Don't Let a Guy Waste Your Most Eligible Years

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Now, of course, he is ready to kill himself over losing the love of his life.

He'll get over that real quick.

His penis will but the head will stay fucked up, as will his wallet.

What bizarre comments. For the record, I (and she) only wish him the best. I'm glad they're not getting married, but jeez, I'll be happy to hear he's moved on.

[Anonymous]

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this is actually not that important (even if true). the key issue here is that, after one is 35, the quality of available men becomes absolutely terrible. it's not about women not looking that good or not being attractive, it's that men who are single at that point are, basically, garbage - either guys whom nobody wanted or guys who have one or another major somewhat hidden issue.

You keep telling yourself this, while you cry yourself to sleep after another dateless weekend. At the same time, these "garbage" men are out banging attractive women in their late 20s and early 30s while you are busy posting on DCUM about how these guys are trash and obviously have something wrong with them.

No one has proposed to you for a reason.

right. i married at 23 and have been married for 20 years now, thanks.

but i do have two close single friends in their forties who are both turning heads attractive (unlike me) and, through them, i know quite a bit about available men out there.

they are in fact garbage. the only objectively good guys are young guys who are simply too young for them - one of my friends is dating one such guy, who is almost 15 younger than her, but at least he is overall a good, capable guy, and attractive, too. more than anything, he is still capable of falling in love and their relationship is romantic. it's almost a normal relationship except that it's not going anywhere. this friend btw was married for 10+ years but is a widow.

the other one is trying to be more pragmatic and is settling aggressively - she has yet to show me a guy that i would consider dating. again, this is a person who is drop dead gorgeous but there is simply nobody left. why didn't she marry in time? that might have involved some less than prudent decision-making... but again, the point is that she is very attractive and attracts men - but basically all quality men her age and even several years younger are already taken.

to reiterate: there is very likely something terribly wrong with any guy who is single at 35 and, and at 40+ this is an absolute certainty. that they are relentlessly "banging attractive xyz" doesn't make them any less (possibly even more) of a trash.

In addition, there is very likely something terribly wrong with any woman who is single at 35, and at 40+ this is an absolute certainty. that they are "drop dead gorgeous" doesn't make them any less (possibly even more ) of a trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what do you do if you're 28 and your bf of 2 years promises to get married but hadn't done anything to prove its going to be a reality?

Tell him that there's no reason to wait to get married, and give him 6 months. Then go. (From a PP who met her husband at 28 and he proposed in 2 years, but I knew all along he meant business. ) Now married with 2 kids at 37.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
this is actually not that important (even if true). the key issue here is that, after one is 35, the quality of available men becomes absolutely terrible. it's not about women not looking that good or not being attractive, it's that men who are single at that point are, basically, garbage - either guys whom nobody wanted or guys who have one or another major somewhat hidden issue.

You keep telling yourself this, while you cry yourself to sleep after another dateless weekend. At the same time, these "garbage" men are out banging attractive women in their late 20s and early 30s while you are busy posting on DCUM about how these guys are trash and obviously have something wrong with them.

No one has proposed to you for a reason.

right. i married at 23 and have been married for 20 years now, thanks.

but i do have two close single friends in their forties who are both turning heads attractive (unlike me) and, through them, i know quite a bit about available men out there.

they are in fact garbage. the only objectively good guys are young guys who are simply too young for them - one of my friends is dating one such guy, who is almost 15 younger than her, but at least he is overall a good, capable guy, and attractive, too. more than anything, he is still capable of falling in love and their relationship is romantic. it's almost a normal relationship except that it's not going anywhere. this friend btw was married for 10+ years but is a widow.

the other one is trying to be more pragmatic and is settling aggressively - she has yet to show me a guy that i would consider dating. again, this is a person who is drop dead gorgeous but there is simply nobody left. why didn't she marry in time? that might have involved some less than prudent decision-making... but again, the point is that she is very attractive and attracts men - but basically all quality men her age and even several years younger are already taken.

to reiterate: there is very likely something terribly wrong with any guy who is single at 35 and, and at 40+ this is an absolute certainty. that they are relentlessly "banging attractive xyz" doesn't make them any less (possibly even more) of a trash.

In addition, there is very likely something terribly wrong with any woman who is single at 35, and at 40+ this is an absolute certainty. that they are "drop dead gorgeous" doesn't make them any less (possibly even more ) of a trash.

Same goes for men. What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
this is actually not that important (even if true). the key issue here is that, after one is 35, the quality of available men becomes absolutely terrible. it's not about women not looking that good or not being attractive, it's that men who are single at that point are, basically, garbage - either guys whom nobody wanted or guys who have one or another major somewhat hidden issue.

You keep telling yourself this, while you cry yourself to sleep after another dateless weekend. At the same time, these "garbage" men are out banging attractive women in their late 20s and early 30s while you are busy posting on DCUM about how these guys are trash and obviously have something wrong with them.

No one has proposed to you for a reason.

right. i married at 23 and have been married for 20 years now, thanks.

but i do have two close single friends in their forties who are both turning heads attractive (unlike me) and, through them, i know quite a bit about available men out there.

they are in fact garbage. the only objectively good guys are young guys who are simply too young for them - one of my friends is dating one such guy, who is almost 15 younger than her, but at least he is overall a good, capable guy, and attractive, too. more than anything, he is still capable of falling in love and their relationship is romantic. it's almost a normal relationship except that it's not going anywhere. this friend btw was married for 10+ years but is a widow.

the other one is trying to be more pragmatic and is settling aggressively - she has yet to show me a guy that i would consider dating. again, this is a person who is drop dead gorgeous but there is simply nobody left. why didn't she marry in time? that might have involved some less than prudent decision-making... but again, the point is that she is very attractive and attracts men - but basically all quality men her age and even several years younger are already taken.

to reiterate: there is very likely something terribly wrong with any guy who is single at 35 and, and at 40+ this is an absolute certainty. that they are relentlessly "banging attractive xyz" doesn't make them any less (possibly even more) of a trash.

In addition, there is very likely something terribly wrong with any woman who is single at 35, and at 40+ this is an absolute certainty. that they are "drop dead gorgeous" doesn't make them any less (possibly even more ) of a trash.

well, perhaps, but the point of the advice was that women need to marry young because men won't be interested in them as they are no more beautiful. but this is not the case, especially for the most attractive ones where the advice is most needed: they will still be able to attract men, but they will no more like the men that they attract as all quality men will be taken.

note that guys are in a very similar situation, actually. some of them will be able to sleep with "hot 20yos" (but so can these women), but they are not really attracting high quality mates (those of their age have been married for decades and young girls who have options are not going to go with much older men).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you do if you're 28 and your bf of 2 years promises to get married but hadn't done anything to prove its going to be a reality?

Tell him that there's no reason to wait to get married, and give him 6 months. Then go. (From a PP who met her husband at 28 and he proposed in 2 years, but I knew all along he meant business. ) Now married with 2 kids at 37.

Tell him you'd like to go ring shopping and set a date. If what he wanted was a romantic surprise engagement, he blew it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also do not move in with a man hoping he will propose. All he is commuting to is a roommate who has sex with him, splits the rent and possibly cleans and cooks for him. Do NOT do it.

I'm a guy and yes, in this day and age, this is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what do you do if you're 28 and your bf of 2 years promises to get married but hadn't done anything to prove its going to be a reality?

Tell him that there's no reason to wait to get married, and give him 6 months. Then go. (From a PP who met her husband at 28 and he proposed in 2 years, but I knew all along he meant business. ) Now married with 2 kids at 37.

Tell him you'd like to go ring shopping and set a date. If what he wanted was a romantic surprise engagement, he blew it.

Well we did a quirky courthouse ceremony last year after dating 1 year and 4 months. We promised each other we'd do a larger ceremony for our families next.

[Anonymous]

Men will not want to commit to marriage/family until they are financially secure. So this takes longer often until 30's nowadays. Women do not have this excuse. If a woman is 35 and single, she failed to attract a commitment from a high-quality man for at least the last 10 years. That's a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men will not want to commit to marriage/family until they are financially secure. So this takes longer often until 30's nowadays. Women do not have this excuse. If a woman is 35 and single, she failed to attract a commitment from a high-quality man for at least the last 10 years. That's a red flag.

huh? perhaps they need a stable job but vast majority of men worth marrying have one by age 30.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you're a woman in her late twenties dating a guy who hasn't proposed what should you do? Dump him?

...you do realize you can propose to him, right?

My wife proposed to me. Same with a lot of my friends who are married. Then again, I'm from California, and we of the West Coast master race aren't saddled with a lot of the hilarious WASP bullshit you guys are, so that might account for the difference.

Oh stop it already. You do realize that women proposing marriage would strip them of their most vital resource: Victimhood.

LOL I love the sad, bitter MRAs. Keep up with the tears while us male feminists continue to marry awesome women, have regular threesomes and other sorts of incredible sex whenever we want because that's way easier with sex-positive feminist women, and generally enjoy life way more than you. The more tears out of you, the less competition for us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most girls I know want to have "adventures" in their twenties, early thirties (by that I mean travel, partying, changing careers, dating lots of different guys, etc.). They don't even want to *think* about marriage until 32-33. Seems valid to me (a man).

Feminism is such a destructive, pernicious ideology. It needs to be hammered down and mocked at every turn. Good wife material does not want to travel and party and fuck different men at 32 years old. And 99% of men would agree.

If you're not a feminist man, you're a lesser-than. Your opinion doesn't count, sparky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most girls I know want to have "adventures" in their twenties, early thirties (by that I mean travel, partying, changing careers, dating lots of different guys, etc.). They don't even want to *think* about marriage until 32-33. Seems valid to me (a man).

Feminism is such a destructive, pernicious ideology. It needs to be hammered down and mocked at every turn. Good wife material does not want to travel and party and fuck different men at 32 years old. And 99% of men would agree.

If you're not a feminist man, you're a lesser-than. Your opinion doesn't count, sparky.

Agreed. If you are a regressive, idiotic dude, no one wants to date you. Therefore, you are irrelevant to considering the opinions of intelligent, eligible men that most women would be interested in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most girls I know want to have "adventures" in their twenties, early thirties (by that I mean travel, partying, changing careers, dating lots of different guys, etc.). They don't even want to *think* about marriage until 32-33. Seems valid to me (a man).

Feminism is such a destructive, pernicious ideology. It needs to be hammered down and mocked at every turn. Good wife material does not want to travel and party and fuck different men at 32 years old. And 99% of men would agree.

If you're not a feminist man, you're a lesser-than. Your opinion doesn't count, sparky.

NP here. Sparky? That's something my grandfather would say. No here's the deal. The misogynist of this thread and others recent threads that have popped up shows he doesn't have the balls to tell a real living breathing female these thoughts. He wouldn't be able to land a night in her pants, so he vomits his batshit crazy backwater ideologies here. Lucky us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Sparky? That's something my grandfather would say.

PP here. I'm 28, so maybe it's cyclical?