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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have your own friggin beach house. Dammit. Count your blessings, let dad give her the beach house. Why are you so jealous???[/quote]

Because she has saved and made sacrifices to own the beach house, whereas the sister hasn’t. [/quote]

Yeah but how often is OP visiting her dad and helping him out? Maybe the sister is helping care for him or spends time with him and that provides companionship and comfort to him? [/quote]

The sister doesn't even hold a job!  [/quote]

So what? She still is showing up for the father. How ofter in OP visiting? [/quote]

If a $1m house wasn't at stake, would she be there?[/quote]

Would OP care if her dad didn’t own a mortgage free property? I wonder if the other sibling also cares or this is just an OP issue. [/quote]

So we have a sister who is unemployed -vs- OP works, OP's husband works, OP and husband have stable income and good credit history to qualify for a pricey second mortgage, OP and husband went out of their way to buy a vacation home next to her father. And you think OP is the hustler here? Quite a long con.  :roll: [/quote]

None of those things mean OP isn’t more interested in accumulating more money than about her father.  I mean, let’s think about this.  OP apparently had enough free cash to buy her own beach house but is willing to torch her relationship with her sister now over the chance that she might not also get 1/3 of the value of her father’s beach house.  OP clearly doesn’t need to at money, she just wants it.[/quote]

THIS. Just because you have more money that does not mean your greed is any more palatable. OP’s father has buried his wife. He now has at least one daughter anticipating her windfall after his death. I feel sorry for dad.[/quote]

No, OP just wants things to be fair and sees her lazy younger sister moving in for the kill. That's a huge asset and one that I'd be concerned about, too. That type of asset would be life-changing and is sometimes all people have. So, it's not greed to make sure it's shared.[/quote]

People sure turn nasty over what they already consider theirs. Seriously, unless dad is ultra wealthy, paying for elder care may very well force the sale of this house. So OP getting bent out of shape over something that no one in the family may inherit is idiotic.

So, what if the house does get passed down and OP wants to force a sale. What if the house sells for more precisely because of the improvements the sister put in time overseeing? Given OP’s disparaging remarks, I highly doubt she would be magnanimous and give sister credit let alone a little more money for her efforts. OP wants to get the maximum she can with minimal effort.[/quote]

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