Less successful sister is acting like she's the de facto owner of dad's beach house

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

Exactly!

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

I visit my dad often even though he lives in my stepmother’s house.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

I visit my dad often even though he lives in my stepmother’s house.

DP. Are you the OP? If not, what you do isn't really relevant to what OP would do.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

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Seems like you're borrowing trouble, OP. Maybe sister is trying to enjoy the house while she can bc she knows you're going to force a sale for cash rather than keep it in the family.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

I visit my dad often even though he lives in my stepmother’s house.

DP. Are you the OP? If not, what you do isn't really relevant to what OP would do.

Actually it’s relevant to the person assuming that OP’s sister would only visit her Dad because he has a million dollar beach house. Which is ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

People sure turn nasty over what they already consider theirs. Seriously, unless dad is ultra wealthy, paying for elder care may very well force the sale of this house. So OP getting bent out of shape over something that no one in the family may inherit is idiotic.

So, what if the house does get passed down and OP wants to force a sale. What if the house sells for more precisely because of the improvements the sister put in time overseeing? Given OP’s disparaging remarks, I highly doubt she would be magnanimous and give sister credit let alone a little more money for her efforts. OP wants to get the maximum she can with minimal effort.

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Man I wish we could fast forward this movie to find out how it all turns out.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

Exactly! Moreover, the OP IS trying to spend time with the dad. She saved and bought a house next to his. Her lazy sister is trying to take over the dad’s house, not cultivate a relationship with the father, FFS.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

Exactly! Moreover, the OP IS trying to spend time with the dad. She saved and bought a house next to his. Her lazy sister is trying to take over the dad’s house, not cultivate a relationship with the father, FFS.

OP, nice of you to post again.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

+1 it’s not greed to protect your share of any inheritance. The sister doesn’t have more rights to it because she is less rich.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

Exactly! Moreover, the OP IS trying to spend time with the dad. She saved and bought a house next to his. Her lazy sister is trying to take over the dad’s house, not cultivate a relationship with the father, FFS.

OP, nice of you to post again.

I’m not the OP. You are welcome to verify that with the forum admin. It is obviously not clear to you that people may agree with the OP and think his / her point is valid and not be the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t.

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him?

The sister doesn't even hold a job!

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting?

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue.

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father. I mean, let’s think about this. OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house. OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.

+1 it’s not greed to protect your share of any inheritance. The sister doesn’t have more rights to it because she is less rich.

Yep. We have this situation in my extended family right now. The sibling who is the executor (and has trouble holding down a job) is trying to see that the “better off” sibling gets less- because they don’t need it as much.

Sorry, when parents write a will indicating that everything should be split equally, that’s what they mean. If they thought some siblings should get more because they have less, they would have had their will written that way.