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husband wants to keep baby and I don't
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Anonymous
No one supports abortion. People support abortion rights. |
Anonymous
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Go ahead and divorce now because even if you decide to keep this baby, your husband will never be able to look at you the same way given you’ve said you’ll never love this child.
Options: 1. Abort, divorce, and share the child you already have 2. Stay together knowing you’ll resent the unwanted child 3. Have the baby and let your DH have your unwanted baby and share the wanted one (that shouldn't screw both kids up too much when that reasoning comes to light!) |
Anonymous
| OP should have had an abortion and not told her husband. |
Anonymous
| Her body. Her choice. |
Anonymous
+1000000000000 100 percent agreed. |
Anonymous
In the old days, women would go to see their mother and mom would tell them where to find an illegal abortion, and then would stay with Mom until recovered. Either that or have the unwanted child and be bitter the rest of your life.. |
Anonymous
DP. I think Dh would’ve been fine with one (who, you will recall, was also a surprise) as long as there wasn’t a pregnancy. Now there’s a pregnancy again, so his feelings are different. OP took a risk (which she tried to minimize with BC) by having sex. She took another risk telling DH about the pregnancy. Why she 100% expected a different opinion from dh when they both came around on no kids with first DC is beyond me. Very naive. Thetalk about one and done was probably very surface level. Even so, people have a right to change their minds. |
Anonymous
She doesn't know. She may end up loving this child the same way as she loves her daughter. |
Anonymous
People keep forgetting OP and DH originally did not want any children even the one they have now. DH wasn’t the only one changing his mind. |
Anonymous
Look, I support a woman’s right to choose. But choices are not made in a vacuum. She has every right to have an abortion and her husband has every right to his feelings. On a less significant level, I could shave my head, stop working out and eat fast food all day, get a neck tattoo, etc. because it’s my right to do what I want with my body. But that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t affect my marriage. |
Anonymous
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I absolutely support abortion and am pro-abortion.
I am not pro-overpopulation. |
Anonymous
| Has OP been back? |
Anonymous
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Why is it that men "change their minds" and decide they want a kid, then go off and work 40-50 hours week? They do not end op raising the kid! It is left up to the mom or a nanny.
If he wants the kid, he raises it. He can do part-time work, or be a stay at home dad. He had better take on the majority of the child -rearing. |
Anonymous
Yes. She’s posted multiple times. Read every page and you’ll see her responses. |
Anonymous
Totally agree. |