Why so many single men not interested in dating?

[Anonymous]

Two nephews through marriage, both late 30s, never married, no girlfriends, both have lived with women. Think one is still figuring out his sexuality. The other has substance abuse issues. They are also far right and from what I can tell, women usually don't want red pill manosphere types.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

Oh, like a relative who wants a woman who looks like a model, earns at least $150,000, and will have dinner ready every night when he gets home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

This is largely projection from walled women. You’d be surprised how men respond to basic respect and interest from their looksmatch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No they are looking for a patsy to dominate and take advantage of.

This is exactly why a lot of the good ones don’t date. because They are already stereotyped before anyone gets to know them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??

You answered your own question in the boldface.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The lack of feminine women is a disincentive. No man wants to get involved with a nutty liberal feminist. Those who do are settling for lack of better options. Yes DCUM this means you. You'll never find out how your whipped husbands feel because they are not allowed to have their own opinions.

Whatever are you prattling on about

-- A guy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

Oh, like a relative who wants a woman who looks like a model, earns at least $150,000, and will have dinner ready every night when he gets home?

Because no woman has ever seen said that she wants a 677 man?

[Anonymous]

Two numbers, ave and dress size, quickly reveal why men are not bothering with dating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

I was in your shoes and dating at 39.

Most of the women in the D.C. area seem to be struggling with one mental illness or another. Don’t need all that extra baggage before a relationship (potentially life-long) even gets started.

Also, from what I encountered, so many American women (at least around here) have other issues, not the least of which are their completely unrealistic expectations of men (their “6-6-6-6” rule, how 90% of women chase the top 5% of men and ignore the rest, etc.).

I lucked out. Married a terrific woman from Europe; one kid off to college in the Fall; another doing exceedingly well in HS. Have advised DS to try to marry a woman who was not raised in the USA.

Were you already divorced with kids when you were dating at 39? Or you had your kids with your European wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

8-10 women are exceedingly rare in DC. Exceedingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??

The obvious answer is there is simply not enough value in it for them.

[Anonymous]

gaming addiction

[Anonymous]

It's often said women don't "need" men anymore because they can support themselves economically.

But I think it's also true that men don't "need" women anymore to help maintain a home. With modern appliances and cheap dry cleaning/laundry services, meal prep services and relatively cheap takeout options, there's less of a "need" for a woman in the traditional role.

I think this partially explains why women and men are dating less, having less sex, marrying less and having fewer children.

[Anonymous]

A man needs a woman like a fish needs a bicycle.

There are a million ways to get sexual release without dealing with the crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. [i]I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

The highlighted is the key. Date your age or work with a shrink/sex therapist why you can't get it up with women your own age group. There are plenty of fit women in their late 30s and early 40s in my gym.

Younger women don't want you much older men! They are attracted to the likes/men their age.