Mothers - How many sex partners would you want your daughter to have prior to marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Oh stop being so sensitive. I'm Indian as well and don't think it's my business to be dictating how many sex partners my daughter should have. Obviously, I don't want her to ever feel degraded or hurt, but if her future husband isn't her first partner, not my business. As far as the divorce rate, negative stigma and being an outcast from the community plays a large part into why there aren't as many Indian couples you hear divorcing, not because an arranged marriage is the magic trick.

I'm the Indian PP that you accused of being sensitive. Maybe you had a reading comprehension problem of some kind? I'm sorry that you think polite disagreement on how we view children is called being "sensitive". If anything, you're the one who is defensively arguing your position and you come across as much more "sensitive".

Oh wait, never mind. You were responding the arranged marriage PP, not me (I'm the "it seems very alien to me" Indian PP).

FYI, I still think your response was as inappropriate as the judgmental PP you were quoting.

[Anonymous]

NP. For me the idiots (including the "Oh stop being so sensitive" Indian PP) who try to pretend arranged marriages are institutionalized rape customs/archaic and sexist are making me cringe. I'm Arab American and have always valued the close-knit community (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, both my grandmothers, and so on) that watched out for me and guided me. Nobody forced me to marry my DH, but my parents knew his parents for years and they always thought we'd make a good match.

They were right. We were both virgins when we got married, and now it's been 19.5 years. We have a healthy and happy sex life, have never been with anyone but each other, and don't desire to. I have taught my daughter and son the same values. I think it's "creepy" (liberal DCUMers seem to use that word very loosely in this thread) to just let your children engage in risk-taking intimate adult behavior with long-lasting emotional repercussions as soon as they reach an arbitrarily decided "age of consent." And then you have the nerve to judge us for protecting our kids? Shameful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Thank you.

The anti-Indian racism on DCUM gives me a headache sometimes. It's more pervasive than anything else, and the sad thing is that these are people in my city, likely from my social and economic class, maybe even my neighborhood. It makes me doubt the feeling of comfort and security in my race being a non-factor, a feeling I always had before.

[Anonymous]

The same as my son's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Yea, because its reported here. You think all rapes are reported in india? A country where womwn are so incredivly respected?

Carry on wirh your fantacy. Being a woman in India is a hazard and I'm not taking my sexual and marriage cue's from that those antiquated customs and tradtions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. For me the idiots (including the "Oh stop being so sensitive" Indian PP) who try to pretend arranged marriages are institutionalized rape customs/archaic and sexist are making me cringe. I'm Arab American and have always valued the close-knit community (parents, aunts, uncles, cousins, both my grandmothers, and so on) that watched out for me and guided me. Nobody forced me to marry my DH, but my parents knew his parents for years and they always thought we'd make a good match.

They were right. We were both virgins when we got married, and now it's been 19.5 years. We have a healthy and happy sex life, have never been with anyone but each other, and don't desire to. I have taught my daughter and son the same values. I think it's "creepy" (liberal DCUMers seem to use that word very loosely in this thread) to just let your children engage in risk-taking intimate adult behavior with long-lasting emotional repercussions as soon as they reach an arbitrarily decided "age of consent." And then you have the nerve to judge us for protecting our kids? Shameful.

I'm the 'idiot' Indian poster. Where did I say arranged marriages are 'institutionalized rape customs?' Both of my sisters had arranged marriages - not by force of any kind but being introduced to bils - and have wonderful husbands. My bils are like brothers to me.

I was responding to the other pp that just because Indians have a lower divorce percentage, it doesn't mean it's because they have less problems. Was I harsh? Yes, but I'm sick of many people in the community with all these standards that seem sexist for the most part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Thank you.

The anti-Indian racism on DCUM gives me a headache sometimes. It's more pervasive than anything else, and the sad thing is that these are people in my city, likely from my social and economic class, maybe even my neighborhood. It makes me doubt the feeling of comfort and security in my race being a non-factor, a feeling I always had before.

I'm terrified of Indian men. Especially those hay are clearly foreign. They always come across as sexist and I'm also trying to avoid being gang raped. Listening to an Indian for relationship advice is like having someone from the KKK lecture me about showing others respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Thank you.

The anti-Indian racism on DCUM gives me a headache sometimes. It's more pervasive than anything else, and the sad thing is that these are people in my city, likely from my social and economic class, maybe even my neighborhood. It makes me doubt the feeling of comfort and security in my race being a non-factor, a feeling I always had before.

I'm terrified of Indian men. Especially those hay are clearly foreign. They always come across as sexist and I'm also trying to avoid being gang raped. Listening to an Indian for relationship advice is like having someone from the KKK lecture me about showing others respect.

Don't worry. Despite your fantasies of being gang-raped - no Indian man will touch you with a barge pole. No one is also giving you relationship advice because you seem to be an individual with low IQ. No point wasting anytime with losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Thank you.

The anti-Indian racism on DCUM gives me a headache sometimes. It's more pervasive than anything else, and the sad thing is that these are people in my city, likely from my social and economic class, maybe even my neighborhood. It makes me doubt the feeling of comfort and security in my race being a non-factor, a feeling I always had before.

I'm terrified of Indian men. Especially those hay are clearly foreign. They always come across as sexist and I'm also trying to avoid being gang raped. Listening to an Indian for relationship advice is like having someone from the KKK lecture me about showing others respect.

Don't worry. Despite your fantasies of being gang-raped - no Indian man will touch you with a barge pole. No one is also giving you relationship advice because you seem to be an individual with low IQ. No point wasting anytime with losers.

Your post only proves the other comments about Indian men. I do not have a fantasy about gang rape. That's such an awful thing to say to a woman. I also wouldn't mention poles as they use those in Indian to rape women and in some instances, kill them. Horrific crimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Thank you.

The anti-Indian racism on DCUM gives me a headache sometimes. It's more pervasive than anything else, and the sad thing is that these are people in my city, likely from my social and economic class, maybe even my neighborhood. It makes me doubt the feeling of comfort and security in my race being a non-factor, a feeling I always had before.

I'm terrified of Indian men. Especially those hay are clearly foreign. They always come across as sexist and I'm also trying to avoid being gang raped. Listening to an Indian for relationship advice is like having someone from the KKK lecture me about showing others respect.

Don't worry. Despite your fantasies of being gang-raped - no Indian man will touch you with a barge pole. No one is also giving you relationship advice because you seem to be an individual with low IQ. No point wasting anytime with losers.

Look at how twisyed your view of sex is. You think rape is a fantasy. Get help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
No shortage of rape victims in India to poll.

I'm not taking marriage or sex advice from a woman from India. Women in India are luck to make it past birth.

No shortage of rape victims in US as well.

No need for any Indian woman to give marriage and sex advice to you, since those two aspects of your life are statistically already on the path of destruction. Bon Voyage!

Thank you.

The anti-Indian racism on DCUM gives me a headache sometimes. It's more pervasive than anything else, and the sad thing is that these are people in my city, likely from my social and economic class, maybe even my neighborhood. It makes me doubt the feeling of comfort and security in my race being a non-factor, a feeling I always had before.

I'm terrified of Indian men. Especially those hay are clearly foreign. They always come across as sexist and I'm also trying to avoid being gang raped. Listening to an Indian for relationship advice is like having someone from the KKK lecture me about showing others respect.

Don't worry. Despite your fantasies of being gang-raped - no Indian man will touch you with a barge pole. No one is also giving you relationship advice because you seem to be an individual with low IQ. No point wasting anytime with losers.

Your post only proves the other comments about Indian men. I do not have a fantasy about gang rape. That's such an awful thing to say to a woman. I also wouldn't mention poles as they use those in Indian to rape women and in some instances, kill them. Horrific crimes.

Your post just reveals that you are obsessed with gangrapes and poles.

[Anonymous]

That Indian-hater is either a fairly good troll, or a psycho.

Either way, it's depression that this thread turning into Indian bashing.

[Anonymous]

NP.

Didn't read 30 pages.

Answer: 0.

I hope they both save themselves for each other. They can figure out what they like and build their freakiness together.

[Anonymous]

This lady said it better than I ever could:

http://www.mommyish.com/2014/09/10/mom-teaching-daughter-not-to-be-promiscuous/#ixzz3D25AZ9usMeredith