Revealing affair

[Anonymous]

For those new to this site or even new to the relationship for him on this site, I just want you to know that on Thanksgiving and Christmas OW GO WILD.

They are stuck at home by themselves and they know that they’re AP is loving and hugging and cuddling with their family all day long.

The mere image in their head of it drives them crazy and by 5 o’clock today when they’ve had a couple glasses of wine wow this site is about to get wild

It starts early since their AP is waking up in the arms of his wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

Triggered AP alert!

Not an AP. never cheated. I am divorced. I have a “good divorce” but when something like this happens, it causes bad divorces that might otherwise happen. That directly puts kids at risk. Just sex between adults does not do that. Acting like the morality police does involve kids. Bad divorces hurt kids. Cheating alone hurts adults. See the difference? Most affairs, according to research, never get discovered. Bringing that to light when it is not your own marriage is flat out selfish and wrong. I even heard Dr Phil agree about this.

You're quoting that nutjob Dr. Phil? No wonder you are so messed up.

No hon. It's best if the cheated on spouse knows. The truth is better. You are really messed up. What is your story because I can't believe you are posting that op is selfish for contacting the other spouse.

OP clearly told the other spouse to feel better. She did not care about the other spouse. Definition of selfish. Perhaps understandable given her situation. But let’s not pretend she acted with any thought for the other. That’s the truth.

This is where you are so messed up and why many people are astounded at your position. Most of us think it is the right thing and helpful to the other spouse to know. I would be devastated if someone I knew didn't tell me. Even if it was a stranger, I'd want to know. Most of us would. You try to say everyone has affairs and most people don't know as if that is a normal, healthy marriage. You really believe op wanted to hurt the other spouse. That assumption is so bizarre. You contort yourself in the most bizarre way to make op the bad person here.

Read more carefully. I did not say OP wanted to hurt the other spouse. I said OP didn’t care if they did hurt the other spouse. Whether you think there is an objective right/wrong answer to the Q of whether to tell the cheated-on spouse, the fact is OP did not care.

If it doesn't matter to you whether OP wanted to hurt the other spouse or OP didn't care if she hurt the other spouse then what difference does it make what OP's motivation was?

OMG. That is exactly what I think is wrong with OP. They did not think about whether they would hurt the other spouse. They just did it so they would feel better.

You don't know any of this.

Umm. Yes. The OW stalks the wife. She finds out info to use against her. She actively wishes her harm, sometimes even death so she can have the man. She actively begs him to divorce her, etc.

But, oh, they are such noble creatures who didn’t mean to hurt anyone

OP did none of this.

You need to stop trying to demonize victims here. It's really gross.

^ she said other women do this. She’s not talking about the wife. APs always are deep scrolling the guy’s friends, spouse, etc. psychos

Imagine a betrayal so deep that it routinely causes such psychosis? You’re blaming the victim for a normal response.

An AP is not a victim.

Is your world always so black and white? You have no idea what the wayward spouse has told them about their situation, spouse, or anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

Wow, talk about blaming the victim!
If someone's spouse is cheating on them, they have the right to know.

Exactly.

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Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

Triggered AP alert!

Not an AP. never cheated. I am divorced. I have a “good divorce” but when something like this happens, it causes bad divorces that might otherwise happen. That directly puts kids at risk. Just sex between adults does not do that. Acting like the morality police does involve kids. Bad divorces hurt kids. Cheating alone hurts adults. See the difference? Most affairs, according to research, never get discovered. Bringing that to light when it is not your own marriage is flat out selfish and wrong. I even heard Dr Phil agree about this.

You're quoting that nutjob Dr. Phil? No wonder you are so messed up.

No hon. It's best if the cheated on spouse knows. The truth is better. You are really messed up. What is your story because I can't believe you are posting that op is selfish for contacting the other spouse.

OP clearly told the other spouse to feel better. She did not care about the other spouse. Definition of selfish. Perhaps understandable given her situation. But let’s not pretend she acted with any thought for the other. That’s the truth.

This is where you are so messed up and why many people are astounded at your position. Most of us think it is the right thing and helpful to the other spouse to know. I would be devastated if someone I knew didn't tell me. Even if it was a stranger, I'd want to know. Most of us would. You try to say everyone has affairs and most people don't know as if that is a normal, healthy marriage. You really believe op wanted to hurt the other spouse. That assumption is so bizarre. You contort yourself in the most bizarre way to make op the bad person here.

Read more carefully. I did not say OP wanted to hurt the other spouse. I said OP didn’t care if they did hurt the other spouse. Whether you think there is an objective right/wrong answer to the Q of whether to tell the cheated-on spouse, the fact is OP did not care.

If it doesn't matter to you whether OP wanted to hurt the other spouse or OP didn't care if she hurt the other spouse then what difference does it make what OP's motivation was?

OMG. That is exactly what I think is wrong with OP. They did not think about whether they would hurt the other spouse. They just did it so they would feel better.

You don't know any of this.

Umm. Yes. The OW stalks the wife. She finds out info to use against her. She actively wishes her harm, sometimes even death so she can have the man. She actively begs him to divorce her, etc.

But, oh, they are such noble creatures who didn’t mean to hurt anyone

OP did none of this.

You need to stop trying to demonize victims here. It's really gross.

^ she said other women do this. She’s not talking about the wife. APs always are deep scrolling the guy’s friends, spouse, etc. psychos

Imagine a betrayal so deep that it routinely causes such psychosis? You’re blaming the victim for a normal response.

An AP is not a victim.

Is your world always so black and white? You have no idea what the wayward spouse has told them about their situation, spouse, or anything.

Get over yourself. You f***ed a married man, you aren't a victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those new to this site or even new to the relationship for him on this site, I just want you to know that on Thanksgiving and Christmas OW GO WILD.

They are stuck at home by themselves and they know that they’re AP is loving and hugging and cuddling with their family all day long.

The mere image in their head of it drives them crazy and by 5 o’clock today when they’ve had a couple glasses of wine wow this site is about to get wild

It starts early since their AP is waking up in the arms of his wife.

Most OW are married too, so no.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. I have an out of town AP (late 40s so no spring chicken) I see once every month or two thru work who I’m happy to lavish with nice gifts and meals in exchange for some short term enjoyment. She’s a self admitted attention seeker and flirtatious ho (once wore a miniskirt 10+ inches above knee to a client meeting!) who fits the description above to a tee yet also enjoys our relationship being intermittent in nature so she can continue leeching off her DH and provide food and shelter for her child.

Regardless of their broader intentions I would fight fire with fire and out them. No other way to deal with people so brazen about seeking companionship at your expense …

This just paints YOU in the worst possible light - seriously, figure out your issues.

[Anonymous]

I did worse. I notified the live-in BF of the women I was with who swore they were over and he wouldn't care if he knew. He cared all right and had a totally different view of their relationship. I enjoyed blowing that up for her. I warned her I would but she didn't believe me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those new to this site or even new to the relationship for him on this site, I just want you to know that on Thanksgiving and Christmas OW GO WILD.

They are stuck at home by themselves and they know that they’re AP is loving and hugging and cuddling with their family all day long.

The mere image in their head of it drives them crazy and by 5 o’clock today when they’ve had a couple glasses of wine wow this site is about to get wild

It starts early since their AP is waking up in the arms of his wife.

This is sad on many levels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those new to this site or even new to the relationship for him on this site, I just want you to know that on Thanksgiving and Christmas OW GO WILD.

They are stuck at home by themselves and they know that they’re AP is loving and hugging and cuddling with their family all day long.

The mere image in their head of it drives them crazy and by 5 o’clock today when they’ve had a couple glasses of wine wow this site is about to get wild

It starts early since their AP is waking up in the arms of his wife.

This is sad on many levels.

Cheating husbands are waking up nowhere near the arms of their wives. That's why we're cheating, these miserable women have killed marriages and deserve the loneliness they wish for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:For those new to this site or even new to the relationship for him on this site, I just want you to know that on Thanksgiving and Christmas OW GO WILD.

They are stuck at home by themselves and they know that they’re AP is loving and hugging and cuddling with their family all day long.

The mere image in their head of it drives them crazy and by 5 o’clock today when they’ve had a couple glasses of wine wow this site is about to get wild

It starts early since their AP is waking up in the arms of his wife.

This is sad on many levels.

Cheating husbands are waking up nowhere near the arms of their wives. That's why we're cheating, these miserable women have killed marriages and deserve the loneliness they wish for.

So why don't you just man up and leave instead of lying to your spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those new to this site or even new to the relationship for him on this site, I just want you to know that on Thanksgiving and Christmas OW GO WILD.

They are stuck at home by themselves and they know that they’re AP is loving and hugging and cuddling with their family all day long.

The mere image in their head of it drives them crazy and by 5 o’clock today when they’ve had a couple glasses of wine wow this site is about to get wild

It starts early since their AP is waking up in the arms of his wife.

This is sad on many levels.

Cheating husbands are waking up nowhere near the arms of their wives. That's why we're cheating, these miserable women have killed marriages and deserve the loneliness they wish for.

That’s what he tells the AP. My ex was always spooning, saying ILY to me/telling me how hot I was and planning all kinds of surprise trips and dinners….all while blinking some ow behind my back. The implosion came after she realized we were having sex- she assumed we weren’t in a loving relationship like her and her husband. She had never directly asked up until that point and didn’t like the answer. Meanwhile I had no clue about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

The cheating spouses inserted themselves into the faithful spouse’s marriages, not vice versa.

[Anonymous]

It’s feels like the same 5 people screaming at each other on all of these threads. Can’t you guys just enjoy the holidays and forget about this nonsense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

Woah - i don't think OP is the destroyer in this scenario.

For the other family, she absolutely is.

Mind your own business. No wonder he cheated on you- you must be a miserable person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

Woah - i don't think OP is the destroyer in this scenario.

For the other family, she absolutely is.

Mind your own business. No wonder he cheated on you- you must be a miserable person.

Sounds like a cheater!