Upstairs is off-limits to guests

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Anonymous wrote:Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

I would seriously just do what I always do and either 1) step outside or 2) take the call in my car. The end. Done.

PP back. Same. I have no idea why I would have to inconvenience my host with my own, unrelated situation.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

I have never had a guest ask to take a work phone call in my master bedroom. I can't imagine myself making a request like that, either. People get work calls all the time - in the check out line, at restaurants, at school pick up, etc....somehow they manage. Goodness how do you get through life.

This may shock you. But some people live in homes without master bedrooms. We lived in a 1 BR apartment for years and if a guest needed to do anything out of sight of others it was in our bedroom. But it seems like some of the pearl clutchers on these threads are McMansion types.

They should still ASK the host before ASSuming that the master bedroom is their private place. If the host says "Please feel free to use our bedroom to nurse Larlo" then there you are. It's not that hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

I would seriously just do what I always do and either 1) step outside or 2) take the call in my car. The end. Done.

PP back. Same. I have no idea why I would have to inconvenience my host with my own, unrelated situation.

I don’t know why someone would see entering a bedroom to have some privacy as an inconvenience. My house isn’t a fortress. People are welcome to use it. It’s winter-they don’t need to go out into the cold.

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22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

I have never had a guest ask to take a work phone call in my master bedroom. I can't imagine myself making a request like that, either. People get work calls all the time - in the check out line, at restaurants, at school pick up, etc....somehow they manage. Goodness how do you get through life.

This may shock you. But some people live in homes without master bedrooms. We lived in a 1 BR apartment for years and if a guest needed to do anything out of sight of others it was in our bedroom. But it seems like some of the pearl clutchers on these threads are McMansion types.

They should still ASK the host before ASSuming that the master bedroom is their private place. If the host says "Please feel free to use our bedroom to nurse Larlo" then there you are. It's not that hard.

That’s how you manage your guests. My guests doesn’t need to ask because my home is their home. You have different relationships, clearly.

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

In sum: some poster feels very strongly that no one should enter the upstairs of a home without permission explicitly granted by the host while others think that’s way uptight host behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

One group of posters still live like kids in dorms or share houses, where nothing is private and there are most likely people drinking and making out in every corner of every room.

The other group of posters have homes with entertaining space(s) and then areas of the house that are not entertaining spaces, and they expect guests who are at their house for an event to stay where the event is being held unless they're invited or ask to go elsewhere.

The first group can't understand why the second group isn't comfortable with them just poking around the entire house whenever they feel like it (including going up stairs that they weren't welcomed to go up, or opening doors that they weren't welcomed to open) to satisfy their curiosity.

The second group wonders how to identify the first group so we can not invite them to our events.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

One group of posters still live like kids in dorms or share houses, where nothing is private and there are most likely people drinking and making out in every corner of every room.

The other group of posters have homes with entertaining space(s) and then areas of the house that are not entertaining spaces, and they expect guests who are at their house for an event to stay where the event is being held unless they're invited or ask to go elsewhere.

The first group can't understand why the second group isn't comfortable with them just poking around the entire house whenever they feel like it (including going up stairs that they weren't welcomed to go up, or opening doors that they weren't welcomed to open) to satisfy their curiosity.

The second group wonders how to identify the first group so we can not invite them to our events.

+ at least seven: my mom, my five sisters, and I

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

I would seriously just do what I always do and either 1) step outside or 2) take the call in my car. The end. Done.

PP back. Same. I have no idea why I would have to inconvenience my host with my own, unrelated situation.

I don’t know why someone would see entering a bedroom to have some privacy as an inconvenience. My house isn’t a fortress. People are welcome to use it. It’s winter-they don’t need to go out into the cold.

I generally don't make my own master bedroom "guest ready" because it is a private room in my house. There might be a laundry basket with dirty clothes in it. I might not have gotten around to dusting the furniture or cleaning the master bathroom. That isn't a big deal because I do have plenty of spaces in my house that are absolutely guest ready. I have a nice t.v. room that a guest could use to take a phone call or nurse a baby. There is absolutely no reason at all for them to be going into my bedroom - especially w/o my permission.

You might be fine with people wandering in and out of your own private living quarters. Do not assume that all hosts feel as you do. Some find that sort of thing to be highly intrusive and presumptuous of a guest.

You strike me as the type of person who would get their nose out of joint if you entered a master bedroom and the host clearly did not appreciate you being there. Instead of apologizing you would get huffy and try to make them feel like a bad host. At least that is the impression that I get.

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

One group of posters still live like kids in dorms or share houses, where nothing is private and there are most likely people drinking and making out in every corner of every room.

The other group of posters have homes with entertaining space(s) and then areas of the house that are not entertaining spaces, and they expect guests who are at their house for an event to stay where the event is being held unless they're invited or ask to go elsewhere.

The first group can't understand why the second group isn't comfortable with them just poking around the entire house whenever they feel like it (including going up stairs that they weren't welcomed to go up, or opening doors that they weren't welcomed to open) to satisfy their curiosity.

The second group wonders how to identify the first group so we can not invite them to our events.

+ at least seven: my mom, my five sisters, and I

Exaggerate much? There appears to be a poster on this thread who equates not walling off their upstairs to allowing guests to go through their underwear drawer. The poster needs to find a better class of friends.

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

One group of posters still live like kids in dorms or share houses, where nothing is private and there are most likely people drinking and making out in every corner of every room.

The other group of posters have homes with entertaining space(s) and then areas of the house that are not entertaining spaces, and they expect guests who are at their house for an event to stay where the event is being held unless they're invited or ask to go elsewhere.

The first group can't understand why the second group isn't comfortable with them just poking around the entire house whenever they feel like it (including going up stairs that they weren't welcomed to go up, or opening doors that they weren't welcomed to open) to satisfy their curiosity.

The second group wonders how to identify the first group so we can not invite them to our events.

Ha! Nailed it!!

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

One group of posters still live like kids in dorms or share houses, where nothing is private and there are most likely people drinking and making out in every corner of every room.

The other group of posters have homes with entertaining space(s) and then areas of the house that are not entertaining spaces, and they expect guests who are at their house for an event to stay where the event is being held unless they're invited or ask to go elsewhere.

The first group can't understand why the second group isn't comfortable with them just poking around the entire house whenever they feel like it (including going up stairs that they weren't welcomed to go up, or opening doors that they weren't welcomed to open) to satisfy their curiosity.

The second group wonders how to identify the first group so we can not invite them to our events.

+ at least seven: my mom, my five sisters, and I

Exaggerate much? There appears to be a poster on this thread who equates not walling off their upstairs to allowing guests to go through their underwear drawer. The poster needs to find a better class of friends.

Your friends wander in/out of your master bedroom like it's grand central station. My friends know better...

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Anonymous wrote:Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

I would seriously just do what I always do and either 1) step outside or 2) take the call in my car. The end. Done.

PP back. Same. I have no idea why I would have to inconvenience my host with my own, unrelated situation.

I don’t know why someone would see entering a bedroom to have some privacy as an inconvenience. My house isn’t a fortress. People are welcome to use it. It’s winter-they don’t need to go out into the cold.

I generally don't make my own master bedroom "guest ready" because it is a private room in my house. There might be a laundry basket with dirty clothes in it. I might not have gotten around to dusting the furniture or cleaning the master bathroom. That isn't a big deal because I do have plenty of spaces in my house that are absolutely guest ready. I have a nice t.v. room that a guest could use to take a phone call or nurse a baby. There is absolutely no reason at all for them to be going into my bedroom - especially w/o my permission.

You might be fine with people wandering in and out of your own private living quarters. Do not assume that all hosts feel as you do. Some find that sort of thing to be highly intrusive and presumptuous of a guest.

You strike me as the type of person who would get their nose out of joint if you entered a master bedroom and the host clearly did not appreciate you being there. Instead of apologizing you would get huffy and try to make them feel like a bad host. At least that is the impression that I get.

Nope. I’m pretty laid back unlike many people on this thread, and I have family from different cultures so I recognize that manners are different in different homes. I’m also not the type to assume that everyone even has a master bedroom, or that all people are fortunate enough to even have space to call their own. There’s a lot of privilege on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:22 pages? What are you all talking about?!

One group of posters still live like kids in dorms or share houses, where nothing is private and there are most likely people drinking and making out in every corner of every room.

The other group of posters have homes with entertaining space(s) and then areas of the house that are not entertaining spaces, and they expect guests who are at their house for an event to stay where the event is being held unless they're invited or ask to go elsewhere.

The first group can't understand why the second group isn't comfortable with them just poking around the entire house whenever they feel like it (including going up stairs that they weren't welcomed to go up, or opening doors that they weren't welcomed to open) to satisfy their curiosity.

The second group wonders how to identify the first group so we can not invite them to our events.

+ at least seven: my mom, my five sisters, and I

Exaggerate much? There appears to be a poster on this thread who equates not walling off their upstairs to allowing guests to go through their underwear drawer. The poster needs to find a better class of friends.

Your friends wander in/out of your master bedroom like it's grand central station. My friends know better...

Yup. My home is a fun place not a fortress. There are kids running around and playing adults who come and interact with them. I know that you will need to take a Xanax after reading this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

I would seriously just do what I always do and either 1) step outside or 2) take the call in my car. The end. Done.

PP back. Same. I have no idea why I would have to inconvenience my host with my own, unrelated situation.

I don’t know why someone would see entering a bedroom to have some privacy as an inconvenience. My house isn’t a fortress. People are welcome to use it. It’s winter-they don’t need to go out into the cold.

I generally don't make my own master bedroom "guest ready" because it is a private room in my house. There might be a laundry basket with dirty clothes in it. I might not have gotten around to dusting the furniture or cleaning the master bathroom. That isn't a big deal because I do have plenty of spaces in my house that are absolutely guest ready. I have a nice t.v. room that a guest could use to take a phone call or nurse a baby. There is absolutely no reason at all for them to be going into my bedroom - especially w/o my permission.

You might be fine with people wandering in and out of your own private living quarters. Do not assume that all hosts feel as you do. Some find that sort of thing to be highly intrusive and presumptuous of a guest.

You strike me as the type of person who would get their nose out of joint if you entered a master bedroom and the host clearly did not appreciate you being there. Instead of apologizing you would get huffy and try to make them feel like a bad host. At least that is the impression that I get.

Nope. I’m pretty laid back unlike many people on this thread, and I have family from different cultures so I recognize that manners are different in different homes. I’m also not the type to assume that everyone even has a master bedroom, or that all people are fortunate enough to even have space to call their own. There’s a lot of privilege on this thread.

Oh, give me a break. You were talking about how you have a big open door policy on your master bedroom. Your guests are free to wander your home at will and go wherever they want to go....your house is not a fortress and yada yada. We heard you. Don't back pedal now and claim you live in a one room shack because you know that isn't true.