Upstairs is off-limits to guests

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when to grown adults invite their friends to hang out in their bedrooms? I haven't done anything like that since I was living in a dorm room. Even my first crappy group rental had a common area that we all hung out in.

I am trying to imagine dh & I having guests wandering in/out of our bedroom to "get stuff" and I just can not see that ever being o.k. And I mean ever.

Ok. Good for you. Other people have other experiences.

Cool. I've been in a lot of homes....enough to say that people traipsing into the host's private living areas is not normal.

I have friends that I got together with at least once a week and I don't think we ever went into each other's master bedrooms. We usually sat at a kitchen table drinking coffee, chatting and watching our kids play. I never once went through their medicine cabinets and I'm pretty positive that they never went through mine, either.

True friends don't pry and snoop like that. They just don't.

There’s a difference between entering someone’s bedroom and snooping through their drawers. Sorry you can’t see that and that you have such odd friends who go through your things. My friends wouldn’t do that.

What are you doing in their bedroom?

What are you doing in their bedroom that couldn't be achieved without a quick word to gain their permission?

Picking up their coats, nursing a baby, taking a phone call away from the noise of a party. These are all things my guests have done. You all must not host much. And if you do host and want to place restrictions on where people go, you do you. But it’s far from universal.

I can see getting my own coat back if the host was not available to retrieve it for me. I didn't choose to put my belongings in that room and I actually do need my coat back.

I can not see taking a phone call or nursing a baby in the host's master bedroom w/o their permission. You always ask. Always.

Newsflash: different people do things differently. It happens when there are 7 billion people on a planet.

Well, when in Rome you do as the host says. If you are not absolutely positive that you have your host's permission to go into their private living quarters then you get permission before you go into their private living space.

You can go out to your own car to take a phone call in privacy.

That’s how you choose to manage your guests. I would think it’s rude to force a guest to go out in the cold to take a call when I have rooms they could be comfortable in.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when to grown adults invite their friends to hang out in their bedrooms? I haven't done anything like that since I was living in a dorm room. Even my first crappy group rental had a common area that we all hung out in.

I am trying to imagine dh & I having guests wandering in/out of our bedroom to "get stuff" and I just can not see that ever being o.k. And I mean ever.

Ok. Good for you. Other people have other experiences.

Cool. I've been in a lot of homes....enough to say that people traipsing into the host's private living areas is not normal.

I have friends that I got together with at least once a week and I don't think we ever went into each other's master bedrooms. We usually sat at a kitchen table drinking coffee, chatting and watching our kids play. I never once went through their medicine cabinets and I'm pretty positive that they never went through mine, either.

True friends don't pry and snoop like that. They just don't.

There’s a difference between entering someone’s bedroom and snooping through their drawers. Sorry you can’t see that and that you have such odd friends who go through your things. My friends wouldn’t do that.

What are you doing in their bedroom?

What are you doing in their bedroom that couldn't be achieved without a quick word to gain their permission?

Picking up their coats, nursing a baby, taking a phone call away from the noise of a party. These are all things my guests have done. You all must not host much. And if you do host and want to place restrictions on where people go, you do you. But it’s far from universal.

I can see getting my own coat back if the host was not available to retrieve it for me. I didn't choose to put my belongings in that room and I actually do need my coat back.

I can not see taking a phone call or nursing a baby in the host's master bedroom w/o their permission. You always ask. Always.

Newsflash: different people do things differently. It happens when there are 7 billion people on a planet.

If a nursing mom felt she needed my permission to find a quiet place in my house I would feel like she thought I was not a very welcoming person.

You would be cool with her going into YOUR master bedroom and locking you/your husband out of it while she nurses? Come on, feeding a baby is not your excuse to commandeer your host's private living quarters. You ASK the host where you can nurse in privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when to grown adults invite their friends to hang out in their bedrooms? I haven't done anything like that since I was living in a dorm room. Even my first crappy group rental had a common area that we all hung out in.

I am trying to imagine dh & I having guests wandering in/out of our bedroom to "get stuff" and I just can not see that ever being o.k. And I mean ever.

Ok. Good for you. Other people have other experiences.

Cool. I've been in a lot of homes....enough to say that people traipsing into the host's private living areas is not normal.

I have friends that I got together with at least once a week and I don't think we ever went into each other's master bedrooms. We usually sat at a kitchen table drinking coffee, chatting and watching our kids play. I never once went through their medicine cabinets and I'm pretty positive that they never went through mine, either.

True friends don't pry and snoop like that. They just don't.

There’s a difference between entering someone’s bedroom and snooping through their drawers. Sorry you can’t see that and that you have such odd friends who go through your things. My friends wouldn’t do that.

What are you doing in their bedroom?

What are you doing in their bedroom that couldn't be achieved without a quick word to gain their permission?

Picking up their coats, nursing a baby, taking a phone call away from the noise of a party. These are all things my guests have done. You all must not host much. And if you do host and want to place restrictions on where people go, you do you. But it’s far from universal.

I can see getting my own coat back if the host was not available to retrieve it for me. I didn't choose to put my belongings in that room and I actually do need my coat back.

I can not see taking a phone call or nursing a baby in the host's master bedroom w/o their permission. You always ask. Always.

Newsflash: different people do things differently. It happens when there are 7 billion people on a planet.

Well, when in Rome you do as the host says. If you are not absolutely positive that you have your host's permission to go into their private living quarters then you get permission before you go into their private living space.

You can go out to your own car to take a phone call in privacy.

That’s how you choose to manage your guests. I would think it’s rude to force a guest to go out in the cold to take a call when I have rooms they could be comfortable in.

NP. Nice try, but nope. If a guest *asked for permission* to use a private room for a call and the host denied them and suggested they go out to their car? That would be rude. But--see how this works?--if they *ask for permission,* it will always be granted by a good host, and everyone will feel comfortable. Again, some more, a lot of people are assuming a bedroom would be OK with this when your host might prefer that you go to an office, an enclosed and heated porch, or a basement bedroom, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when to grown adults invite their friends to hang out in their bedrooms? I haven't done anything like that since I was living in a dorm room. Even my first crappy group rental had a common area that we all hung out in.

I am trying to imagine dh & I having guests wandering in/out of our bedroom to "get stuff" and I just can not see that ever being o.k. And I mean ever.

Ok. Good for you. Other people have other experiences.

Cool. I've been in a lot of homes....enough to say that people traipsing into the host's private living areas is not normal.

I have friends that I got together with at least once a week and I don't think we ever went into each other's master bedrooms. We usually sat at a kitchen table drinking coffee, chatting and watching our kids play. I never once went through their medicine cabinets and I'm pretty positive that they never went through mine, either.

True friends don't pry and snoop like that. They just don't.

There’s a difference between entering someone’s bedroom and snooping through their drawers. Sorry you can’t see that and that you have such odd friends who go through your things. My friends wouldn’t do that.

What are you doing in their bedroom?

What are you doing in their bedroom that couldn't be achieved without a quick word to gain their permission?

Picking up their coats, nursing a baby, taking a phone call away from the noise of a party. These are all things my guests have done. You all must not host much. And if you do host and want to place restrictions on where people go, you do you. But it’s far from universal.

I can see getting my own coat back if the host was not available to retrieve it for me. I didn't choose to put my belongings in that room and I actually do need my coat back.

I can not see taking a phone call or nursing a baby in the host's master bedroom w/o their permission. You always ask. Always.

Newsflash: different people do things differently. It happens when there are 7 billion people on a planet.

If a nursing mom felt she needed my permission to find a quiet place in my house I would feel like she thought I was not a very welcoming person.

You would be cool with her going into YOUR master bedroom and locking you/your husband out of it while she nurses? Come on, feeding a baby is not your excuse to commandeer your host's private living quarters. You ASK the host where you can nurse in privacy.

It doesn’t take that long to nurse. Happy to give up the “sanctity” of my upstairs so a baby can get fed. But I’m not wound as tight as some people on this thread seem to be.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

Nah, my friends don't do this. Probably because my parties are actually interesting and fun, and people don't feel the urge to work during them. And whenever someone has needed to make a call? They ask to use a private space, as civilized adults do, and I of course give them permission, as civilized adults do.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when to grown adults invite their friends to hang out in their bedrooms? I haven't done anything like that since I was living in a dorm room. Even my first crappy group rental had a common area that we all hung out in.

I am trying to imagine dh & I having guests wandering in/out of our bedroom to "get stuff" and I just can not see that ever being o.k. And I mean ever.

Ok. Good for you. Other people have other experiences.

Cool. I've been in a lot of homes....enough to say that people traipsing into the host's private living areas is not normal.

I have friends that I got together with at least once a week and I don't think we ever went into each other's master bedrooms. We usually sat at a kitchen table drinking coffee, chatting and watching our kids play. I never once went through their medicine cabinets and I'm pretty positive that they never went through mine, either.

True friends don't pry and snoop like that. They just don't.

There’s a difference between entering someone’s bedroom and snooping through their drawers. Sorry you can’t see that and that you have such odd friends who go through your things. My friends wouldn’t do that.

What are you doing in their bedroom?

What are you doing in their bedroom that couldn't be achieved without a quick word to gain their permission?

Picking up their coats, nursing a baby, taking a phone call away from the noise of a party. These are all things my guests have done. You all must not host much. And if you do host and want to place restrictions on where people go, you do you. But it’s far from universal.

I can see getting my own coat back if the host was not available to retrieve it for me. I didn't choose to put my belongings in that room and I actually do need my coat back.

I can not see taking a phone call or nursing a baby in the host's master bedroom w/o their permission. You always ask. Always.

Newsflash: different people do things differently. It happens when there are 7 billion people on a planet.

Well, when in Rome you do as the host says. If you are not absolutely positive that you have your host's permission to go into their private living quarters then you get permission before you go into their private living space.

You can go out to your own car to take a phone call in privacy.

That’s how you choose to manage your guests. I would think it’s rude to force a guest to go out in the cold to take a call when I have rooms they could be comfortable in.

NP. Nice try, but nope. If a guest *asked for permission* to use a private room for a call and the host denied them and suggested they go out to their car? That would be rude. But--see how this works?--if they *ask for permission,* it will always be granted by a good host, and everyone will feel comfortable. Again, some more, a lot of people are assuming a bedroom would be OK with this when your host might prefer that you go to an office, an enclosed and heated porch, or a basement bedroom, etc.

We get it. You’re very “particular” about your private space. Sorry that you can’t understand that not everyone feels the same way.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

I have never had a guest ask to take a work phone call in my master bedroom. I can't imagine myself making a request like that, either. People get work calls all the time - in the check out line, at restaurants, at school pick up, etc....somehow they manage. Goodness how do you get through life.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

Nah, my friends don't do this. Probably because my parties are actually interesting and fun, and people don't feel the urge to work during them. And whenever someone has needed to make a call? They ask to use a private space, as civilized adults do, and I of course give them permission, as civilized adults do.

Yeah I’m sure your parties are a blast with everyone asking permission to take a step every 5 minutes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

Nah, my friends don't do this. Probably because my parties are actually interesting and fun, and people don't feel the urge to work during them. And whenever someone has needed to make a call? They ask to use a private space, as civilized adults do, and I of course give them permission, as civilized adults do.

What’s the etiquette for affair partners?

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Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

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Anonymous wrote:Since when to grown adults invite their friends to hang out in their bedrooms? I haven't done anything like that since I was living in a dorm room. Even my first crappy group rental had a common area that we all hung out in.

I am trying to imagine dh & I having guests wandering in/out of our bedroom to "get stuff" and I just can not see that ever being o.k. And I mean ever.

Ok. Good for you. Other people have other experiences.

Cool. I've been in a lot of homes....enough to say that people traipsing into the host's private living areas is not normal.

I have friends that I got together with at least once a week and I don't think we ever went into each other's master bedrooms. We usually sat at a kitchen table drinking coffee, chatting and watching our kids play. I never once went through their medicine cabinets and I'm pretty positive that they never went through mine, either.

True friends don't pry and snoop like that. They just don't.

There’s a difference between entering someone’s bedroom and snooping through their drawers. Sorry you can’t see that and that you have such odd friends who go through your things. My friends wouldn’t do that.

What are you doing in their bedroom?

What are you doing in their bedroom that couldn't be achieved without a quick word to gain their permission?

Picking up their coats, nursing a baby, taking a phone call away from the noise of a party. These are all things my guests have done. You all must not host much. And if you do host and want to place restrictions on where people go, you do you. But it’s far from universal.

I can see getting my own coat back if the host was not available to retrieve it for me. I didn't choose to put my belongings in that room and I actually do need my coat back.

I can not see taking a phone call or nursing a baby in the host's master bedroom w/o their permission. You always ask. Always.

Newsflash: different people do things differently. It happens when there are 7 billion people on a planet.

Well, when in Rome you do as the host says. If you are not absolutely positive that you have your host's permission to go into their private living quarters then you get permission before you go into their private living space.

You can go out to your own car to take a phone call in privacy.

That’s how you choose to manage your guests. I would think it’s rude to force a guest to go out in the cold to take a call when I have rooms they could be comfortable in.

NP. Nice try, but nope. If a guest *asked for permission* to use a private room for a call and the host denied them and suggested they go out to their car? That would be rude. But--see how this works?--if they *ask for permission,* it will always be granted by a good host, and everyone will feel comfortable. Again, some more, a lot of people are assuming a bedroom would be OK with this when your host might prefer that you go to an office, an enclosed and heated porch, or a basement bedroom, etc.

We get it. You’re very “particular” about your private space. Sorry that you can’t understand that not everyone feels the same way.

Yeah. Some people are just regular bulls in a china shop types who barge in and ask questions later. Soooo much more mannerly. Not.

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Anonymous wrote:You have no business "entering someone's bedroom" w/o their express permission. Sorry you do not seem to get that. And, no, part of hosting is not all about giving up every bit of privacy that you have. Good grief.

Psst. There’s a newfangled invention called a lock. Use it if you want to keep your bedroom a secret hideaway. Other people like to have their homes used visited by family and friends. My kids and their friends go upstairs all the time. I would much rather have kids playing in my house than attached to a phone in isolation.

Right, after being invited up by my kids (or me), my guests are more than welcome to go upstairs.

No guest/kid guest has ever spent time on their phone at my house. How very odd. You must not be very entertaining, or you must have rude friends.

You must be over the age of 90 if no guest has ever spent time on their phone at your house.

Darling, there's a difference between a quick glance at the phone or a moment to answer an email, and a nonstop Dragonvale binge for a 14-year-old. You were referring to kids on phones, and you know it. Stop trying to backpedal.

Nope-although the fact you think you’re psychic is a bit scary. I was referring to adults who take work calls. Lots of my friends do this. And they don’t even look through my underwear drawer while doing so! You might try finding some employed friends.

I have never had a guest ask to take a work phone call in my master bedroom. I can't imagine myself making a request like that, either. People get work calls all the time - in the check out line, at restaurants, at school pick up, etc....somehow they manage. Goodness how do you get through life.

This may shock you. But some people live in homes without master bedrooms. We lived in a 1 BR apartment for years and if a guest needed to do anything out of sight of others it was in our bedroom. But it seems like some of the pearl clutchers on these threads are McMansion types.

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Anonymous wrote:Np. True story, I would feel uncomfortable if, once I asks to take a call in private, a host showed me to their bedroom. I would have meant a non-bedroom part of the house. I would really, really feel like I was intruding, so I would say, "Oh gosh, I am so sorry, this is crazy, it isn't that important!" Or try to go elsewhere or reschedule the call or anything I could think of. I do not WANT to be in someone else's bedroom. Context dictates performance, I am not doing a business call or anything else important in someone else's bedroom.

I would seriously just do what I always do and either 1) step outside or 2) take the call in my car. The end. Done.