Feel like I have to choose between looking nice and making friends

[Anonymous]

OP here. I do have friends! Most are long-term friends And yes, I’m making efforts to smile, wave, make chit-chat with new people. I’m pretty good at making friends and like all kinds of people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be yourself and dress how you like.

Also what you describe doesn't necessarily sound like not caring about how they look but just having a different aesthetic. Dungarees and pixie cuts and clean faces actually sound more on trend than what you were wearing. This is not an insult. Just pointing out that Hailey Bieber and Jennifer Lawrence are regularly photographed wearing baggy jeans and pants, you her generations don't wear as much makeup, and pixie cuts are actually very high maintenance.

You don't have to conform but maybe adjust you attitude from "they don't care about looking nice" to "they have different standards for looking nice." Try to be open minded and approach others with curiosity instead of judgment.

Right now you are the one coming off as provincial and limited, by the way. So maybe take the phrase "flyover country" out of your vocabulary.

I’m OP. There’s no way I say “flyover country “ to the locals.

I just wanted to make it clear I don’t live on a coast. I’ll stop even writing it if it’s that bad.

[Anonymous]

They’re not stupid. They can sense the disdain dripping off you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be yourself and dress how you like.

Also what you describe doesn't necessarily sound like not caring about how they look but just having a different aesthetic. Dungarees and pixie cuts and clean faces actually sound more on trend than what you were wearing. This is not an insult. Just pointing out that Hailey Bieber and Jennifer Lawrence are regularly photographed wearing baggy jeans and pants, you her generations don't wear as much makeup, and pixie cuts are actually very high maintenance.

You don't have to conform but maybe adjust you attitude from "they don't care about looking nice" to "they have different standards for looking nice." Try to be open minded and approach others with curiosity instead of judgment.

Right now you are the one coming off as provincial and limited, by the way. So maybe take the phrase "flyover country" out of your vocabulary.

I’m OP. There’s no way I say “flyover country “ to the locals.

I just wanted to make it clear I don’t live on a coast. I’ll stop even writing it if it’s that bad.

And I was being polite when I said pixie cuts. It’s not nice cuts. I’ll just leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it has nothing to do with how you dress and more about your personality?

+1. Odd post.

[Anonymous]

This sounds more like a humble brag that you feel superior and more attractive than these people. Keep feeling that way and you’ll find your people eventually. But it sounds like you don’t like these people much anyway and think you are better than them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be yourself and dress how you like.

Also what you describe doesn't necessarily sound like not caring about how they look but just having a different aesthetic. Dungarees and pixie cuts and clean faces actually sound more on trend than what you were wearing. This is not an insult. Just pointing out that Hailey Bieber and Jennifer Lawrence are regularly photographed wearing baggy jeans and pants, you her generations don't wear as much makeup, and pixie cuts are actually very high maintenance.

You don't have to conform but maybe adjust you attitude from "they don't care about looking nice" to "they have different standards for looking nice." Try to be open minded and approach others with curiosity instead of judgment.

Right now you are the one coming off as provincial and limited, by the way. So maybe take the phrase "flyover country" out of your vocabulary.

I’m OP. There’s no way I say “flyover country “ to the locals.

I just wanted to make it clear I don’t live on a coast. I’ll stop even writing it if it’s that bad.

And I was being polite when I said pixie cuts. It’s not nice cuts. I’ll just leave it at that.

Is this your attempt at open mindedness?

It seems obvious to me and others on the thread that you do not want to be friends with these women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What answers do you want to see here?

Did anyone else who used to dress nice, throw in the towel, start wearing only baggy tees, baggy shorts, dungarees, crocs, and cut off all their hair to fit in with other moms. Was it worth it?

[Anonymous]

How nice of you to refer to the cuts as “pixie” when you really just mean “ugly”. No wonder no one likes you. They can sense your disdain for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be yourself and dress how you like.

Also what you describe doesn't necessarily sound like not caring about how they look but just having a different aesthetic. Dungarees and pixie cuts and clean faces actually sound more on trend than what you were wearing. This is not an insult. Just pointing out that Hailey Bieber and Jennifer Lawrence are regularly photographed wearing baggy jeans and pants, you her generations don't wear as much makeup, and pixie cuts are actually very high maintenance.

You don't have to conform but maybe adjust you attitude from "they don't care about looking nice" to "they have different standards for looking nice." Try to be open minded and approach others with curiosity instead of judgment.

Right now you are the one coming off as provincial and limited, by the way. So maybe take the phrase "flyover country" out of your vocabulary.

I’m OP. There’s no way I say “flyover country “ to the locals.

I just wanted to make it clear I don’t live on a coast. I’ll stop even writing it if it’s that bad.

And I was being polite when I said pixie cuts. It’s not nice cuts. I’ll just leave it at that.

It’s definitely your personality, not how you dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What answers do you want to see here?

Did anyone else who used to dress nice, throw in the towel, start wearing only baggy tees, baggy shorts, dungarees, crocs, and cut off all their hair to fit in with other moms. Was it worth it?

No. I tend to dress up probably more than others. Always wear makeup. I work at a business where everyone dresses “down”. I didn’t change to “fit in” and surprisingly everyone likes me. I get compliments sometimes on my outfits but I also fit in. It’s more about your personality than your clothes. But difference is I don’t judge my coworkers. I accept them for who they are and they accept me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Yes two women were wearing dungarees.

[Anonymous]

Even Moira Rose managed to make friends in Schitt’s Creek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dungarees????

Yes two women were wearing dungarees.

Do you mean jeans? I haven't heard dungarees since my grandma stopped saying it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be yourself and dress how you like.

Also what you describe doesn't necessarily sound like not caring about how they look but just having a different aesthetic. Dungarees and pixie cuts and clean faces actually sound more on trend than what you were wearing. This is not an insult. Just pointing out that Hailey Bieber and Jennifer Lawrence are regularly photographed wearing baggy jeans and pants, you her generations don't wear as much makeup, and pixie cuts are actually very high maintenance.

You don't have to conform but maybe adjust you attitude from "they don't care about looking nice" to "they have different standards for looking nice." Try to be open minded and approach others with curiosity instead of judgment.

Right now you are the one coming off as provincial and limited, by the way. So maybe take the phrase "flyover country" out of your vocabulary.

I’m OP. There’s no way I say “flyover country “ to the locals.

I just wanted to make it clear I don’t live on a coast. I’ll stop even writing it if it’s that bad.

And I was being polite when I said pixie cuts. It’s not nice cuts. I’ll just leave it at that.

Gee, I wonder why you aren’t making friends?