Mothers - How many sex partners would you want your daughter to have prior to marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:Mothers: How many sex partners would you want your daughters to have prior to marriage?

How many is too many? Is there too many? At what age should they start having sex?

Honestly - what advice would you give your daughter if she asked you for it and insisted on you giving her a concrete number?

The correct answer is 17

[Anonymous]

I would hope that my children wait until marriage. I'd also hope that, by some amazing gift from God, they're blessed with husbands who are well-endowed and great in bed.

My DH was my first partner, but we were not married. We broke up for a couple of years and I was with other men, but he was my first and most definitely the best. I'm glad that my first time was with him.

[Anonymous]

Philosophically, it is a good thing generally to have some sexual experience with several lovers. To learn about others, yourself, likes, dislikes and so on. Having said that, for some, being virginal and having just one sexual partner *can* be fulfilling. Ideally, it would be great if my daughter was fulfilled with her first, whom would be her husband. That's not realistic, though, so I think some experience would be good. As to a number? As many have said, numbers aren't really what's important. Is 5, 10, or 15 enough? *shrugs*.

In general, men are less emotionally involved than women. Women can do multiple men and have fun, and be fine. However, there does seem to a point...where after "x" number of lovers, the women do seem to suffer emotionally too much, and experience some form of emotional and psychological damage that consequently damages their ability to effectively develop a stable, successful monogamous relationship. Men may experience this as well, though to a lesser degree. It is furthermore complicated by individual and degree, for different women. Some women might have 15, or 20 or 50 men, and be fine. Other women, however, can suffer the emotional and relational damage. It seems to be a variable dynamic.

I think, though, that there's good evidence that suggests that the more men that women have sex with, the chances increase that she will suffer emotionally and psychologically to a degree that men do not experience.

Thus, it's not a good idea for a woman to just gorge herself on sexing lots of men.

And yet, having some experience with some "x" number of partners is good and healthy. Where that mysterious "danger" number is, while real, seems to be variable for individual women. Meanwhile men often like to pick an arbitrary number, and any woman beyond that is a "worthless slut".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mothers: How many sex partners would you want your daughters to have prior to marriage?

How many is too many? Is there too many? At what age should they start having sex?

Honestly - what advice would you give your daughter if she asked you for it and insisted on you giving her a concrete number?

The correct answer is 17

Because ice cream has no bones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Philosophically, it is a good thing generally to have some sexual experience with several lovers. To learn about others, yourself, likes, dislikes and so on. Having said that, for some, being virginal and having just one sexual partner *can* be fulfilling. Ideally, it would be great if my daughter was fulfilled with her first, whom would be her husband. That's not realistic, though, so I think some experience would be good. As to a number? As many have said, numbers aren't really what's important. Is 5, 10, or 15 enough? *shrugs*.

In general, men are less emotionally involved than women. Women can do multiple men and have fun, and be fine. However, there does seem to a point...where after "x" number of lovers, the women do seem to suffer emotionally too much, and experience some form of emotional and psychological damage that consequently damages their ability to effectively develop a stable, successful monogamous relationship. Men may experience this as well, though to a lesser degree. It is furthermore complicated by individual and degree, for different women. Some women might have 15, or 20 or 50 men, and be fine. Other women, however, can suffer the emotional and relational damage. It seems to be a variable dynamic.

I think, though, that there's good evidence that suggests that the more men that women have sex with, the chances increase that she will suffer emotionally and psychologically to a degree that men do not experience.

Thus, it's not a good idea for a woman to just gorge herself on sexing lots of men.

And yet, having some experience with some "x" number of partners is good and healthy. Where that mysterious "danger" number is, while real, seems to be variable for individual women. Meanwhile men often like to pick an arbitrary number, and any woman beyond that is a "worthless slut".

Citation please.

[Anonymous]

I don't think a lot of partners are needed before marriage. I just hope my daughter marries a man with a big penis. We have already had "that talk."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think a lot of partners are needed before marriage. I just hope my daughter marries a man with a big penis. We have already had "that talk."

LOL! Now that is an important conversation. Seriously. Really. I mean it.

Where was my mom when I needed her???!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Philosophically, it is a good thing generally to have some sexual experience with several lovers. To learn about others, yourself, likes, dislikes and so on. Having said that, for some, being virginal and having just one sexual partner *can* be fulfilling. Ideally, it would be great if my daughter was fulfilled with her first, whom would be her husband. That's not realistic, though, so I think some experience would be good. As to a number? As many have said, numbers aren't really what's important. Is 5, 10, or 15 enough? *shrugs*.

In general, men are less emotionally involved than women. Women can do multiple men and have fun, and be fine. However, there does seem to a point...where after "x" number of lovers, the women do seem to suffer emotionally too much, and experience some form of emotional and psychological damage that consequently damages their ability to effectively develop a stable, successful monogamous relationship. Men may experience this as well, though to a lesser degree. It is furthermore complicated by individual and degree, for different women. Some women might have 15, or 20 or 50 men, and be fine. Other women, however, can suffer the emotional and relational damage. It seems to be a variable dynamic.

I think, though, that there's good evidence that suggests that the more men that women have sex with, the chances increase that she will suffer emotionally and psychologically to a degree that men do not experience.

Thus, it's not a good idea for a woman to just gorge herself on sexing lots of men.

And yet, having some experience with some "x" number of partners is good and healthy. Where that mysterious "danger" number is, while real, seems to be variable for individual women. Meanwhile men often like to pick an arbitrary number, and any woman beyond that is a "worthless slut".

Citation please.

Citation? No citation is needed. I have observed through life that women that have banged "lots" of men, have had lots of problems. Not "every" very promiscuous woman, but many. As I mentioned, a specific "number" seems vague and variable, but there does seem to be extensive negative emotional and relational effects on promiscuous women. Thus, I would counsel a woman to be cautious and not be promiscuous. I don't need "studies" or "citations" to show what I have seen with my own experience. Others might have entirely different experience. I wouldn't encourage my daughter however, to just jump in and be promiscuous.

[Anonymous]

Are there any wives that have had sex with 30, 40, 50 men or more that are happy and monogamous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Philosophically, it is a good thing generally to have some sexual experience with several lovers. To learn about others, yourself, likes, dislikes and so on. Having said that, for some, being virginal and having just one sexual partner *can* be fulfilling. Ideally, it would be great if my daughter was fulfilled with her first, whom would be her husband. That's not realistic, though, so I think some experience would be good. As to a number? As many have said, numbers aren't really what's important. Is 5, 10, or 15 enough? *shrugs*.

In general, men are less emotionally involved than women. Women can do multiple men and have fun, and be fine. However, there does seem to a point...where after "x" number of lovers, the women do seem to suffer emotionally too much, and experience some form of emotional and psychological damage that consequently damages their ability to effectively develop a stable, successful monogamous relationship. Men may experience this as well, though to a lesser degree. It is furthermore complicated by individual and degree, for different women. Some women might have 15, or 20 or 50 men, and be fine. Other women, however, can suffer the emotional and relational damage. It seems to be a variable dynamic.

I think, though, that there's good evidence that suggests that the more men that women have sex with, the chances increase that she will suffer emotionally and psychologically to a degree that men do not experience.

Thus, it's not a good idea for a woman to just gorge herself on sexing lots of men.

And yet, having some experience with some "x" number of partners is good and healthy. Where that mysterious "danger" number is, while real, seems to be variable for individual women. Meanwhile men often like to pick an arbitrary number, and any woman beyond that is a "worthless slut".

Citation please.

Citation? No citation is needed. I have observed through life that women that have banged "lots" of men, have had lots of problems. Not "every" very promiscuous woman, but many. As I mentioned, a specific "number" seems vague and variable, but there does seem to be extensive negative emotional and relational effects on promiscuous women. Thus, I would counsel a woman to be cautious and not be promiscuous. I don't need "studies" or "citations" to show what I have seen with my own experience. Others might have entirely different experience. I wouldn't encourage my daughter however, to just jump in and be promiscuous.

Of course a citation is needed if you are going to make sweeping generalizations about 51% of the population. It's very nice that you have "observed" things "through life" and all, but your personal experiences are insufficient to make such broad claims about billions of people on this planet.

To illustrate, through what I have "observed through life," women who have banged lots of men haven't had any more problems than women who haven't. So, who wins?

[Anonymous]

I think that many men would feel insecure and apprehensive if their girlfriend had sex with 30 or more men before them. No doubt, many such men would not likely marry a woman that had sex with more than 30 men. Many men think women are sluts and permanently damaged and worthless if they've had more than 10 men, let alone 30 or more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that many men would feel insecure and apprehensive if their girlfriend had sex with 30 or more men before them. No doubt, many such men would not likely marry a woman that had sex with more than 30 men. Many men think women are sluts and permanently damaged and worthless if they've had more than 10 men, let alone 30 or more.

It is entirely possible that a man could feel literal disgust at a woman who has had 30+ partners.

That is not being insecure - that is being smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Philosophically, it is a good thing generally to have some sexual experience with several lovers. To learn about others, yourself, likes, dislikes and so on. Having said that, for some, being virginal and having just one sexual partner *can* be fulfilling. Ideally, it would be great if my daughter was fulfilled with her first, whom would be her husband. That's not realistic, though, so I think some experience would be good. As to a number? As many have said, numbers aren't really what's important. Is 5, 10, or 15 enough? *shrugs*.

In general, men are less emotionally involved than women. Women can do multiple men and have fun, and be fine. However, there does seem to a point...where after "x" number of lovers, the women do seem to suffer emotionally too much, and experience some form of emotional and psychological damage that consequently damages their ability to effectively develop a stable, successful monogamous relationship. Men may experience this as well, though to a lesser degree. It is furthermore complicated by individual and degree, for different women. Some women might have 15, or 20 or 50 men, and be fine. Other women, however, can suffer the emotional and relational damage. It seems to be a variable dynamic.

I think, though, that there's good evidence that suggests that the more men that women have sex with, the chances increase that she will suffer emotionally and psychologically to a degree that men do not experience.

Thus, it's not a good idea for a woman to just gorge herself on sexing lots of men.

And yet, having some experience with some "x" number of partners is good and healthy. Where that mysterious "danger" number is, while real, seems to be variable for individual women. Meanwhile men often like to pick an arbitrary number, and any woman beyond that is a "worthless slut".

Citation please.

Citation? No citation is needed. I have observed through life that women that have banged "lots" of men, have had lots of problems. Not "every" very promiscuous woman, but many. As I mentioned, a specific "number" seems vague and variable, but there does seem to be extensive negative emotional and relational effects on promiscuous women. Thus, I would counsel a woman to be cautious and not be promiscuous. I don't need "studies" or "citations" to show what I have seen with my own experience. Others might have entirely different experience. I wouldn't encourage my daughter however, to just jump in and be promiscuous.

Of course a citation is needed if you are going to make sweeping generalizations about 51% of the population. It's very nice that you have "observed" things "through life" and all, but your personal experiences are insufficient to make such broad claims about billions of people on this planet.

To illustrate, through what I have "observed through life," women who have banged lots of men haven't had any more problems than women who haven't. So, who wins?

So, "who wins"? I suppose you could advise a woman to be as promiscuous as she desires, and have sex with every man that makes her "tingle". I wouldn't, though. I would not recommend that being promiscuous is great. Women seem to suffer more from such than men. Not all, but many. Being promiscuous doesn't seem to be the wisest choice for women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that many men would feel insecure and apprehensive if their girlfriend had sex with 30 or more men before them. No doubt, many such men would not likely marry a woman that had sex with more than 30 men. Many men think women are sluts and permanently damaged and worthless if they've had more than 10 men, let alone 30 or more.

It is entirely possible that a man could feel literal disgust at a woman who has had 30+ partners.

That is not being insecure - that is being smart.

What about men who've had 30+ partners? Should women discount them as permanently damaged and worthless?