Don't Let a Guy Waste Your Most Eligible Years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

[Anonymous]

Get thee to a sperm bank if you just hear your biological clock ticking!

You gals with your plans and schemes will never care how much you hurt other people.

Fast forward and you will regret marrying because of your biological clock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

I call bull. No guy would willingly subject himself to two years without sex just to get back at someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

I call bull. No guy would willingly subject himself to two years without sex just to get back at someone.

I said I wasn't having sex with her. I didn't say I wasn't having sex. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

I call bull. No guy would willingly subject himself to two years without sex just to get back at someone.

I said I wasn't having sex with her. I didn't say I wasn't having sex. Duh.

Riiiight. Cool story bro

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

I call bull. No guy would willingly subject himself to two years without sex just to get back at someone.

I said I wasn't having sex with her. I didn't say I wasn't having sex. Duh.

u mad bro?
Riiiight. Cool story bro

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

You wasted your prime years trying to get even. And a whole year in a sexless relationship with someone you weren't married to. Doesn't sound like she really wanted to marry you or you would have been having sex.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely agreed, and more women would be wise to heed this. Women in their twenties think they'll have the world at their feet forever - they need to start doing the math on a couple of failed 2-year relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

+1

[Anonymous]

Truest post ever. If I have a daughter I will drill this into her head early and often. Definitely do not life together before marriage, ever. Not even while engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's an interesting scenario. I've actually been in a relationship with a woman who was 37 when I was 32. Clearly I had the time advantage on my side (no biological clock, etc.). However, at one point in the relationship she did some really unfair stuff to me (including us going sexless for 1 year). Rather than break up with her, I stuck around for 2 extra years just to make sure she lost something (time) too. Seemed fair to me. I was in no rush to move on and we got along as friends, just our sex life had gone to crap. So I basically waited her out. She realized I wouldn't propose when the sex life didn't come back. And she also realized she was about to turn 39. I feel like it was fair.

Wait. You wasted two years of your life with someone to get even?! Talk about shooting yourself in the foot! I would say you two sound perfect for each other.

Except I was a 32 year old male. I'm now 35. Doing much better on the dating market. My ex hasn't found anyone. JUSTICE WAS SERVED.

??? So you stayed in a sexless relationship for years out of spite??? I think you were on the losing end, dude.

[Anonymous]

And also, college is for getting your MRS degree.

[Anonymous]

I'm a happily married 40 something, and here are my words of wisdom:

1. Two years is the tipping point; get engaged or move on.

2. I lived with my DH before marriage. It's okay as long as the guy loves you and is on the same page regarding marriage and family.

3. Steer clear of men with Mommy issues. If they had a bad childhood and blame their mother, then you should run. Run!

[Anonymous]

This post reflects some fucked up notions about a woman's value. As if physical beauty is the beginning and end of what she has to offer. As if it's a good idea for her to "lock in" a life time with a guy who wouldn't want to be with her if she met him in her 30s. As if it's illegal for her to propose.

Date someone who is kind to you. If you love them, marry them. If they don't want to get married & you do, move on to someone else who is kind to you. Repeat as necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post reflects some fucked up notions about a woman's value. As if physical beauty is the beginning and end of what she has to offer. As if it's a good idea for her to "lock in" a life time with a guy who wouldn't want to be with her if she met him in her 30s. As if it's illegal for her to propose.

Date someone who is kind to you. If you love them, marry them. If they don't want to get married & you do, move on to someone else who is kind to you. Repeat as necessary.

It reflects some women's attitude towards marriage. To each her own. However, I agree that being in a relationship that doesn't evolve the way you want it to is a waste of time and effort.