Feel like I have to choose between looking nice and making friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I do have friends! Most are long-term friends And yes, I’m making efforts to smile, wave, make chit-chat with new people. I’m pretty good at making friends and like all kinds of people!

Clearly not, you are so insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Yes two women were wearing dungarees.

What are dungarees?

[Anonymous]

You're from the South, right?

[Anonymous]

Condescension, insecurity and desperation all rolled into one. Nice package you have going there, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Yes two women were wearing dungarees.

Do you mean jeans? I haven't heard dungarees since my grandma stopped saying it.

These. Linen dungarees relaxed fit


https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d3/2d/95/d32d95aecaafb9a70a7ee0791d06d5e2.png

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After living in DC, we moved to “flyover” country.

In short, most moms at kids birthday party yesterday were wearing baggy clothes, pixie cuts, and no makeup.

I’ve always been very femme and grew up in place where people don’t stop dressing nice after having kids.

But I feel like I could make more mom friends if I wore dungarees and crocs and I really don’t want to.

Yesterday, I went to a kids birthday backyard party. Parents were welcomed to stay with hard drinks. I wore a pair of chino shorts, a short sleeve shirt with a summery shirt and flip flops. I had on a simple necklace and casual earrings. I only wore a little foundation, mascara, and clear gloss. I felt like a freak.

Anyone else have this delimma?

OP: I understand. You are right. There is no such thing as "Iowa hot". There is no Women of Iowa calendar.

Try to relocate if you can. Not worth the sacrifice to try to fit in. The weird haircut is disgusting and seems to be universal in small town Midwest. Run !

[Anonymous]

Let me guess...suburban Chicago? Plenty of tattoos too? You're not making friends because they think you look like a Republican. Are you?

[Anonymous]

I would guess that these baggy clothes wearers are choosing colors they enjoy, or tshirts that express their interests. Or they prioritize hobbies other than clothes. Some people are concerned that the apparel industry isn't environmentally friendly. To each their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Yes two women were wearing dungarees.

Do you mean jeans? I haven't heard dungarees since my grandma stopped saying it.

These. Linen dungarees relaxed fit


https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d3/2d/95/d32d95aecaafb9a70a7ee0791d06d5e2.png

I would love to wear these to a backyard kids' party!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Yes two women were wearing dungarees.

Do you mean jeans? I haven't heard dungarees since my grandma stopped saying it.

These. Linen dungarees relaxed fit


https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d3/2d/95/d32d95aecaafb9a70a7ee0791d06d5e2.png

Those are very in this season.

[Anonymous]

OP: Again, I understand. However, once the husbands start taking notice of a feminine woman, you will be shunned. Are you in a small community ? If yes, then run as far and as fast as you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Again, I understand. However, once the husbands start taking notice of a feminine woman, you will be shunned. Are you in a small community ? If yes, then run as far and as fast as you can.

You seem to have a very healthy opinion of yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP - are they younger than you?

If you’re a millennial and they are GenZ - that’s just a style difference.

-GenXer who is still always a little surprised at the effort her makeup and hair her millennial mom friends

[Anonymous]

OP - are they younger than you?

If you’re a millennial and they are GenZ - that’s just a style difference.

-GenXer who is still always a little surprised at the effort her millennial mom friends put into makeup and hair at kids parties

[Anonymous]

You think you are being shunned for your chino shorts?