Does anyone else find ‘cherish these moments’ parenting advice a little traumatizing?

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Anonymous wrote:If more people are like op it will make me want to avoid any conversations with young moms for fear of insulting them while trying to be human and connect.

So, congrats, I guess

I guess if you’re deliberately obtuse and persist in unsolicited advice and “just you waits” verses, you know, smiling at someone or greeting someone and saying they have a cute baby, then yeah. I think young moms will be better off if you do leave them be. If “little kids, little problems” is your idea of a warm conversation starter, they are better off being left alone.

Nope I have never said any of those sayings to any young mom. I think I may have said "you have your hands full" as I opened to the door for a young mom. Now I see that even that could be considered an insult so now I am not going to be looking at your baby ( or you) Not going to make any encouraging words or tell you that your baby is adorable. Nope! If you can't handle a few human "mistakes" than I am going to cross the street to get away from you.

Bye!

I guess I'll just have to be content with interacting with my husband, family, friends, neighbors, parents at daycare and elementary school, co-workers, people at my church, and people at the pool and the other activities we go to.

Whatever shall I do without your attention and compliments, random woman in the parking lot? It's almost as if I'll just have to...live my life with the many, many people in it. Byeeee!

Why is the random woman in the parking lot so traumatizing then? If you crumble so easily then you're not as content and solid as you are trying to pretend.

I'm not sure who you think you're talking to, but I never said I was "traumatized" by anything. (That was the OP, and many, many other people have shared different perspectives on this thread.) I don't "crumble," but I will certainly tell you on DCUM that patronizing, smug, just-you-wait remarks don't fly with me, and your laughable threats to withhold your unwanted interactions ("...so now I am not going to be looking at your baby ( or you) Not going to make any encouraging words or tell you that your baby is adorable. Nope!") are just that: laughable.

You're really coming across like you've got it all together. Laughable.

Says the person who think withholding her attention as a total stranger is a...punishment?

Wasn't me. Are you aware of how this works? It's obvious you're totally unhinged though and I didn't have to be the PP to notice it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How are all of these stressed , overwhelmed young moms finding time to be online all day?

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

Yes, we want women to suffer, don't we? That's just what we Mean Girls want! If they cross us by having a different opinion or not liking our unsolicited advice, they must suffeerrrrrr and be punnnishhhheddddd!

[Anonymous]

You really need to learn the art of idle conversation and letting little things go.

No one is attacking you. I repeat. No one is attacking you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You really need to learn the art of idle conversation and letting little things go.

No one is attacking you. I repeat. No one is attacking you.

"You really need to learn"...I mean, prove the point some more!

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Anonymous wrote:You really need to learn the art of idle conversation and letting little things go.

No one is attacking you. I repeat. No one is attacking you.

"You really need to learn"...I mean, prove the point some more!

Let it go! Let it go! (in my best Elsa voice)

But seriously, just put it in a bubble and blow it away. It really will be okay.

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Anonymous wrote:You really need to learn the art of idle conversation and letting little things go.

No one is attacking you. I repeat. No one is attacking you.

"You really need to learn"...I mean, prove the point some more!

Let it go! Let it go! (in my best Elsa voice)

But seriously, just put it in a bubble and blow it away. It really will be okay.

Here's a mirror for you to look into.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

Yes, we want women to suffer, don't we? That's just what we Mean Girls want! If they cross us by having a different opinion or not liking our unsolicited advice, they must suffeerrrrrr and be punnnishhhheddddd!

Feel free to not cherish moments of your baby's life and to be absolutely miserable through all of the other ages as well. Keep judging and hating friendly older women.

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Anonymous wrote:The hostility is palpable. Not fatigue or being overextended, downright disdain.

What a way to walk around the world.

I know, isn't it frustrating when you can't manipulate or bully someone into seeing the world as you see it, and behaving exactly the way you think they should behave? Isn't it annoying when you approach a complete stranger and try to give them advice, and they have the audacity to not like it? Isn't it awful when you try to change someone's mind, again and again, and they just...keep the opinion they have? Apparently that's very upsetting, no?

Do you hear yourself? You are doing exactly what you are complaining about. I'm sorry that you hate other people so much.

No, sorry, I'm not here telling people not to offer unsolicited advice and comments to strangers--if they want to be Nosey Nellies, that's on them. But when I shared my opinion that this kind of attention isn't welcome or productive to me, and then you tell me over and over again why I should change my mind? I'm just...not going to. But I have not once--not once--told other people to stop being intrusive to moms with small babies. I just said there's never a world where "oh I'm going to stop looking at you and your baby" [LOL] is going to persuade me out of my perspective.

I'm the person who said I wouldn't comment on anything about you or your baby. I didn't say or think that it was "punishment" I know my opinion matters very little to you but, when a few posters back asked what they would like people to say "cute baby" good job and you are doing your best or whatever...I was addressing those comments.

My basic point is sometimes as humans you are well intentioned and mean well and say the wrong thing. It isn't done intentionally and you were trying to connect to another mom/woman. So instead of saying hey this person had good intentions and they meant well you attack them and then dictate what they should say. Which I agree would be nice if we were robots and always knew what to say.

So to avoid the eye rolls and the nasty comments I am going to remove myself from the conversation and not talk to strangers about their babies. Most moms do like it when people say "cute baby" but hey you want to control us and I am saying no thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:You really need to learn the art of idle conversation and letting little things go.

No one is attacking you. I repeat. No one is attacking you.

"You really need to learn"...I mean, prove the point some more!

Let it go! Let it go! (in my best Elsa voice)

But seriously, just put it in a bubble and blow it away. It really will be okay.

Here's a mirror for you to look into.

Oh I am thoroughly entertained and happy for you to keep posting comedy for me to read. My kids are teens and I'm underworked and overpaid and I have loads of free time. You on the other hand are just mad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine having some of these posters as your daughter or daughter-in-law??

They are universally toxic to everyone. Their ILs, their DHs, their children, their coworkers, their nannies and teachers etc.

Yes, those opinionated women sure are toxic. I think they might be...witches! Witches, I tell you! Shall we burn them or drown them, these women who have different opinions and don't like unsolicited advice?

Why bother burning them or drowning them? Their unpleasantness is their own punishment. All you have to do is say "Cherish these moments!!" to them and they will be sufficiently traumatized, hyperventilating and popping xanax! Just utter the magic words and let them suffer.

Yes, we want women to suffer, don't we? That's just what we Mean Girls want! If they cross us by having a different opinion or not liking our unsolicited advice, they must suffeerrrrrr and be punnnishhhheddddd!

Feel free to not cherish moments of your baby's life and to be absolutely miserable through all of the other ages as well. Keep judging and hating friendly older women.

Keep thinking "friendly" is unsolicited advice and unhelpful comments. Keep judging young moms, to their face. See how far it gets you.

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Anonymous wrote:You really need to learn the art of idle conversation and letting little things go.

No one is attacking you. I repeat. No one is attacking you.

"You really need to learn"...I mean, prove the point some more!

Let it go! Let it go! (in my best Elsa voice)

But seriously, just put it in a bubble and blow it away. It really will be okay.

Here's a mirror for you to look into.

Oh I am thoroughly entertained and happy for you to keep posting comedy for me to read. My kids are teens and I'm underworked and overpaid and I have loads of free time. You on the other hand are just mad.

Honey, you're a snack.