Wife Goes Silent on Work Travel

[Anonymous]

Keep posting OP.

I think your wife is sketchy as hell and something is probably up.

Regardless of what’s going or not going on, it is highly abnormal to be so indifferent towards your spouse, and almost disordered for a mother to be so indifferent towards her kids. I know you are focusing on you in your posts OP, and trying to figure out what she’s up to. Yes, that’s a big issue, but I’m way more concerned over the fact that a mother seems to have no desire to communicate with her children or has no empathy for the fact that children might want to speak to or at least hear from their mom. That’s mind blowing. Personality disorder territory.

[Anonymous]

Frequent flyer here.

Sounds like she's making up more stories. First, if she flew in business class (long flight, business trip, so likely) then there are always USB charging ports in every seat. Second, if her phone was low on batteries, then it should be fine now and she can call/text.

Third, it's Valentine's Day. She "missed her flight" to be with her AP. Wouldn't a normal person try extra hard to get back on time if it's V-day?

I get that OP didn't want to give exact details so that's why LA and Atlanta were interchanged. Regardless, if OP's DW really did miss an afternoon flight, there is most certainly another flight later that evening. On top of that, it's the low season (February) and mid-week, so it's not a busy time for flights -- they aren't all full.

[Anonymous]

Almost every time I'm in national or Dulles I bump into someone I know. If she wants to hide a relationship she will avoid contact with the other person while she is in the airport. I don't think airport stalking will reveal anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I'm laughing at the thought of people researching flights and destinations solely to hunt for lies.

Do any of you actually think I was going to paint a yellow brick road to my house?

I've given you the relevant concept and pertinent details. Whether she is in Helsinki or Houston is irrelevant.

Deep down I know you don't care.

Should I stop sharing this event?

You're a tool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep posting OP.

I think your wife is sketchy as hell and something is probably up.

Regardless of what’s going or not going on, it is highly abnormal to be so indifferent towards your spouse, and almost disordered for a mother to be so indifferent towards her kids. I know you are focusing on you in your posts OP, and trying to figure out what she’s up to. Yes, that’s a big issue, but I’m way more concerned over the fact that a mother seems to have no desire to communicate with her children or has no empathy for the fact that children might want to speak to or at least hear from their mom. That’s mind blowing. Personality disorder territory.

OP here.

That's a lot of it. I don't like the indifference and silent treatment but it's most unpleasant watching my oldest catch on to the selfishness. He's becoming aware of things like that, just now at 13. It's all sloppy, whatever it is. I can handle divorce and split custody. What I can't handle is walking around the school or my kid's swim team knowing that everyone else thinks my wife is screwing another man. I see these folks at Bradlee every week. I've had too much scotch. going to bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep posting OP.

I think your wife is sketchy as hell and something is probably up.

Regardless of what’s going or not going on, it is highly abnormal to be so indifferent towards your spouse, and almost disordered for a mother to be so indifferent towards her kids. I know you are focusing on you in your posts OP, and trying to figure out what she’s up to. Yes, that’s a big issue, but I’m way more concerned over the fact that a mother seems to have no desire to communicate with her children or has no empathy for the fact that children might want to speak to or at least hear from their mom. That’s mind blowing. Personality disorder territory.

OP here.

That's a lot of it. I don't like the indifference and silent treatment but it's most unpleasant watching my oldest catch on to the selfishness. He's becoming aware of things like that, just now at 13. It's all sloppy, whatever it is. I can handle divorce and split custody. What I can't handle is walking around the school or my kid's swim team knowing that everyone else thinks my wife is screwing another man. I see these folks at Bradlee every week. I've had too much scotch. going to bed.

I knew a woman like that years ago. Had 2 kids and basically ignored them. She focused on her career and her hobbies, but never her kids. It's weird because you figure mothers have that ingrained maternal instinct, but now and then there's an exception.

[Anonymous]

The facts don’t really matter at this point (and I believe the general points, fwiw). What has been described is a real phenomenon. I’ve lived through it with my wife. It happens, people. Yes, she lost interest in the marriage. And yes, she was cheating. And as a man I felt I was compelled to divorce her because once your wife cheats on you, that’s game over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

They always stay in Hiltons overseas. It's part of the contract. They all have wifi. They don't share rooms. I see zero reason why she can't spend 3 minutes at the end of the day saying hello, I'm safe, tell the kids I love them.

Reading the responses has me depressed. I just needed a gut check to see if my concerns were legit. I'm gonna have a long talk when she gets home.

Yikes. She won't facetime her kids at a Hilton??? Super suspicious. She's not in some third world country remote place. Sure wifi can be spotty even at some Hiltons abroad, but that she doesn't even try is odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something is amiss. Where does Atlanta fit in??? Confused. OP, are you lying to us?

Yeah op! I read the entire thread. Now I'm sensing TROLL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep posting OP.

I think your wife is sketchy as hell and something is probably up.

Regardless of what’s going or not going on, it is highly abnormal to be so indifferent towards your spouse, and almost disordered for a mother to be so indifferent towards her kids. I know you are focusing on you in your posts OP, and trying to figure out what she’s up to. Yes, that’s a big issue, but I’m way more concerned over the fact that a mother seems to have no desire to communicate with her children or has no empathy for the fact that children might want to speak to or at least hear from their mom. That’s mind blowing. Personality disorder territory.

OP here.

That's a lot of it. I don't like the indifference and silent treatment but it's most unpleasant watching my oldest catch on to the selfishness. He's becoming aware of things like that, just now at 13. It's all sloppy, whatever it is. I can handle divorce and split custody. What I can't handle is walking around the school or my kid's swim team knowing that everyone else thinks my wife is screwing another man. I see these folks at Bradlee every week. I've had too much scotch. going to bed.[/quote

See. Told you OP divulges way too much info. Again, my vote is for clandestine work. Personality compliments such a trade, too.

[Anonymous]

By the way. There are a lot of people that do intense work that requires psychological compartmentalization. I would assume behaviors like OPs to be normal for those that are married. You see similar behaviors for law enforcement officers witnesses traumatic deaths. Everyone processes things differently. I think the easiest answer is cheating, but it isn't always the accurate answer. Proceed with caution OP. You don't like in middle america, you live in metro DC, this is not business travel for a manufacturing plant that is supporting local agriculture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I'm laughing at the thought of people researching flights and destinations solely to hunt for lies.

Do any of you actually think I was going to paint a yellow brick road to my house?

I've given you the relevant concept and pertinent details. Whether she is in Helsinki or Houston is irrelevant.

Deep down I know you don't care.

Should I stop sharing this event?

When I posted that i had paid to have sex with 250+ women, people didn't believe it either. Because DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Frequent flyer here.

Sounds like she's making up more stories. First, if she flew in business class (long flight, business trip, so likely) then there are always USB charging ports in every seat. Second, if her phone was low on batteries, then it should be fine now and she can call/text.

Third, it's Valentine's Day. She "missed her flight" to be with her AP. Wouldn't a normal person try extra hard to get back on time if it's V-day?

I get that OP didn't want to give exact details so that's why LA and Atlanta were interchanged. Regardless, if OP's DW really did miss an afternoon flight, there is most certainly another flight later that evening. On top of that, it's the low season (February) and mid-week, so it's not a busy time for flights -- they aren't all full.

Seriously? You'd be surprised how many people treat it as just another day really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frequent flyer here.

Sounds like she's making up more stories. First, if she flew in business class (long flight, business trip, so likely) then there are always USB charging ports in every seat. Second, if her phone was low on batteries, then it should be fine now and she can call/text.

Third, it's Valentine's Day. She "missed her flight" to be with her AP. Wouldn't a normal person try extra hard to get back on time if it's V-day?

I get that OP didn't want to give exact details so that's why LA and Atlanta were interchanged. Regardless, if OP's DW really did miss an afternoon flight, there is most certainly another flight later that evening. On top of that, it's the low season (February) and mid-week, so it's not a busy time for flights -- they aren't all full.

Seriously? You'd be surprised how many people treat it as just another day really.

OP here. She called at 6am and explained that she had been bumped rather than missed it. Claims the rest of her team made that flight so she was alone. But, she didn't call until the morning? Why not from the hotel the entire night? I did ask her that point blank and she was defensive and insulted. I did not accuse her of an affair or even ask if there were men with her. She took offense to me wondering why she didn't contact me after she "literally just flew around the world".

I'm calling BS when she gets back. I was just single-parenting it with little kids for two weeks and she thinks its 'out of bounds' to question her because she sat in a plane seat drinking wine, watching movies and eating food brought to her on a platter. which is more difficult? My two weeks or hers?

I think she protests too much.

Honestly, if theres an affair its a betrayal of course but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life.

Obviously, whatever efidence may be in her luggage wil only certainy be gone by the time she gets home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Frequent flyer here.

Sounds like she's making up more stories. First, if she flew in business class (long flight, business trip, so likely) then there are always USB charging ports in every seat. Second, if her phone was low on batteries, then it should be fine now and she can call/text.

Third, it's Valentine's Day. She "missed her flight" to be with her AP. Wouldn't a normal person try extra hard to get back on time if it's V-day?

I get that OP didn't want to give exact details so that's why LA and Atlanta were interchanged. Regardless, if OP's DW really did miss an afternoon flight, there is most certainly another flight later that evening. On top of that, it's the low season (February) and mid-week, so it's not a busy time for flights -- they aren't all full.

Seriously? You'd be surprised how many people treat it as just another day really.

OP here. She called at 6am and explained that she had been bumped rather than missed it. Claims the rest of her team made that flight so she was alone. But, she didn't call until the morning? Why not from the hotel the entire night? I did ask her that point blank and she was defensive and insulted. I did not accuse her of an affair or even ask if there were men with her. She took offense to me wondering why she didn't contact me after she "literally just flew around the world".

I'm calling BS when she gets back. I was just single-parenting it with little kids for two weeks and she thinks its 'out of bounds' to question her because she sat in a plane seat drinking wine, watching movies and eating food brought to her on a platter. which is more difficult? My two weeks or hers?

I think she protests too much.

Honestly, if theres an affair its a betrayal of course but mostly I'm seething that she thinks I'm some sort of support staff for her life.

Obviously, whatever efidence may be in her luggage wil only certainy be gone by the time she gets home

I still think there is a strong possibility for valid work absences, but I also think she's hiding something else, and most likely - cheating. I'm sorry OP.