Widower with three kids - am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP! It's been a year since we've had an update. How was the wedding? How are you guys doing? I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks about you and wishing you the best!

I think about OP from time to time, too. Wishing you and yours well.

+1

[Anonymous]

NP. Those of you who assume this must be fake:

- a good friend is living this scenario; only difference is the birth mother is divorced instead of dead.

Hubby, 3 kids, and new wife all happy many years later. Yes, it’s possible to become an “instant mom” in your 30s.

As to OP: I wouldn’t blame her if she never came back here again; many of the replies were really mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 38, single and never married as I've never met the right guy plus I've let my career and geographic moves get in my way. Two years ago through business I met a great very successful young guy raising three children age 10 and under. Through business we've spent a good amount of time together and I've gotten to know a lot about his life but it's always been very business focused but friendly. Last Saturday morning I needed to drop some papers off at his house and he then invited me to stay for lunch with his kids and then to attend his youngest's soccer game and this extended on to an early dinner with his family. He and the children all gave me a hug when I left and all the way home I was wondering could this be something. The next day I sent him a text thanking him for a special day and he texted back and said it was special for them as well. So tonight we are going on a date. Am I completely crazy to get involved? How do you go from being alone to be being involved with a pretty big family? I don't even have a pet! I know I'm getting well ahead of myself but I really like him yet I'm nervous that it could be far more than I can handle.

If you are 120 percent against having your own kids then great! If you want kids - double down in your own (other) dating options.

[Anonymous]

My maternal grandmother married my widowed grandpa. My mom was 6 and her mother 32 with 3 young kids when she passed away from ovarian cancer.

My grandma took on 3 kids under 6 and went on to have one with my grandpa. She was a wonderful and caring woman and I did not even know until high school that she was not my 'biological' grandma. You could not tell that one child was her biological and the rest were step-children. Her love was huge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. Those of you who assume this must be fake:

- a good friend is living this scenario; only difference is the birth mother is divorced instead of dead.

Hubby, 3 kids, and new wife all happy many years later. Yes, it’s possible to become an “instant mom” in your 30s.

As to OP: I wouldn’t blame her if she never came back here again; many of the replies were really mean.

Folks, please read the thread - it's from 2018.

The OP has come back a few times to update. She actually married the guy. We just like her story and appreciate the updates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. Those of you who assume this must be fake:

- a good friend is living this scenario; only difference is the birth mother is divorced instead of dead.

Hubby, 3 kids, and new wife all happy many years later. Yes, it’s possible to become an “instant mom” in your 30s.

As to OP: I wouldn’t blame her if she never came back here again; many of the replies were really mean.

Yes, it does happen, but this story it's fake, it's the pattern of the storytelling that points to it being fake not the subject matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Those of you who assume this must be fake:

- a good friend is living this scenario; only difference is the birth mother is divorced instead of dead.

Hubby, 3 kids, and new wife all happy many years later. Yes, it’s possible to become an “instant mom” in your 30s.

As to OP: I wouldn’t blame her if she never came back here again; many of the replies were really mean.

Folks, please read the thread - it's from 2018.

The OP has come back a few times to update. She actually married the guy. We just like her story and appreciate the updates.

+1. Her and bobcat girl, and Uber driver all have nice stories. It’s nice to hear from them sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Was there ever an update from Bobcat Girl? What's the Uber driver? I must've missed that one. Bobcat Girl's original thread was how I got hooked on this site.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was there ever an update from Bobcat Girl? What's the Uber driver? I must've missed that one. Bobcat Girl's original thread was how I got hooked on this site.

Bobcat girl married
Uber driver did a long AMA and was on a hustle — I think he married too.
OP married the widow and things went well, everyone gave her advice on how to engage with kids.


The link is somewhere in here.

**the best of dcum**
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/433826.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Those of you who assume this must be fake:

- a good friend is living this scenario; only difference is the birth mother is divorced instead of dead.

Hubby, 3 kids, and new wife all happy many years later. Yes, it’s possible to become an “instant mom” in your 30s.

As to OP: I wouldn’t blame her if she never came back here again; many of the replies were really mean.

Folks, please read the thread - it's from 2018.

The OP has come back a few times to update. She actually married the guy. We just like her story and appreciate the updates.

+1. Her and bobcat girl, and Uber driver all have nice stories. It’s nice to hear from them sometimes.

+1 I'm invested.