Widower with three kids - am I crazy?
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Anonymous
| Yay! Thanks for the update, OP!!! |
Anonymous
| Congratulations OP!! That’s awesome. |
Anonymous
| Fantastic news OP. I think you said that he has three children, how have they responded to your being around? Do they all seem to be okay or is anyone going to be a challenge. When you were on vacation did you share a room with the dad and were there any issues? I’m dating a divorced guy with two children and I’m trying to figure things out. |
Anonymous
| I would be excited. Nice guy, no crazy divorce problems. |
Anonymous
Agree, I’m sure there are emotional issues but time helps. OP seems to be taking this very carefully and not rushing into it. Regardless, it’s a big task going from being single to being married with three stepchildren. |
Anonymous
OP here - they have been very sweet with me but it did take extra time for the oldest to get there but that is no surprise. I really let them get comfortable with me rather than trying to force affection. On our first vacation together I shared an adjoining room with the two older children but we shared a room on the second vacation and it was fine. There were no funny looks or questions and and we kept the door open. I do not spend the night at their home. |
Anonymous
OP, it seems you did this right. I'm so happy for you and the family you are merging with!! |
Anonymous
| Sounds great OP! Just wanted to share a story: recently met a new friend/acquaintance of my MILs, a very nice elderly woman. She told us she had 7 children! She was obviously very proud of them, shared about her kids and grandkids, and we met a few that were there at the same event. There was obviously a lot of affection in that family. Someone made a comment about how hard physically it must have been to have seven, and she shared "well I only gave birth to one of them. I married a widower with 6 kids!" Wow! She went your route, but with even more kids. She was very happy, so it all worked out well in her situation. |
Anonymous
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Great news!
You may want to just go get the blood work done for fertility, just so you have a frame of reference. |
Anonymous
| He is an asshole. No way shoukd he ever have introduced his kids to you at this point. Run. You are in for it. |
Anonymous
Huh - have you read this thread? |
Anonymous
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Congratulations!! Such a nice story.
Best of luck to you all! |
Anonymous
| Hey OP it’s been well over a year now, what’s up? |
Anonymous
OP updated three months ago. |
Anonymous
NP ... but now we want another update. |