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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry, ladies but men have a lot easier of a time rebounding after divorce than you do. [/quote]

This is just not true. It is not 1965. It is far easier for women [/quote]

Look, not every thing said on DCUM when it comes to men versus women is sexist.  Some of it is actually true.  Men remarry more quickly and more often than women in this country after divorce.  FACT.  That to me is pretty good evidence that they “rebound” more quickly.  [/quote]

ha! you don't remember  the little girl who wrote  that when she grows up she wants to be a widow? For a lot of women- unless they fall in love with a specific man, men are just a burden once they have their kids. Women have deep friendships, better relationships with their kids and generally seem to thrive more while single. I say this as a very happily married woman and I look forward to life with my husband but I'd never replace him, no-one else on this earth is worth the bother besides him.

I know a few divorced women and they are blooming and so much happier single- living their best life and it would have to be A very special man to make them get roped into having to do the groundwork of bing married again. being married means that you cant just put the rug, the lamp wherever you want, that you cant just have Tacos for breakfast and a Ferrero rocker fro dinner, that you cant go hey- this flight is cheap, I have childcare, im going to LA this weekend. You never wash any other adults laundry, or their dishes again, you never look at something lost or broken that someone else did. There is a lot of freedom in being a single mom in your 40s+, I know most women revel in that freedom and even the married women I know are kinda sick of their husbands in their 60s and just want to quit the "wifing" -being a wife is kind of annoying in a way that being a husband isn't. [b]Thats why men get remarried ta higher rates- having a wife means someone is taking care of you, being a wife means you have to do the caring and most women are sick of that ish by the time they are that age.[/b] It isn't cute anymore- i didn't expect my husband to do a lot of stuff when we were in our 20s and 30s that I now expect him to d b/c I take care of my kids- he's an adult I don't want to clean his dirt up, its an irritant. I can imagine that as we get older my desire to take care of anyone else is going to shrink, not grow. [/quote]

Alternatively, men remarry at higher rates because women see how much better off they are financially if they are married to a halfway-competent man (notwithstanding their other flaws) and they beat down a path to these men's doors.  And middle-age women have been stripped of the youth and beauty that compels men into marriage.[/quote]

So how is this negating the person who said they only find men who want sex or a nurse? If she’s stripped of her youth and beauty maybe she does only get those types of people interested in her. The person angry with her has a reading comprehension problem btw. She didn’t say there were only two types of guys on the planet. She said she only met guys who wanted to be with her online who wanted sex or wanted her to take care of them. So they see her as a whore or a mom. Which kind of matches up with this take from men on older women. The person who keeps adding the word horrible doesn’t seem to think there could also be other men not dating or married or who date outside of online dating or who date younger people and not her. I’m sure there are some other groups I’ve missed but people she meets online dating so not comprise the entire male race and I’m sure she knows this. [/quote]

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