What happens to the "dud" husbands after divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:She only _thought_ I was a dud. I was a winner all along, and she was and continues to be a loser.

My income is up 40 percent, and I've slept with a couple of dozen women who are 10-30 years younger than me since the divorce.

I've made two major mistakes in life: getting married, and having children.

She was right and you just admitted it. Anyone who regrets their children IS a dud as a father and parenting partner. I doubt your ex is impressed by your sex life now, but I hope she’s keeping an eye on your bank account and taking what her kids are owed.

you left your kids to go sleep with girls 30yrs younger than you? That's winning? sick

DP but lol, that's absolutely winning from a male perspective. Making a lot of money, which you parlay into having sex with dozens of young women - that is the dream.

When you decide to get divorced the dream is to get away from the woman who treats you with contempt and indifference. Everything after that is absolute bliss!

Probably not for your children and future children.

Women initiate 75% of divorces. Evidently they don't care about the happiness of their children, or can easily convince themselves that the kids will be fine or even better off after divorce (though it's really all about what she wants). As the man in this situation, it doesn't matter what you want or what might be best for the kids, it's happening anyway.

My ex left me and I was stuck "married". So I initiated a divorce. There are entire pages for people whose husbands just abandoned the family. Even more for people who are married to addicts or physically abusive partners. You want them to just stay married?

Yeah yeah, we know the DCUM consensus that whenever a woman initiates divorce it's always because her husband sucks and it's all his fault.

[Anonymous]

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I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

My brother and father don’t fall into either camp as they aren’t divorced and dating in their 40s. I’m not the pp who wrote that men are horrible. I date men! I’m just pointing out that men on the dating scene in their 40s seem to be most difficult to date. There’s no judgment in that- it’s just been my experience. It’s . I haven’t dated women in that age range so can’t speak to what men might face on the dating scene. I bet they have lots of experiences that are negative too- no doubt!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

[Anonymous]

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I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

Oh this description of freedom after divorce is amazing! Exactly how I feel. My exH would never find his own keys, would leave personal belongings at grocery store and blame me for "losing" them at home. Never did his laundry, or even picked up his dishes after dinner.

Now he lives alone, cooks alone and I do the same. Each of us became more independent and happier.

I would love to remarry if I find a true commitment but if not I will adopt another child

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

Oh this description of freedom after divorce is amazing! Exactly how I feel. My exH would never find his own keys, would leave personal belongings at grocery store and blame me for "losing" them at home. Never did his laundry, or even picked up his dishes after dinner.

Now he lives alone, cooks alone and I do the same. Each of us became more independent and happier.

I would love to remarry if I find a true commitment but if not I will adopt another child

That's interesting. I've also considered foster care. I feel like it might be more rewarding than marrying again. I just can't take care of a 60 year old man the same way I can a child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I’m not PP, but I think this person did a fine job of illustrating how myopically hateful you are.

I do like how “happy to help”you were to help me draw the conclusion I’d previously come to, that was cute.

Odd you did not think it was not "myopically hateful" for you (and you are the PP) to write "Men are horrible. There are only two types and they both suck" in an earlier post.

You should not use words you do not understand. And your bitterness has made you a hypocrite.

Which of the two types of men does your father fall into? How about your brother? How about your son?

Saying everyone in a certain group "sucks" should be a clue for you to take a hard look at your values.

You’re confused.

An upset man edited the post to say “men are horrible”. The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible, we just shared experiences.

Funny how one guy tried to prove a point by saying “men are horrible”, and another guy thought it was a woman saying it. Y’all need to calm down.

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

Thank you for clarifying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

Oh this description of freedom after divorce is amazing! Exactly how I feel. My exH would never find his own keys, would leave personal belongings at grocery store and blame me for "losing" them at home. Never did his laundry, or even picked up his dishes after dinner.

Now he lives alone, cooks alone and I do the same. Each of us became more independent and happier.

I bet you're not independent of his money though.

[Anonymous]

Yes I am "upset" when people are not honest. The PP dishonestly tried to maintain that men in this thread overreacted to her unobjectionable argument that she's happy being single. In fact, she said that there are two types of men ("one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of") and it is perfectly fair to say she thinks these two types of men are horrible. Now you are dishonestly trying to gaslight us about what she said and even to gaslight us into believing a man said that, not a woman.

The PP said that *in her dating experience* men either wanted to sleep around or wanted someone to take care of them, and she’s interested in neither so she remains happily single. No woman here said anything about men being horrible

Listen to yourself. You directly say that a woman said men either want to sleep around or they want a caretaker. Then you say "no woman said anything about men being horrible". Do you really think we're stupid enough to believe you do not think men who want to sleep around or want a caretaker are not horrible? GMAFB.

DP - This is a great post.

The poster used words found in the prior poster's own posts to illustrate the point he (or she) was making. The post was well written, easy to read, and on point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

Hahah I'd never heard that before. Hilarious. Thank you.

- NP

Oh, and you're right about all of this. I think I escaped most of this dynamic because I did indeed fall in love with a very specific man (I didn't even want to get married), but I see it everywhere.

[Anonymous]

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I’m 47 and dating. I’ve found there are two types- one wants the one night stand/conquest/is reliving their youth: the other wants to move in and be taken care of.

I’m not interested in either, so remain single and happy.

What a sad, little person you are to try to group millions of the men who are over 40 and dating) into two groups.

You should remain single. Anyone who married you would become sad.

Women: I'm much happier being single

Men: OMG YOU SHOULD STAY SINGLE YOU HORRIBLE WOMAN.

Like...okay? Great insight, dude. Reminds me of my younger days at the office, when men would say literally the same thing I just did and think they were brilliant.

Haha seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

I know plenty of divorced moms - from dating them - and I would hesitate to describe them as generally "so much happier single" or "living their best life" (a profoundly stupid expression). The majority of them are on anti-depressants and are in therapy. Sure, you may say "that's just the ones you are attracting" but they looked normal enough in their profiles and once you've encountered the tenth psychologically troubled older woman you have to think this is a trend not an outlier. But hey revel in your "freedom" I guess.

"You never wash any other adults laundry" - if you were a SAHM that was actually your job, but let me assure you that when I was married, I did my own laundry and the kid's laundry as well as cooking for myself. There was precious little of her "taking care of me" and I simply don't expect that from women.

"even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands" -- yes that is the consistent theme of DCUM Relationships, miserable peevish women complaining incessantly about their husbands. It is hard to imagine that divorce would make their husbands very unhappy, or that any other man would subsequently want to be around such a perpetually disgruntled creature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

Alternatively, men remarry at higher rates because women see how much better off they are financially if they are married to a halfway-competent man (notwithstanding their other flaws) and they beat down a path to these men's doors. And middle-age women have been stripped of the youth and beauty that compels men into marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do.

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist. Some of it is actually true. Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce. FACT. That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.

ha! you don't remember the little girl who wrote that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age. It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow.

Alternatively, men remarry at higher rates because women see how much better off they are financially if they are married to a halfway-competent man (notwithstanding their other flaws) and they beat down a path to these men's doors. And middle-age women have been stripped of the youth and beauty that compels men into marriage.

So how is this negating the person who said they only find men who want sex or a nurse? If she’s stripped of her youth and beauty maybe she does only get those types of people interested in her. The person angry with her has a reading comprehension problem btw. She didn’t say there were only two types of guys on the planet. She said she only met guys who wanted to be with her online who wanted sex or wanted her to take care of them. So they see her as a whore or a mom. Which kind of matches up with this take from men on older women. The person who keeps adding the word horrible doesn’t seem to think there could also be other men not dating or married or who date outside of online dating or who date younger people and not her. I’m sure there are some other groups I’ve missed but people she meets online dating so not comprise the entire male race and I’m sure she knows this.