Widower with three kids - am I crazy?
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Anonymous
| I'm 38, single and never married as I've never met the right guy plus I've let my career and geographic moves get in my way. Two years ago through business I met a great very successful young guy raising three children age 10 and under. Through business we've spent a good amount of time together and I've gotten to know a lot about his life but it's always been very business focused but friendly. Last Saturday morning I needed to drop some papers off at his house and he then invited me to stay for lunch with his kids and then to attend his youngest's soccer game and this extended on to an early dinner with his family. He and the children all gave me a hug when I left and all the way home I was wondering could this be something. The next day I sent him a text thanking him for a special day and he texted back and said it was special for them as well. So tonight we are going on a date. Am I completely crazy to get involved? How do you go from being alone to be being involved with a pretty big family? I don't even have a pet! I know I'm getting well ahead of myself but I really like him yet I'm nervous that it could be far more than I can handle. |
Anonymous
| Just go with it. If it's right you'll know soon enough and if it's not, you'll know soon enough. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| Hmm. If you were four years older I'd say go for it (I am 42). But do you live in DC? At 38, in DC, there are still a lot of single men with no kids you could date. Maybe go out with him and see where it goes but don't cut off other options for a while. |
Anonymous
| Like anything, it depends. Some situations like this could be wonderful and others not as good. Be honest and see what happens. |
Anonymous
This! Be open and relaxed. It’ll evolve naturally if it’s going anywhere. Good luck! |
Anonymous
| One thing you have going for you is that you have already met his children and they like you. My guess is that that's one of the reasons he has asked you out. If you do get involved with him your life will change immensely and it won't be easy. |
Anonymous
| I'm sorry, but it wouldn't be for me. I'd be worried that all he is looking for is a mother for his kids and I would have to give up my life. |
Anonymous
You’re weird. Go for it, OP. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s a red flag he’s already introduced you to his kids and had you spend that much time with them. |
Anonymous
| Whatever you do, be very kind to his children. They have been through a lot. |
Anonymous
I agree this is the main part that concerns me. |
Anonymous
Just do your diligence! I know a widowed woman w triplets who married a widow w two kids. And a widow two kids who married and had another kid . Life!! |
Anonymous
| you needed to drop some papers off at his house and it turned into an all day multi-event thing with his kids and family? sounds a bit awkward... |
Anonymous
She said she had to drop something for business off at his house. Since he's a single dad the kids were there and he introduced them. Pretty easy to understand as they were business friends. |
Anonymous
It does sound awkward but it also sounds pretty nice. But given OP has a friendship I can see it happening. |