Anyone else experience this when discussing school choice?

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Anonymous wrote:It's not like I ever bring it up but if they ask I answer and always ask where their DC is going in return as it seems to be the polite thing to do but what's with the attitude once they learn about were our child is going?

OP says here that they are the ones asking. If they feel bad about not getting in somewhere then they shouldn't ask OP. Simple.

80% of the hate-on-OP posters so far have missed this important fact.

I agree. Why are they asking if they cannot take the news? Isn't it a bit aggressive to ask someone and then be angry over something that was decided by a commitee?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't believe OPs friends are asking about schools if their kids did not get into the schools of their choice. It would run counterintuitive to human nature. Why ask a question that is going to be reciprocated and face the awkwardness or embarrassment of having to say your child did not get in. What I suspect is that OP is fishing for them to ask her so she can tell them or making an indirect comment that elicits the question about schools.

I completely agree.

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Nice to blame everything on the OP. But people ask in the hope that nobody they know got in.

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Not the PP you are quoting but understanding and compassion for whom? The other parents who are acting like brats because their child is not going to a given school for whatever reason?

Who says they're acting like brats? It sounds like they just don't want to be around smug OP right now. Maybe they want to share their disappointment with someone more empathetic than OP. This isn't, you know, on the same level as losing a soccer game. Can't say I blame them.

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Anonymous wrote:Nice to blame everything on the OP. But people ask in the hope that nobody they know got in.

Oh, of course! That's the only possible reason.

You are an idiot. They already knew, because word got around within 5 mins of OP telling her first frenemy, which she made sure to do within minutes of getting the letter. They just felt like they had to ask after OP fished so obviously.

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OP came on here to do some veiled bragging, unless you really believe she's clueless. So there's a reasonable chance she's being smug and insufferable in person. I'd probably avoid her if I had a big disappointment. It's not acting lie a brat; it's totally reasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP came on here to do some veiled bragging, unless you really believe she's clueless. So there's a reasonable chance she's being smug and insufferable in person. I'd probably avoid her if I had a big disappointment. It's not acting lie a brat; it's totally reasonable.

I don't know. We got kind a similar reaction from one parent when sharing admissions information. I know that my spouse was surprised to get that reaction. I am also not sure OP was bragging.

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Anonymous wrote:DC was accepted to several of the top 5 schools mentioned here.

This has nothing to do with her question but she has to point it out. Sounds like bragging to me.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like VBA to me.

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I think this whole thread is about bragging and is, therefore, distasteful. And, why ask dcum folks what they think about people at your school whose kids did not get accepted to schools of choice and may feel glum about hearing others' joyful news. Really shallow. Just think how you would feel if in their shoes.

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OP,

I had a friend like you. Her child get into several top schools. She was way more uncomfortable about it than I was. My child had gone through it the year before, and not gotten into one of the schools her child did. I didn't care. She was even angsting about turning down one offer. I do wonder if you are reading too much into things.

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Yes pp -- I agree. That is why we never said a word where our DD was going to college until it was printed in the school's newspaper. It just isn't a happy time when someone's kid is rejected somewhere and someone else is stepping on their mood.

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Maybe the OP is bragging, but how if she did not tell anyone except an anon forum? I have little patience with parents who want their DCs to "play in the big leagues" knowing that more than most will be rejected, knowing that admission is very limited, and all the other things ... yet, when the expected happens (if 5% are accepted 95% are rejected) they act as if it was the other parents fault that their DC was not accepted. There is little that the OP can say to make it better -- it is what it is. Nevertheless, the info gets out, and she is supposed to say what? If someone asks, what would you recommend that she say?

[Anonymous]

If OP really has no idea why some parents are grim, I think that probably speaks volumes as to how she's coming off to these parents.

[Anonymous]

My frenemy hung up the phone on me when I told her. She also got her child in and I don't think she wants my child there too. She wanted to be the only one from our preschool there....