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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Philosophically, it is a good thing generally to have some sexual experience with several lovers. To learn about others, yourself, likes, dislikes and so on. Having said that, for some, being virginal and having just one sexual partner *can* be fulfilling. Ideally, it would be great if my daughter was fulfilled with her first, whom would be her husband. That's not realistic, though, so I think some experience would be good. As to a number? As many have said, numbers aren't really what's important. Is 5, 10, or 15 enough? *shrugs*.

In general, men are less emotionally involved than women. Women can do multiple men and have fun, and be fine.[b] However, there does seem to a point...where after "x" number of lovers, the women do seem to suffer emotionally too much, and experience some form of emotional and psychological damage that consequently damages their ability to effectively develop a stable, successful monogamous relationship. Men may experience this as well, though to a lesser degree. It is furthermore complicated by individual and degree, for different women. Some women might have 15, or 20 or 50 men, and be fine. Other women, however, can suffer the emotional and relational damage. It seems to be a variable dynamic.

I think, though, that there's good evidence that suggests that the more men that women have sex with, the chances increase that she will suffer emotionally and psychologically to a degree that men do not experience.

Thus, it's not a good idea for a woman to just gorge herself on sexing lots of men.[/b]

And yet, having some experience with some "x" number of partners is good and healthy. Where that mysterious "danger" number is, while real, seems to be variable for individual women. Meanwhile men often like to pick an arbitrary number, and any woman beyond that is a "worthless slut". [/quote]

Citation please.[/quote]

Citation? No citation is needed. I have observed through life that women that have banged "lots" of men, have had lots of problems. Not "every" very promiscuous woman, but many. As I mentioned, a specific "number" seems vague and variable, but there does seem to be extensive negative emotional and relational effects on promiscuous women. Thus, I would counsel a woman to be cautious and not be promiscuous. I don't need "studies" or "citations" to show what I have seen with my own experience. Others might have entirely different experience. I wouldn't encourage my daughter however, to just jump in and be promiscuous. [/quote]

Of course a citation is needed if you are going to make sweeping generalizations about 51% of the population.  It's very nice that you have "observed" things "through life" and all, but your personal experiences are insufficient to make such broad claims about billions of people on this planet.

To illustrate, through what I have "observed through life," women who have banged lots of men haven't had any more problems than women who haven't.  So, who wins?  [/quote]

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