You're quoting that nutjob Dr. Phil? No wonder you are so messed up. No hon. It's best if the cheated on spouse knows. The truth is better. You are really messed up. What is your story because I can't believe you are posting that op is selfish for contacting the other spouse. |
You are so f'd up that I am sorry for you. You are clearly desperate and can't function on your own. I hope you get therapy because there is no way YOU model healthy behavior for your children. |
OP clearly told the other spouse to feel better. She did not care about the other spouse. Definition of selfish. Perhaps understandable given her situation. But let’s not pretend she acted with any thought for the other. That’s the truth. |
This is what I suspected. It's all about the benjamins. This is what spouses of famous/mega wealthy people do because they want to continue the lifestyle. The marriage isn't about love or commitment. Thye think of it as a contract to maintain a lifestyle. Fine if you choose to have no morals and decide to whore out your life, many of us don't agreed and won't play along so you can maintain your fantasy life. I include men who cling to wealthy women in this as well. I wouldn't go along with something so terrible because you can't afford to stand on your own. |
Your hatred aimed at op makes me think you are a liar and did cheat and it blew up your marriage. |
So you pulled them under water and held their head down with you? How did that help you? You felt better lashing out and making sure someone else felt as miserable as you did? More power to you I guess. It’s so ironic that the women of DCUM become such excellent communicators in this situation, but can’t lay down boundaries about Thanksgiving with their own families year after year. |
DP, but do you always name call And sling mud/ accusations at people who dare to have a different opinion than you do? |
This poster is insane. No one believes that both are true 1. you never cheated 2. you were never cheated on. |
Yes, even those of us who would tell the other spouse think this is insane. I assume PP is not serious and just trolling. |
This is simply not the case. If someone knowingly sleeps with your spouse, you have a legitimate grievance against them too. That’s not to say what to do about it, but to pretend that person has not done you wrong is insane and silly. |
I'd bet $1 million putins that this is the deranged poster sock puppeting. |
Don't say "people assume". There is one deranged poster replying to her/his own posts. |
So f'd up. You equate not accepting cheating as treating the cheating partner as a child. You believe that it is perfectly acceptable to cheat in a marriage. Fine for you to have those views. Many more of us don't agree with this. You believe that cheating is acceptable in a marriage. You believe that it is a private matter of sex between the two cheaters and no one should be bothered by it. You are lying when you state you have never been cheated on and you have never cheated. |
More like she threw them a life jacket. |
lol it's the same deluded kind of thinking. OP what is your plan with your husband now? |