Feel like I have to choose between looking nice and making friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After living in DC, we moved to “flyover” country.

In short, most moms at kids birthday party yesterday were wearing baggy clothes, pixie cuts, and no makeup.

I’ve always been very femme and grew up in place where people don’t stop dressing nice after having kids.

But I feel like I could make more mom friends if I wore dungarees and crocs and I really don’t want to.

Yesterday, I went to a kids birthday backyard party. Parents were welcomed to stay with hard drinks. I wore a pair of chino shorts, a short sleeve shirt with a summery shirt and flip flops. I had on a simple necklace and casual earrings. I only wore a little foundation, mascara, and clear gloss. I felt like a freak.

Anyone else have this delimma?

What is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Is OP 90?

Try relaxing OP. Wear less makeup for casual occasions, forgo almost all jewelry for kids birthday parties. That sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

Some sort of coastal grandma AI bot who can’t spell?

[Anonymous]

I actually think the link you shared is much more fashionable/current than what you wore. I think you may have fallen into a more progressive crowd that you are mistaking for frumpy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC native here, chuckling at DC having some kind of aspirational style

+1 I feel the way OP does, here in the DC area!