Widower with three kids - am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP it’s been well over a year now, what’s up?

OP updated three months ago.

NP ... but now we want another update.

+1 I could use some good news.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you genuinely like kids, give it a chance and see how it goes. If I did not enjoy kids, I would not go out with him again. But I love kids, and would be perfectly happy to have 3 kids who need a mom just show up on my doorstop--even better if they came with a great guy. It's definitely a personal decision.

I’m a single dad with two kids who need a mom. In several years of dating I’ve never met someone who could write what you did. I always need to apologize for having kids. Basically.

You sound very nice. I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you genuinely like kids, give it a chance and see how it goes. If I did not enjoy kids, I would not go out with him again. But I love kids, and would be perfectly happy to have 3 kids who need a mom just show up on my doorstop--even better if they came with a great guy. It's definitely a personal decision.

I’m a single dad with two kids who need a mom. In several years of dating I’ve never met someone who could write what you did. I always need to apologize for having kids. Basically.

You sound very nice. I wish you the best.

I wish i could meet a single dad who needed a mom to fill the space... wishing there were an app for this. Tinder and Bumble are so creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you genuinely like kids, give it a chance and see how it goes. If I did not enjoy kids, I would not go out with him again. But I love kids, and would be perfectly happy to have 3 kids who need a mom just show up on my doorstop--even better if they came with a great guy. It's definitely a personal decision.

I’m a single dad with two kids who need a mom. In several years of dating I’ve never met someone who could write what you did. I always need to apologize for having kids. Basically.

You sound very nice. I wish you the best.

I wish i could meet a single dad who needed a mom to fill the space... wishing there were an app for this. Tinder and Bumble are so creepy.

I’d sign up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you genuinely like kids, give it a chance and see how it goes. If I did not enjoy kids, I would not go out with him again. But I love kids, and would be perfectly happy to have 3 kids who need a mom just show up on my doorstop--even better if they came with a great guy. It's definitely a personal decision.

I’m a single dad with two kids who need a mom. In several years of dating I’ve never met someone who could write what you did. I always need to apologize for having kids. Basically.

You sound very nice. I wish you the best.

I wish i could meet a single dad who needed a mom to fill the space... wishing there were an app for this. Tinder and Bumble are so creepy.

I’d sign up!

The two of you need to create an account on DCUM, and DM each other. You never know!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you genuinely like kids, give it a chance and see how it goes. If I did not enjoy kids, I would not go out with him again. But I love kids, and would be perfectly happy to have 3 kids who need a mom just show up on my doorstop--even better if they came with a great guy. It's definitely a personal decision.

I’m a single dad with two kids who need a mom. In several years of dating I’ve never met someone who could write what you did. I always need to apologize for having kids. Basically.

You sound very nice. I wish you the best.

I wish i could meet a single dad who needed a mom to fill the space... wishing there were an app for this. Tinder and Bumble are so creepy.

I’d sign up!

The two of you need to create an account on DCUM, and DM each other. You never know!!

Sounds like a good idea, but I wouldn't want to seem creepy.

[Anonymous]

Being a space filler sounds off putting.

[Anonymous]

Late 40's widower with three kids here: 18, 15, and 13. Any prospective stepmoms looking for any instant family?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Late 40's widower with three kids here: 18, 15, and 13. Any prospective stepmoms looking for any instant family?

You’ll have better luck when you become an empty nester and have fully funded 529’s!

[Anonymous]

Beware Beware Beware!

Anyone seriously thinking about taking on a relationship with someone with kids, you need to read up and get educated. There is no such thing as the Brady Bunch. No matter how good your intentions are and how hard you try there is a SERIOUS likelihood that the relationship will fail.

This is especially true for women who get involved with men who have daughters. While it is better for boys, statistically, less than 20% of stepdaughters will fully accept another woman in their father's life. This can happen even with adult daughters. Girls tend to have huge loyalty/territory binds over their mothers, either alive or deceased.

If I had to do it over again, I would not have had a relationship with someone with kids. Even when they adult, there are problems - including grandkids.

[Anonymous]

^ what kinds of problems with grandkids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beware Beware Beware!

Anyone seriously thinking about taking on a relationship with someone with kids, you need to read up and get educated. There is no such thing as the Brady Bunch. No matter how good your intentions are and how hard you try there is a SERIOUS likelihood that the relationship will fail.

This is especially true for women who get involved with men who have daughters. While it is better for boys, statistically, less than 20% of stepdaughters will fully accept another woman in their father's life. This can happen even with adult daughters. Girls tend to have huge loyalty/territory binds over their mothers, either alive or deceased.

If I had to do it over again, I would not have had a relationship with someone with kids. Even when they adult, there are problems - including grandkids.

Do you scream when you look in the mirror because someone is staring at you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but it wouldn't be for me. I'd be worried that all he is looking for is a mother for his kids and I would have to give up my life.

Totally this! Find a childfree guy. This is just to much baggage. No way!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, but it wouldn't be for me. I'd be worried that all he is looking for is a mother for his kids and I would have to give up my life.

Totally this! Find a childfree guy. This is just to much baggage. No way!

Sure, 40+ never married? 40+ divorced? Trust me they have baggage that is between their ears.

[Anonymous]

You really better be into kids to get involved with this guy. That will be your life. As a single unencumbered woman, you should be able to find a better match for you lifestyle. Your former life will cease to exist and you will miss it. Find a guy more like you and build a life together. This guys life is already determined in a lot of ways and you will be the one to have to change to accommodate him and HIS responsibilities. I think you would regret this after newness wears off. Good luck!