Why so many single men not interested in dating?

[Anonymous]

I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??

[Anonymous]

I'm one of those. At first, I wanted a new relationship immediately, just as it's always been. Then, the longer I've gone without one, the less I can tolerate the women I have met by dating.

I was still dating but it's like a string of 50 first dates in the last 5 years. I enjoy my peace now without having to answer to anyone while doing whatever I want

[Anonymous]

I'm seeing this as well. Some people will of course say all the men in my circles are dating or married blah blah ...But I think on average it's true that compared to say 20 years ago there are significantly more men over the age of 35 who are not only single, but are not even looking for a partner. It's not uncommon at all to see a 40 years old man who has never been married and has no children.

It seems that women are more intentional about dating. They are genuinely looking for a partner.

[Anonymous]

No they are looking for a patsy to dominate and take advantage of.

[Anonymous]

Because women are getting more selective.

[Anonymous]

The milk is free, why buy it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm seeing a lot of men over 35 who have never been married, have no kids and/or are divorced, but have no interest whatsoever in dating. And there is nothing wrong with these men. They are employed, their mental health is okay, they just want to remain single. Why??

As you get older you become even more confident about what you (don't) want and even less flexible to accommodate another person's foibles. Basically if you made it to 35+ happily unmarried, why would you change what's working for you?

[Anonymous]

Novelty wears off from women and relationships + T levels drop. As a young man (virgin) the only thing I could think about was wanting a girlfriend and getting laid. Now after several female partners and marriage, I still like female company but realize that being single has a lot of advantages. I’m divorced and definitely won’t want to get married again, and most older women don’t really appeal to me physically. Could I get a younger woman who I’m attracted to for casual relationship? Not easily and this is the case for most men 35+. Women our age become less appealing over time and most of us can’t pull the hot 25 year old.

[Anonymous]

I always assumed they are able to hookup which fulfills that need, without having to introduce further complexities to their life.

[Anonymous]

Video game addiction

-married for two decades with three kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Video game addiction

-married for two decades with three kids

I have a 25 years old with a master's degree in aerospace engineering who has never had a job and pretending to be looking for one. He sure does have some time for video games. We suggested therapy for him, but he says he doesn't need it. We think he does. It's very abnormal, strange and weird to be this age and just hand out at home. The only explanation is mental health issue. We can't throw him out, but he needs to man up! We are not from this country but our son was here and this is really strange for us. I came here on full scholarship when I was 17. Starting at 15 I did all the research myself, contacted universities etc.

Maybe there is a male crisis going on??? Our daughter is the complete opposite. Extremely driven and competitive. She is a second year med student.

[Anonymous]

It’s why society used to prioritize no premarital sex and early marriage. It stabilizes society and nuclear families. Regular sex is very valuable to a male under 25.

[Anonymous]

Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

I was in your shoes and dating at 39.

Most of the women in the D.C. area seem to be struggling with one mental illness or another. Don’t need all that extra baggage before a relationship (potentially life-long) even gets started.

Also, from what I encountered, so many American women (at least around here) have other issues, not the least of which are their completely unrealistic expectations of men (their “6-6-6-6” rule, how 90% of women chase the top 5% of men and ignore the rest, etc.).

I lucked out. Married a terrific woman from Europe; one kid off to college in the Fall; another doing exceedingly well in HS. Have advised DS to try to marry a woman who was not raised in the USA.

[Anonymous]

Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.