Why so many single men not interested in dating?

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.

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He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.

He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage

His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.

It worked for the finances involved around Buffet. And his first wife didn't "share" him in a pornographic sense.

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.

+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.

He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage

His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.

If husband is Warren Buffet, many women would gladly share. LOL

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children.Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

It turns out that the 27-32 aren't interested in you! You must not be the catch you think you are...lol

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Well, Buffet’s first wife up and moved to CA and left him. He was (prob still is) a workaholic and seems low in terms of EQ so not sure I’d listen to his marriage advice….

So a man must have all of the money and resources, but he can't be a "workaholic", whatever that means. Childish.

Duh. Thst's what they have been telling you, and you keep arguing. You can have all the money in this world, and women will still get tired if you lack substance.

But you don't want to listen because working like a dog is easier than developing a personality, empathy, and emotional intelligence.

You take relationships from "glass half empty" viewpoint. Why don't you think of them and your marriage from "glass half full" standpoint? That marriage is the practical institute that is meant to raise a family while taking the related risks. That life is long, and things may change. So things need to be considered in the dynamic perspective of whole life, not just what you want at that moment. And never loose yourself in marriage because one you do, you start blaming the spouse for every unsuccesful joint decision (liky buying a 1.7mm house you coulnd't afford)

Glass half full starts with a man who has time to parent with me so that I too can have a career while our children benefit from being taken care of by both parents. A workaholic is a non-starter. I don't need a 1.7mm house, thank you. If I can't have that, the glass is empty no matter how much money is in it.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

I have never seen this? Please show your evidence.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

I have never seen this? Please show your evidence.

This forum. Can you even read?

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

I was in your shoes and dating at 39.

Most of the women in the D.C. area seem to be struggling with one mental illness or another. Don’t need all that extra baggage before a relationship (potentially life-long) even gets started.

Also, from what I encountered, so many American women (at least around here) have other issues, not the least of which are their completely unrealistic expectations of men (their “6-6-6-6” rule, how 90% of women chase the top 5% of men and ignore the rest, etc.).

I lucked out. Married a terrific woman from Europe; one kid off to college in the Fall; another doing exceedingly well in HS. Have advised DS to try to marry a woman who was not raised in the USA.

I don't believe this. And you can't prove it

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.

+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.

He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage

His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.

If husband is Warren Buffet, many women would gladly share. LOL

Yes they would. Women who are interested in polygamy would. And his advice would apply very well to them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.

+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.

He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage

His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.

It worked for the finances involved around Buffet. And his first wife didn't "share" him in a pornographic sense.

She had another woman playing wife to him until she died. She shared him.

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.

+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.

He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage

His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.

If husband is Warren Buffet, many women would gladly share. LOL

Yes they would. Women who are interested in polygamy would. And his advice would apply very well to them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

His advice on selecting long term partner is absolutely sound. He was in long term marriages, regardless how it's framed

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Well, Buffet’s first wife up and moved to CA and left him. He was (prob still is) a workaholic and seems low in terms of EQ so not sure I’d listen to his marriage advice….

So a man must have all of the money and resources, but he can't be a "workaholic", whatever that means. Childish.

Duh. Thst's what they have been telling you, and you keep arguing. You can have all the money in this world, and women will still get tired if you lack substance.

But you don't want to listen because working like a dog is easier than developing a personality, empathy, and emotional intelligence.

You take relationships from "glass half empty" viewpoint. Why don't you think of them and your marriage from "glass half full" standpoint? That marriage is the practical institute that is meant to raise a family while taking the related risks. That life is long, and things may change. So things need to be considered in the dynamic perspective of whole life, not just what you want at that moment. And never loose yourself in marriage because one you do, you start blaming the spouse for every unsuccesful joint decision (liky buying a 1.7mm house you coulnd't afford)

Glass half full starts with a man who has time to parent with me so that I too can have a career while our children benefit from being taken care of by both parents. A workaholic is a non-starter. I don't need a 1.7mm house, thank you. If I can't have that, the glass is empty no matter how much money is in it.

And that's great - you know what you want/need. Nobody tells you should marry Warren Buffet or similar career minded man. Your expectations are reasonable for what you want/need. Everyone who clearly knows what they want and bring to table get partnered.

A 40 yo man making 150K who thinks a 27 yo hot woman making 150K is his match does not have reasonable expectations and therefore he's not partnered. I bet when he was in his 20s he was struggling as well with his age peers women, so there is something more to it, for sure

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Anonymous wrote:It kind of speaks for itself that a thread on why men don’t date anymore devolves into back and forth quibbiling about money and sexy old successful singles calling men (who are presumably qualified to answer the question credibly) incels. There is a deep rot at the heart of gender relations. People are just really really bitter it seems.

We didn't become "sexy successful older singles". First of all, we are not even "singles" and never had been during adult phase of life. We who respond are married, were married, or all in long term relationships. So we base our opinions and recommendations based on our own life experience.

Being married/partnered is one of the most important choice you make in life that determines your mental, physical and financial stability later in life. Read what Warren Buffet thinks about it:

"Warren Buffett views marriage as the most important life and financial decision anyone can make. He emphasizes choosing a partner who inspires self-improvement, applying a pragmatic approach of low expectations rather than looking for a flawless fairytale. Marryng the "Right Person" is the most critical decision of a person's life, which profoundly shapes aspirations, daily habits, and overall success. Also being realistic and having low exceptions of a spouse is also very important"

These men who are single until early 40s clearly didn't follow some of Buffet recommendations and their expectations are not aligned with their target dating group, for whichever reason.

Read up on Warren Buffet’s own marriage.

+1

He is in no position to give advice to modern day women, unless you are into polygamy

Warren Buffett's arrangement was hardly polygamy in the traditional sense. He was married on paper to one woman, but acted married in all other respects to another.

He did fine in life, relative to men who are single until age 41. Attracted 2 women long term, was committed to them, earned a fortune and respect in all areas of his life. Both of his "wives" are hardly sugar babies types but rather someone he respected and who were well integrated into his life in practical sense. I would totally agree with his viewpoint at marriage

His wife left him but did not want to limit her access to his funds so she chose not to divorce. Then she contacted her friend and made her a sister wife. If that is what you are into, then listen to him.

Many women do not want to share their husbands.

If husband is Warren Buffet, many women would gladly share. LOL

Yes they would. Women who are interested in polygamy would. And his advice would apply very well to them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

His advice on selecting long term partner is absolutely sound. He was in long term marriages, regardless how it's framed

Meh.
Long term polygamous or monogamous marriages? I grew up in a country with the former -- these two are not the same. Other than hoarding as much resources as possible for their own children, women do not give an eff about the men in polygamous marriages. Their husbands could drop dead and they would smile as long as he left at least as much pr more inheritance for her children as he did for the other children. Expectations are definitely less though -- no one is investing much in a man they are sharing with other women. So these women are in a way, happier in their marriages because they rely on their communities( of women usially) for support and rely on the men mainly for financial support only.

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

Would you consider a woman with children? Most of my male friends who hit 40 without marriage/kids started dating women with kids so they could have the experience of helping to raise children without being an old dad. Reality is, just like you want someone younger because you want kids, women 27-32 are going to want around their same age for having kids as sperm quality does decrease with age and you'll be 43-44ish at the minimum by the time you find someone, get married, and start TTC.

Even my very wealthy and fit male friends over 40 mostly date women their age with children.

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children.Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

It turns out that the 27-32 aren't interested in you! You must not be the catch you think you are...lol

I’ve been cackling about this post in particular since yesterday. I have vivid memories of being hit on by these types of guys in my 20s. I found it so gross haha. These guys are always so bitter and weird and it shines through, and then they are confused about why they’re having trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

I have never seen this? Please show your evidence.

This forum. Can you even read?

Apparently only sling insults. Show me the posts where women say that.

Prove that you can READ and comprehend ( doubt it)