit community (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, both my grandmothers, and so on) that watched out for me and guided me. Nobody forced me to marry my DH, but my parents knew his parents for years and they always thought we'd make a good match.

They were right. We were both virgins when we got married, and now it's been 19.5 years. We have a healthy and happy sex life, have never been with anyone but each other, and don't desire to. I have taught my daughter and son the same values. I think it's "creepy" (liberal DCUMers seem to use that word very loosely in this thread) to just let your children engage in risk-taking intimate adult behavior with long-lasting emotional repercussions as soon as they reach an arbitrarily decided "age of consent." And then you have the nerve to judge us for protecting our kids? Shameful.

Why only two children? That's an Indian thing, not an Arab thing.

Indian NP here. India is one of the most populous nations in the world. So encouraging people to limit the number of children to only 2 per family makes sense from the perspective of Indian govt policy.

I agree completely, my point was that it's not an Arab thing to have only two children.

[Anonymous]

As many or as few as she'd like provided it didn't interfere with her life in a negative way. As long as she is healthy, happy and confident then I'm happy. I would prefer she waited until adulthood to start having sex (at least 18ish).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Indian NP here. India is one of the most populous nations in the world. So encouraging people to limit the number of children to only 2 per family makes sense from the perspective of Indian govt policy.

I agree completely, my point was that it's not an Arab thing to have only two children.

It is an individual choice don't you think? After all you would not say having 19 kids is an American White Christian thing, just because the Duggars have a large family!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care. I care that she only has sex that she wants to have, and is never pressured, bullied, coerced, or forced to have sex. I care that she never pressures, bullies, coerces, or forces someone else to have sex. I care that she only has sex with people who treat her with respect and kindness. I care that she treats her partners with respect and kindness. I care that she practices safe sex.

In short, I hope that she is a person of integrity, honesty, kindness, and good judgment, and that her sex life is consistent with those values.

+ 1. And this would be my hope for my son as well.