Is this a joke? I didn't submit time reports because my boss made me. I did it because I wanted to get paid. Then there came a time when I didn't want to fill out time reports anymore, so I quit and went to a job where we didn't have to fill them out to get paid. |
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I’ve lived in D.C. for more than two decades, and I keep meeting women like the OP: forgettable personality, bare-minimum achiever (think used to make $85K and then became a SAHM), from a loser family and is therefore very jealous of good families, married to a Beta, low earner who no woman would ever want to take to bed.
This type is not intelligent or interesting enough to make friends or have a good time in social settings. Doesn’t have friends, so can only gossip/talk $hit about other women on anonymous online forums. Comes off as bland and like a Stage Five Clinger, so most secure, valuable women avoid her at all costs. Awkward and fake-shy/fake-nice to cover up the fact that she is enraged she isn’t funny, popular, smart, beautiful or successful by any measure. Blandly volunteers and contributes nothing to any setting—work, volunteer orgs, PTA, neighborhood, her regular jazzercize studio (she’s too fat for barre) a wedding party, the dog park. Has no friends and therefore judges and sneers at other types of female friendships, social circuses and groups of women. No one looks up to her or wants to engage with her. Not here to discuss whether this type of person is good or bad. It's a type. There are many in D.C., and I would like to minimize my exposure to them. I have found that once I am in a community with this sort of person, it is hard to get her to ignore me or leave me alone, and she either tries to Single White Female me, or will just cowardly talk about me and functional adult women behind our backs. I really hate this, I don't want to be someone's unpaid social director or companion. Directness doesn't work because they will either just cling and glom onto you, or their jealousy will overtake them, and they will run to DCUM to yap about you with not enough paragraph breaks. So I give up. I just want one place where I can be social and have friends in D.C. where there isn't a woman like this. If this is you, where do you NOT go. Or have any of you found a secret place where these women aren't? I just want to be free. I am tired. Would moving away from D.C. help? If so, where? |
DP. What a nasty post. Why did OP trigger such meanness in you? |
The OP was a nasty post, so here we are. |
You just described leverage. You also didn't submit them because you just love filling out time reports. You did them because if you didn't there would be consequences. That's HOW your boss got you to do an annoying administrative task. No one likes doing it, but people always do. Social manipulators are good at finding leverage like that. There was a recent thread where the OP was talking about a parent at her school who would bad mouth other moms if they did push their kids to play with hers. Something like that shouldn't work but sometimes it does because people are risk averse and just don't want to deal with something like that when it might impact their kids negatively. It's easier to just be extra nice to that one mom to avoid getting on her bad side. But it's similar to the reason you do your time reports -- it's annoying and you don't really want to, but it's just easier to do them then deal with the negative consequences if you don't. |
OP here and it's nice of you to defend me but I don't feel called out by this because it doesn't describe me. I do find it bizarre my post made someone angry enough to write this though. |
Maybe reflect on the fact that the women you are writing about wouldn’t feel called out by your judgmental, nasty, bizarre post either, OP, because it doesn’t describe them. The More You Know… |
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NP. Actually it completely does. As evidenced by the amount of work you put into copying OP’s post, complete with overly familiar, not funny references (stage 5 clinger, SWF).
Your post isn’t clever and the OP does describe you. You were triggered for this reason. |
LOL, wasn’t hard to copy and paste. I did add paragraph breaks because OP “who works in comms” doesn’t know how to use them. The only thing difficult about copying her writing style was that I would never be so long-winded. |
Nothing major. Nothing to write home about. Maybe buying my neighbor’s $20 Boy Scout popcorn, or having to buy some silly parent costume for a kid’s elementary school graduation. Or those absurd meals with a couple who over-order apps, drinks and highest price menu options and then tell the table to split the bill. Again some is just courtesy, others are bad agents and easy to avoid next time. Work is work. Do your job or find another one. What social pressures is an adult like OP under right now? |
Same question. Lots of misguided conflating of basic concepts and relationships by OP troll. |
So if you don't feel personally attacked by this thread topic, you are spending your Saturday posting extensively in this thread because... why? No one would get this invested in this topic if their actual response to the OP was "huh, I have never encountered that, how strange." You are responding defensively. |
Well done. But I’m still of the mindset that OP is the DCUM troll. |
Hey dip$hits who don’t understand basic business models or “leverage.” You submit time sheets so you bill clients correctly and have an accounting record of work and hours. |
Touche |