Does anyone else find ‘cherish these moments’ parenting advice a little traumatizing?

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

Yes, we want women to suffer, don't we? That's just what we Mean Girls want! If they cross us by having a different opinion or not liking our unsolicited advice, they must suffeerrrrrr and be punnnishhhheddddd!

Feel free to not cherish moments of your baby's life and to be absolutely miserable through all of the other ages as well. Keep judging and hating friendly older women.

Keep thinking "friendly" is unsolicited advice and unhelpful comments. Keep judging young moms, to their face. See how far it gets you.

How far it gets us? Is this supposed to be a transaction? That explains a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

Yes, we want women to suffer, don't we? That's just what we Mean Girls want! If they cross us by having a different opinion or not liking our unsolicited advice, they must suffeerrrrrr and be punnnishhhheddddd!

Feel free to not cherish moments of your baby's life and to be absolutely miserable through all of the other ages as well. Keep judging and hating friendly older women.

Keep thinking "friendly" is unsolicited advice and unhelpful comments. Keep judging young moms, to their face. See how far it gets you.

How far it gets us? Is this supposed to be a transaction? That explains a lot.

What you are seeking is attention and validation. Keep fishing for it with unsolicited advice. See what you catch!

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

Yes, we want women to suffer, don't we? That's just what we Mean Girls want! If they cross us by having a different opinion or not liking our unsolicited advice, they must suffeerrrrrr and be punnnishhhheddddd!

Feel free to not cherish moments of your baby's life and to be absolutely miserable through all of the other ages as well. Keep judging and hating friendly older women.

Keep thinking "friendly" is unsolicited advice and unhelpful comments. Keep judging young moms, to their face. See how far it gets you.

How far it gets us? Is this supposed to be a transaction? That explains a lot.

What you are seeking is attention and validation. Keep fishing for it with unsolicited advice. See what you catch!

No, you are projecting your own need for attention and validation onto others. Honestly. No one is judging your parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

She will be so relieved!! Because she has told us repeatedly that she does NOT want our attention, even though she just keeps coming back and back and back. She can't help herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Think back to a truly happy moment with your small child. A peaceful, loving, laughing time together.

When an older mom witnesses those moments, she "gets" that they are all behind her. She does not believe every day of young parenting was like that. She does not think she will have no other sources of happiness in her future. But she is wistful about that very unique/special love/bond that parents and young children share.

You still have it. She cannot help but share how lucky that makes you. You can try to let that sink in, and perhaps savor the joyful moments of parenting a bit more. OR you can growl, "But he spilled his cheerios on the floor this morning." Either way, the older mom means no harm, Jeez.

+1.

The assumption that the older parents don't understand that parenting is, at times, incredibly hard is very strange.

Yes, very arrogant too.

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This is a crazy thread. I'm happy when people tell me to cherish the moments. Always good to have a reminder when in the slog of dealing with my 15 month old. The time really is so precious and it's so easy to lose sight of the fact in the sleepless nights, relentless vigilance required to make sure my toddler doesn't kill herself accidentally. Not offensive at all.


I'm wondering if this is an age thing not a new mom/experienced mom since I am closer in age to "older moms" than new moms.

In any case the only time I've really bristled was when an older mom tried to tell me that i had an "easy" baby. I was ready to kill her. (There were many ways my baby was not easy although I know it could have been/could be worse.) Oh yes and how if I responded to her crying I was teaching her to cry to get what she wants - hello my 6 month old is not speaking yet of course she cries to make her needs known.

Still gritted my teeth and said nothing because she is a good soul who tries to be supportive and helpful.

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

I have never and would never notice, wonder or care why a stranger of any age of gender isn’t saying anything to me or my baby. -np

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

Why would anyone wonder why older strangers aren’t saying anything to them and their babies? LOL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

Why would anyone wonder why older strangers aren’t saying anything to them and their babies? LOL.

I suppose I am not communicating very well or just different generation. I remember dressing up my baby and going to church and so happy when people would talk to me about my baby. Even if they gave advise like cherish this time. It made me feel connected. Or if my toddler was acting up a stranger would come over and get my baby to laugh.
If I was standing in line with my cute baby it isn't that I need validation from a stranger but it makes life happier place.

If you dont have the experience I can understand why my comment would be strange to you. Point is I wouldn't say anything for fear to anger you. Isn't that somewhat sad?

[Anonymous]

It figures that the "everyone gets a trophy" generation would want both a trophy for choosing to be a mother and to dictate how people interact with them in public.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

What you can’t seem to grasp is that of course people do notice when people approach them, but they don’t notice it when people don’t approach them. “Gosh golly gee, here I am at the Farmer’s Market and not one total stranger has come up to talk to me? Is it because I was defensive when an older mom gave me unsolicited advice to me at Target that one time?”

Also, people coming up to you in church aren’t strangers: they are people you know from church, or at least people you have some connection with. That is a much different vibe from strangers in the grocery store. That said, in either case, *people do not like unsolicited advice.* They do like warm greetings and “oh your baby is so cute.” I don’t get why this is hard to understand. Why you think unsolicited advice and “just you wait, you have no idea” comments are not the same as polite greetings and people telling you your baby is cute.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

Why would anyone wonder why older strangers aren’t saying anything to them and their babies? LOL.

I suppose I am not communicating very well or just different generation. I remember dressing up my baby and going to church and so happy when people would talk to me about my baby. Even if they gave advise like cherish this time. It made me feel connected. Or if my toddler was acting up a stranger would come over and get my baby to laugh.
If I was standing in line with my cute baby it isn't that I need validation from a stranger but it makes life happier place.

If you dont have the experience I can understand why my comment would be strange to you. Point is I wouldn't say anything for fear to anger you. Isn't that somewhat sad?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

OK? Shall I alert moms of babies that you will no longer be complimenting their babies? Or maybe you should start a new PSA thread?

HA HA HA I am not that conceited that my thoughts, compliments or 'advice' will be missed. But, if you wonder why very few older women say anything to you and your baby..now you now why!

Why would anyone wonder why older strangers aren’t saying anything to them and their babies? LOL.

I suppose I am not communicating very well or just different generation. I remember dressing up my baby and going to church and so happy when people would talk to me about my baby. Even if they gave advise like cherish this time. It made me feel connected. Or if my toddler was acting up a stranger would come over and get my baby to laugh.
If I was standing in line with my cute baby it isn't that I need validation from a stranger but it makes life happier place.

If you dont have the experience I can understand why my comment would be strange to you. Point is I wouldn't say anything for fear to anger you. Isn't that somewhat sad?

What you can’t seem to grasp is that of course people do notice when people approach them, but they don’t notice it when people don’t approach them. “Gosh golly gee, here I am at the Farmer’s Market and not one total stranger has come up to talk to me? Is it because I was defensive when an older mom gave me unsolicited advice to me at Target that one time?”

Also, people coming up to you in church aren’t strangers: they are people you know from church, or at least people you have some connection with. That is a much different vibe from strangers in the grocery store. That said, in either case, *people do not like unsolicited advice.* They do like warm greetings and “oh your baby is so cute.” I don’t get why this is hard to understand. Why you think unsolicited advice and “just you wait, you have no idea” comments are not the same as polite greetings and people telling you your baby is cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It figures that the "everyone gets a trophy" generation would want both a trophy for choosing to be a mother and to dictate how people interact with them in public.

You know what’s funny? Everyone accuses Gen X and/or Millennials of being the “everyone gets a trophy generation,” but who do you think was giving out the trophies, dude? BOOMER PARENTS! LOL, this one never fails to make me giggle. It’s not like an 8yo in 1988 was presenting herself with a trophy. Get it yet?